what's up guys? i'm a newbie here. been reading PUA for quite a while and now i finally have a reason to start a thread.

so i met this very cute girl in a club almost 2 weeks ago and we sort of hit it off. conversation was a little dull and short but somehow i've managed to pull it off. she had to go so she (!) suggested we talk on facebook (before i had a chance to even ask for her number). spelled out her name for me and everything, seemed pretty into it. i added her and the conversation went something like this (translated to english. sounds better in my language, you're gonna have to trust me on this):

27.08 her: how are you?
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04.09 her: so you're ignoring me..?
04.09 me: no, just being patient.. haven't seen you on chat yet, and talking to your inbox is no fun you around?
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04.09 her: oh, i usually don't go online, i don't really like to IM. i know it sounds stupid but i think IM is kind of fake [[huh maybe she'd rather meet?]]
04.09 me: that's weird. i hope you don't think talking on the phone is fake either, cuz we might have some problem communicating. maybe we should talk via carrier pigeons? the old fashion way
04.09 her: haha yeah phone is better. it's best to talk face to face! but carrier pigeons might work.. [[definitely wants to meet]]
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07.09 me: well my pigeon is sick so i guess we'll have to go with your idea. i'm in your area next weekend, would be nice to do something together [[she lives like an hour away]] meanwhile tell me a little about yourself. i remember that [[brought up some shit from the night we met, jokingly]] but what else? tell me something interesting! [[just trying to show i have standards and won't drive that far for just any girl]]
08.09 her: haha well let's see.. well i'm [[boring basic stuff. what she does, age, etc. very short and basic]] and i live not far from where i met you that's basically it, the rest you'll find out in person.. feels weird writing about myself! [[oh yeah she really wants us to meet]]
08.09 me: heh just wanting to get to know you a little, it's not a job interview. and you don't have to be so mysterious
08.09 her: hah not being mysterious. but like you said - it's not a job interview. [[getting kind of cold here, not sure how to handle this]]

she lives kind of far so i'll only get to see her next week. i'm definitely going to see her, there's no question about that.

so my questions are:

1. should i ask for her number and move it to the phone? at first i thought yes but now i don't really see a reason to, maybe i should just keep this chat going for a while and then just meet her. maybe call just the night before to make the plans? also i'm worried i might be a little awkward on the phone so that's something to consider.

2. is she really into it? at first i thought definitely yes, because she seems very eager to meet, but now i don't know. she's been acting kind of dry and maybe she just wants to meet just so she can DECIDE if she's into me or not. i mean this conversation has been pretty much one sided, she's not asking any questions or revealing anything really.

3. her city is far and i don't really know it at all. it's packed with bars but i've never really been to any. i'll definitely be playing at her home field, and not where i feel comfortable at. i'm thinking about just letting her choose the place but i don't want to be led by her, so what should i do? maybe hear her suggestions and decide for us?

4. what the fuck should i say now? should i keep the conversation going or just forget about it for a few days, just let it hang, and then make the date? i was expecting her to ask me some questions but all i'm getting is these basic facts and nothing more. not sure what to talk about next, i don't want to get too personal for now, i'd rather save the interesting questions for the actual date.

5. can you think of anything i should improve or point out anything i did wrong? also knowing what i did right would be great too

looking forward to your feedback. thanks!

Find a friend or someone to go with you - note: this person has to find some excuse to leave the two of you alone within say 15 minutes of meeting, so make sure he understands. Send her a mail saying

"I'm hanging out with my friend at so-so bar on so-so date. Send me your number, I'll call you when I'm there"

Something along those lines, you can change it as you see fit. The trick is you're telling her you have something doing already, so she doesn't think you came just to see her.

she doesn't think i'm coming just for her, i already told her that i'll just happen to be there next week. i have a friend living not far from her house, gonna hang with him for some time and then go see her. i'll tell her i came so see him. not sure if it's a good idea to bring him along because he'd suck as a wingman.
also, i asked him about the bars and stuff but he's clueless.

LOL, yes I used to be that guy who knew nothing about bars around me.
Do a Google search around her house for bars, then go on Yelp to check reviews. You should be able to find a good bar. You might want to go there first and check the place out, if you don't feel comfortable in "away bars". It's not a good idea to let her pick at all, it most often starts the date off wrongly

like i said she lives kind of far so i don't really have the time to go there just to check out pubs. i guess i don't really have a choice here and just let her make the call and don't think about it too much.

can you check out my other questions?

seriously? nothing?

To be honest with you man, I think you are over-thinking this.

In my opinion she seemed very interested in you (a little uncomfortable with the IM though).
You're doing good man, whatever you decide to do (IM, phone, carrier pigeon)... just keep your fun.

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i'm starting to like this girl. some progress:

me: yeah i hope you do better at job interviews, but i find you interesting so that gives you some bonus points if you live there that's great, i'm gonna be a minute away in the weekend, and it's time we talk face to face! [[quoting her]].. but you have to promise you'll stop acting so shy! so what's your #?

her: hah so now you're giving me points! i'm not shy.. heh you don't know me yet.. funny you sent me this on saturday night [[she assumed i meant that weekend]]. will you be here next weekend as well? [[for some reason she misunderstood and thinks she missed me. also no # for some reason, maybe she just thought i wanted it to call her then to meet up?]]

me: heh [[her name]] i see you're a little confused.. i wrote on saturday so naturally i meant next weekend and not the one before. maybe you're not as shy as it seems, but we definitely need to work on your concentration oh and what's wrong with giving you credit points? for now your credit is good! kidding, i'm just messing around.. i think you know what i meant [[thought i was being a little too cocky so i figured let's make her feel a little more comfortable by suggesting i like her too]]

what do you guys think? getting too cocky? also, should i ask for the # again?