So I've been trying some Myspace Methods, and it's been going pretty well with this certain girl, but she says she doesn't have IM. Any advice? The convo starts at the bottom and goes up.
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it'd be cool if the relationship was established as just casual. if he thinks its hot then maybe they should establish that its ok if he's a. involved in the making out, or b. she has his consent... its kinda fucked up if shes just going around behind his back making out with a bunch of girls. i dont have IM anymore... its just too distracting. im just sooooo busy with school that i cant afford to have little distractions like that haha

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From: JJ Bones
Date: Nov 13, 2007 12:42 AM


This is a situation my friend Steven if in. He's been dating this chick for like 7 months and he's really likes her. She just came out and told him that she makes out with girls all the time. He has mixed feelings, because he thinks its hot, but he is scared she might lose interest in him. I think she should have been more honest from the beginning, I'm big on honesty. If you establish the relationship is casual then its okay.
I like your take on things. We should talk some more, do you have IM. let me get your screen name. I promise I'll only send you creepy inappropriate messages 9 times per day

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From: Sasha
Date: Nov 10, 2007 4:27 PM


ya, i still think its fucked up... shes still making out with another person.

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From: JJ Bones
Date: Nov 9, 2007 2:34 PM


Interesting...okay, let me ask you this, take the same scenario, but this time the girl is making out with another girl, and lets say she does this almost every time she goes out. Would you consider that cheating?

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From: Sasha
Date: Nov 8, 2007 3:06 PM


fuck ya it is. if youre committed to somebody making out with some random guy is cheating... whether it be while drunk or sober. makes no difference. thats just not cool. and it kinda also makes a difference how long this guy and girl had been together.

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From: JJ Bones
Date: Nov 8, 2007 12:52 PM


Oh, I was just curious. Don't worry it looks nice. While I have your attention, I need a females prespective on something...Say, this guy is dating this girl, and she goes out with her friends, has a few drinks and ends of making out with a random guy at the bar...Would you consider this cheating?


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From: Sasha
Date: Nov 7, 2007 2:33 PM


the only wig in all my pictures is the bright red one. other than that its my real hair.

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From: JJ Bones
Date: Nov 6, 2007 11:32 PM


Are you wearing a wig...........or is that your real hair?

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"Ability is what you're capable of doing. Motivation determines what you do. Attitude determines how well you do it." - Lou Holtz

I'm a beginner at this hence my name, but I think she pretty much shut you down, or is just resisting.

Maybe what you could do is neg her a little, with something like "Well I see that you must not be so good on the whole multi-tasking thing."

Yeah my initial reaction was that she's bullshiting and shut me down, which is no big deal. Anyone else have advice? I'm not one-itis over this girl, I just want to know how to handle it in case this situation arises again.

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"Ability is what you're capable of doing. Motivation determines what you do. Attitude determines how well you do it." - Lou Holtz

Sometimes in the situation if she seems hooked (she kinda did) i would just go for the # close and say youll send her 9 creepy texted a day , 50% of the time i get the #

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Noturious. . .

Change your typing style next time -- it helps a lot. Personally, when I type normally (with all grammar, capitalization and punctuation in tact) the girl seems a little creeped out. When I game a girl through Myspace or IM I try my best to copy her typing style (if she never uppercases anything, don't. If she says "omg" a lot, start saying "omg" a lot.)

I'd start throwing in a lot of emoticons and acronyms -- it helps keep the conversation fun, and it helps the flow a lot.

so what do you do when you see a girl out that you haven't talked to in a while and she facebooks you and also sends you a messege saying 'hi'...and you say.

ohh so now your stalking me now huh?

and she says:

yahh im def not stalking u dont flatter yourself


lol....any help?

Edit: I should add that these would all work for me, because they fit with my online chat persona, YMMV.

Depends on her personality, but...
Oh. That's too bad, if you were stalking me it would have been so much more fun.

Or...
Whew, you had me scared there for a second, such a relief to know you're not stalking me.

Or...
yah, sending people 'hi' facebook messages is such a lame way to stalk. much better to leave creepy voicemail messages. whats ur number again?

yea thats a good call....after i said this:

you had me scared there for a second, such a relief to know you're not stalking me.

she said:

o shut up

so i took this as a slight i o i....then looked at some of her pictures...:

so i see you were an angel for Halloween? who were you trying to fool???

she said:

haha -- iwas an angel LAST YEAR i was a nymphomaniac this year -- i was a sluty barbie this year and i was a fairy princess this year

this could go anywhere right now, not 100 percent sure what im gonna say but this is a HB8 so i wanna get it...

My response would be:

"I was a pimp this year...it's a pity we didn't know each other. Oh well, there's always next year. I think I'm going to be a mobster...you can be my floozy girlfriend."

Of course, that response has huge potential to blow the set, if you misread her interest.

LMAO

So another girl seemed to hook well, but again "dont have a sn" is it possible they're serious or am i doing something wrong? start at bottom to top

Haha yeah. Well I make out with chicks alot too. But I dont have a boyfriend. And when I did have a boyfriend and I made out with a chick, he got pretty mad haha. Ummm..well I dont have an sn.

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From: JJ Bones
Date: Nov 28, 2007 10:06 PM


yeah my buddy ryan just found out that his girl makes out with girls sometimes. he thinks its hot but it kinda worries him too. i think its cool that shes honest at least. you seem pretty chill, lets talk more, let me get ur sn..ill probably message u 20 times a day but dont worry about it

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From: KAYLA ROCKSTAR™ [cuntcake]
Date: Nov 25, 2007 10:45 AM


Hmm..almost every night, then yeah I might consider that cheating. If it only happened once, maybe twice I'd let it slide. But almost every night is something I'd worry about.

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From: JJ Bones
Date: Nov 25, 2007 3:01 AM


good answer, so let me ask you this..take the same scenario but instead she makes out with another chick almost every night, do u consider this cheating?

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From: KAYLA ROCKSTAR™ [cuntcake]
Date: Nov 23, 2007 1:46 PM


Lol, thanks.
Yes, that is considered cheatig. haha.

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From: JJ Bones
Date: Nov 23, 2007 12:56 PM


oh, i was just curious. it looks good tho. while i have your attention, im looking for a female perspective on something real quick. Say a girl goes out with friends, and ends up making out with some guy who isn't her bf. is this cheating?

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From: KAYLA ROCKSTAR™ [cuntcake]
Date: Nov 21, 2007 11:03 AM


my real hair.

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From: JJ Bones
Date: Nov 21, 2007 1:47 AM


is that a wig or is that your real hair

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"Ability is what you're capable of doing. Motivation determines what you do. Attitude determines how well you do it." - Lou Holtz

Sounds a little forced to me...you asked for an SN too early. You can get an sn that early, but you basically built a little interest in yourself, but didn't give them a reason to want to get to know more. Basically, you need to add some stories, or show that you're worth getting to know (as in DHV yourself), and then ask for a SN/number. I also like to give a reason, if I have to ask (usually they ask me).

"These email convos have been fun an' all, but we should really chat in real time" or some such thing. I also play it slow, joke around a bit in my emails, though I'm only using online dating for fun at the moment, so I'm in no rush to get to phone or chat.

Also, the "I'll only message you 20 times" bit should go unless she's apprehensive about it. Opening with that on your request doesn't really work as well.

As for that one, I'd say keep at it. Start joking with her, and ask for a number after a few more emails...tease her a bit about how she has to give you her number since she doesn't have aim. (if she's going along with the joking)

Thank you, exactly the kind of response I was hoping for, one with tons of feedback

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"Ability is what you're capable of doing. Motivation determines what you do. Attitude determines how well you do it." - Lou Holtz