I've been using okcupid for over a year now but over the past week I've gotten really into it since I've moved to DC and there's a huge chick market. Still though, I've sent 50+ messages and lots of girls will look at my profile but not reply. My messages are usually 3 to 4 sentences max, have some sort of sarcastic remark or humor in them and involve something from her profile.

Every so often I'll get a hot chick interested but I'm about to give up and try another site. Girls just don't respond. Anyone have experience with okcupid and know what to do?

Here's my POF profile which is pretty much the same format on okcupid. I don't know how to link my okcupid profile since it doesn't use a profile ID.

Just wondering if my profile is somewhat ok or how to spice it up if its boring
http://www.pof.com/viewprofile.aspx?profile_id=24389332

Hi

I don't know about ok cupid but how is it that your pictures are tagged with Pof logo? I see some girl profile with it sometime and i always wondered why it was there because it usually means smaller pics than usual with crappy resolution.

I don't know where the cities you mention are but if you state you gonna move away in a month, they might just don't bother for such short time perspective (even if they don't look for long relationship)

don't take it personally my man, girls never reply on okcupid, I don't know why lol

Oh yes they do. Below was from back in Feb when I was actually gaming on cupid a lot.....




OP:
Your profile is just too afc. Crop the photo's with the girls. Make it so it looks like you're just trying to show yourself, but if when they look closely (And they will) they'll be abler to see you were with women, Posting a picture of you with about four chicks is obvious you're trying to show off. Women are not that stupid, they're pretty adept at figuring guys out. Especially cuter women.

Your profile is AFC, You say, :i have a great sense of humor" Don't say that; your profile should show you have great sense of humor by being "funny" in your profile.

Lose the graduation pic. It's nice you're a college grad. Show it in your writing. Again, with good grammar and punctuation, like a college grad, women will figure it out.

I work in IT myself. Don't say what you do for a living. Leave a little hint that creates mystery. For example, on my profile I just say, "Evil Genius". My title once read, "Accepting applications for Evil Genius Sidekick". I got tons of unsolicited messages inquiring wtf I really do for a living.

Your pics look too "try hard". One graduated, one with a football that reads, :showing the girls in my hall how to throw a football, another group shot where it is difficult to tell who you are in the pic. In group pics you should be at the center of attention or crop it. If you crop it, women will still be able to tell you have friends, but it looks like you're just trying to post pics of you, and not showing off your friends.

Leave the orange bowl photo, that is good. A larger version would be better, though. On the football pic, keep it (Again a larger image would be better) in the title put something more modest like, "showing my nephew hot to throw a spiral". That's a title that women would eat up.

So in short:
- crop women and friend pics.
- get a good head shot from the mid-torso up with a good smile. (so women get a good idea what you really look like). You appear to be a decent looking guy with good teeth. Show that off on your main pic to sell yourself.
- lose graduation pic
- change title on football pic
- keep orange bowl pic
- try to upload larger images. It looks like they were taken from a crappy cell phone. If you have larger images it looks like they're taken from a nicer digital camera.

You're trying to DHV in your pics, but it's too obvious. Be subtle and leave DHV hints that are not so obvious.

Here's some of the ways I DHV in pics, and keep it subtle:
- pics all come from (or look like) a good high-end digital camera. Women notice that.
- crop friends out, but leave enough so women can see they were there. but it looks like I tried to crop it to show only me.
- good grammar, punctuation, and well written body of the main profile. Women notice that. Take the time and pull out a grammar book if you need to. Use a lot complex phrases properly punctuated with commas, colons, and semi-colons. That will show you are educated without mentioning the fact you are.
- background in pics. I actually have one pic on my profile that is a full-body mirror shot. I know people say they suck... BUT I just took it in my living room really quick to show off my condo in the background. From looking at it, women can tell I have a huge plasma TV and nice furniture, in a nice place.. I don't have to talk about it in my profile. Women notice details like that...[/img]

PoF used to tag the photos a few years back. The reason behind tagging photos is to fend off trolls and assholes. For example, if I didn't like someone.. I could download their PoF photos, and post them on gay dating site along with their name. That way when people google the name, one google hit will be a pic of the person on a ga dating site. Everyone would think the person is gay, and they'd be embarrassed. In short it's called getting pwned on the the Internet.

When they're tagged with a logo, it's obvious the pics were downloaded from a person's dating profile. I have know idea why PoF stopped tagging them. Probably because there are so many photos on PoF now.

Back when they were tagged, I remember there were on average, on a peak time, about 150K users. Now it's more than doubled. So I think that might be why they quit tagging them...Just a speculation though....

Totally forgot about the titles, I left that there from a few years ago. Totally AFC ..oops. As for pics, the graduation one is my most recent. I don't have that many recent "good" photos. I stay away from self taken/mirror photos too so I guess my only option is to go get some professional photos taken when I get some money.

Personally, I would delete and re-upload those photos. With the tag, you can easily identify that they are OLD. No one wants to evaluate someone on old photos. When I look at a girl with old photos, I believe they are hiding something (i.e. they're FAT now) and will likely not even message her if I see FP (fat potential).

I thought the pic with the girls would be a DHV if anything. I thought it played off the theory of pre-selection. I'm confused on this one. You're not the first guy to give that advice though, so I guess I gotta get rid of it?

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thanks! I'm going to try the you should remove your picture one!

holy shit! Instant 90% reply rate...so far and the second messages are usually positive

well..hold on. I'll wait a bit to get the exact % reply rate. certainly better than the 1/50 I had earlier

Women are not dumb. It is totally obvious you are trying to show off you can get women. Like I said crop, crop, crop... On PoF and Cupid I get AT LEAST a 60% reply rate, if not a lot higher. I only message "Very selective" too.

Leave them if you want. Women are VERY adept at what guys do, especially the hotter ones. They have guys trying to show off to them ALL the time. CROP so it doesn't look like you are doing that.

Or not.... I'm just trying to help out...

dlightmen , you are an internet master ace #1 boot knocker

my only complaint is that you have to read these dingy chicks answers you asked their opinion on. You poor guy.

What do you mean???? So what if took the screenshots before reading them? Except the ones I already know on there. All the ones replied to are IRL friends. :-/

I'll try to find "non dingy" chicks. But I thought PUA was about looks??? Are you saying I;m just getting ugs?