I've been talking to this girl on pof for the past week. She couldn't go out this past weekend because she had her kids. So she said she could this weekend. We plan on going hiking because she likes scenic photography. She started saying today that her allergies were killing her. I don't know if I should comfort her or what because I know that can be afc since I'm not her bf or anything. Here is the conversation today.

HB: Yea i guess.....sorry it has been hectic here. what you been up to?

Me: Not much just won the lottery!! Haha nah its been pretty hectic here
too with class starting back How was your weekend other than being
hectic?

HB: Okay I guess my allergies and sinuses are kicking my ass and I feel
like my head is going to explode....but hey that isn't too bad right

Me: Ah I sorry. I'm with you on the allergies. I'm getting my ass kicked too. But it isnt too bad just annoying as hell!! I do believe the rain would help what ya think?

HB: I think so too but I am miserable ugh

So should I say I'm sorry again and try to comfort her or what?

Yes, she is flaking and for a good reason.

You did a few things wrong.

1) it's been a week and your talking on PoF still. I get them digits and start texting within 15 - 20 mins. There are a few reasons for this. The first is you can get in touch with each other anywhere. People usually carry a cell phone, but not a computer. The pof app for the iphone, Windows Mobile, and Droid is flaky over 3G and other cell networks.

Another is huge! I was a psych major early in my life. We did a study on conformity. We found that if you can get a person to do one small thing for you... It's 100% more likely they will do something else. For example.... she gives number. There is a better chance she will go on a date.


Here's the biggie. Your date was boring and creepy. If I'm a chick, I'm not going hiking with someone I've met online. IF I'm a guy (which I am) I'm not going hiking alone with some chick I met online. Coffee or a quick lunch in a public place is a GREAT first date. it's a secure area. Not creepy at all.