Hi

I sent a friend request to this HB8 2 years ago. I don't know her, I just know that she went to the same high school with me about 6 years ago. Now, after 2 years, she finally accepted my friend request the other day. I was a bit surprised.

And now a few minutes ago I see she just went from being "in a relationship" to "single". What a coincidence

Can you give me any ideas for a 1st message? Any additional tips?

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Sounds to me like she had an inbox full of guys waiting to be accepted. Imagine the shock on her (Ex)Boyfriends face when all of a sudden, right after she split with him he goes on Facebook and sees:

"HB8 is now friends with Kadak8 and 48 other guys"

Try using some indirect message like you forgot you even sent her a friend request in the first place.

"Facebook tells me you accepted my friend request. That's weird, I don't even remember sending you one."

- Stylite

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lmao.

And ya his advice sounds good. Never thought of that.

...another thing I do that I've had success with is not even messaging them, waiting a day or two and liking their status's that genuinely deserve a like. NOT EVERY SINGLE ONE. Maybe throw in a comment a few days later and slowly build up. Good example of a first time comment is: "lmao that's funny" Only if it's really funny. That way it seems to them that you aren't all that interested in them dating wise but they are winning you over. It takes out the creepy factor that you give off by messaging her right away. Which is strange because you'd think it would be the other way around. But honestly messaging her right away anything other than what Stylite said after she left you hanging for two years will make you look like a chump.

thanks a lot guys! ima try both

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I agree with Sty, except to the extent that you need to make sure that the target understands that you aren't bitter or disinterested. I would suggest appealing to her ego-- this is so weird, I just dreamed about you-- and I couldn't believe the shit that came out of your mouth!

I should add... with my commenting method. I do eventually open them. And it has to be done properly. I see so many guys commenting on pics "Hot" "beautful" ect. Or commenting on status's trying to impress, or over agreeing, or even trying to disagree and neg. I find they all come off as trying. Where when I like her status, then go about my business, she knows I am not afraid to chat her up. What I am trying to get across is indifference. Rule of thumb is... would you comment this on anyone's status/picture or are you trying to work out some strategy to get her attention. I save the strategy for once her guard is down and we're chatting away privately.

Another rule of thumb though.. that could be broken but is good to stick by. If you wouldn't post it publicly for everyone to see, don't send it to her inbox. I'll leave that one open for debate also chat is different than inbox. There is a clear distinction. With chat you get a feel of the mood and the reaction you are getting. Sending a long inbox can be suicide if the first sentence pissed her off and you are just digging and digging.