Hey JSmooth, thanks for the info on online sarging. i'm on page 15 and learning new things by the minute. I do have a question that I would like to ask however. I have recently moved to Poland where i will reside for the next 3 months. You would not believe how many beautiful women walk the streets. Just last night i've set up an online profile and already getting responses.

questions:
About me section:
something along the lines of "i've recently moved to here from US...blah blah..trying to meet some cool people"
-is this something that i should mention to increase replies?. i tend to think girls like cultured guys, hence the statement. what should i be convening in this section?

-what would be my "reason" for meeting people. should there even be one?
pretty much my opener was that i'm trying to meet new people, recommendations on places to visit here etc. that seems to generate interest with girls as they're curious where i'm from etc.

-what do you think my strategy should be?

any feedback greatly appreciated
thanks

I responded to your Private Message just a few moments ago.

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Those are good tips to keep in mind. Thank you for posting them!

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Guys,
i always open girls online with "you're kinda cute, are you friendly"

their responses:
-I could be
-Of course
-yes

I'm not quite sure how to follow up after that, i'm looking for some cocky/funny transition.

please help
thanks

J-Smooth

First and foremost I hope you get your personal problems were nothing too bad, and that you get them sorted all right.

Basically I met this girl the other night but i only got her name before her friend dragged her home. either way i got some good IOIs off her all night.

My friend got some photos of the night and put 'em on facebook so I know that the girl is on there.

What I would like to know is whether it's worth going after her, and if so how to go about doing it? Should I use a standard opener or tailor it to reference the night out.


Much appreciated!

Hey J,
I'm having a bit of a problem with online stuff.
Firstly, I have trouble coming up with good openers. I use sites like myspace and facebook. I read on this thread that you prefer to go direct, so I took your advice and wrote in the subject ''So...'' and then I wrote in the message ''I know this is random and we don't know eachother, but you're really pretty/gorgeous(I experimented by using each of those), I just had to come and tell you or I knew I'd be kicking myself. I'd like to chat you sometime, write back with your msn if you wanna...''. I had a few responses from this, but not as many as I'd hoped. I'd say like 3/10 girls respond to this. Is this a good opener do you think? Or whatt would you suggest I use?
Secondly, I have a problem with knowing when and how to get girls I'm having a good interaction with offline. I've had a few girls that I've been really interested in over that past few weeks that I've talked to a lot on msn, and they seemed to like me too. The problem with every one I think I've waited too long to meet them in real life, as they've all got boyfriends now. Another girl I'm talking to right now I was gonna meet with about a month ago but I never did for some reason and now she's just had a moan at me because I didn't make the effort to see her and another guy who lives further away than I do is seeing her tomorrow.That's what's got me writing this now LOL. How many messages, or how long should I wait before inviting the girl to come hang out or come and do something with me? How can I tell she's interested enough to want to meet up? Also what would you suggest is a good place or thing to invite her to?
Please help?

I wish JSmooth all the very best in life, now that he's left the community, for his reasons given. Will this sticky now be closed (I think it should, but should
still be definitely made available to continue reading) and will a new online game 'expert' take over in a new one. If so who ?

aye orangetiger here! sup

are women online the same as in real life?

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Europhreak,

I would personally work to use some of your own material because it's easier to follow up to it. This is the problem with using lines invited by other people. They know what the next move is and we don't.

Jon

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Bobalu',

Thanks! I managed okay.

I'd open with a reference to that night. Sorry for the delayed post but figured I should answer it after my abscence.

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Thank you! I did leave the community for a while but came back to help where as a moderator.

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Hey Orange Tiger,

Yep, they are still women! Doing "game" if you want to call it that online is really no different than in person, over the phone, or text. You still have a human being on the other end of the Internet. There is really no huge differences except that you have to realize that she can't see your non-verbal reactions.

With that you have to make sure what you type isn't misread. That is why I don't advocate the use of negs online. In person she can see you are just busting her balls so to speak. Online they just sound like down right insults.

PEACE

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Dear J Smooth,

I was recently dumped by LTR of 3.5 years. 4 months prior, my visa expired and I was forced to leave the country, we were and still are long distance from one another.

I’ve contemplated whether I have oneitis or not. I have no doubt that other girls are capable of making me feel great, but I think that I found the one (or one of the ones) for me and I’m not willing to give up just yet.

We are both avid facebook people. Can I use this to my advantage to try to get her back? I’m trying to change my appearance through weight loss/whitening. I’m also planning on going on a few dates. It seems to me that if she sees my photo and the activity from other girls on my page that this can only help my situation.

We broke up for reasons that I see as correctable, and she saw as irreparable. I’m hoping that if she sees that I have changed physically, that she might assume I’m capable of changing internally as well.

My plan is to give it 30 days from the breakup with only limited contact and then to confront her, telling her about how I’ve changed. Do you have any advice for me?

Jpow

Jpow,

I am really sorry to hear that man. I lost my wife after 4 years and that was a tought ordeal for me when she left. I would give it some cooling down time like you mentioned. Changing externally might help but the biggest thing is going to be showing her you've changed as a person because of the breakup too.

Best of luck,

Jon

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