Northernlion,

Not really. Most of the time I just let these lines go. They really aren't meant to be expanded on. When I see stuff like this I typically change topics because they didn't expand on it. Which means either they didn't know how to expand on what you said or didn't want to.

Let me know if you come up with something though.

Jon

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Hey Jsmooth,
I asked you a question on the last page and took your advice and followed up with the girl in person. Thanks for the advice but now I am wondering if this is worth pursuing any further?

So I come back suited and booted after work and she is quiet flirty saying she thought i was here on holiday and she did not realise i lived here. She asked about where i lived, what i did etc...she tells me she wants to change her job etc. So she tells me her manager is watching us talking and getting cross. She goes to seat sombody and he comes up to me and asks me what i want, i tell him i am just leaving, she returns i shake her hand again and she says 'write me'

i wrote and 3 days on still no reply....

was she just being nice and polite because she was at work and is not really interested?

RandD,

I think that is what is going on at this point. She is just doing her job, getting more tips. I'd just let it go at this point.

Jon

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Thanks for this thread, it really helped me out alot.

1. Im at this dating site and i have posted some pictures, and other users can comment this pictures. I usually get "wow, u were hot" typical things.
Then i want to mail her, but whats the best kind of opener that are related to her comment on my picture? what should i start up with?

2. This site u can also see the last persons who visited youre profile, and some girls have been seen that i have visited theyre profile and they writes to me " i can see u been sneaking on me". Whats the best thing i can pop back with after this one?

Could you take a look at my myspace profile and let me know how to update it? I'm not sure what would be a good photographs to use, or how to describe myself appealingly.

I will post a link later when I get home, the site is blocked at work.

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Would be really grateful for some advice.

I emailed girl something like:

...can't believe you still haven't emailed me back. You have been missing out. Email me saying what night you are free between... and ps you are getting the first drink since I got back to you first

Girl emailed me:

Cheeky devil xxx

This is not the only reply of this type that I have revieved and I was wondering;

Are these short type of answers good or bad-do the women appear interested?
Do I try escalating and flirt more with emails or go straight for phone nr/date?
How long do I wait before replying?

Caine,

You are welcome, I am glad this thread has helped you out.

1. Playing off a comment like "Wow, u were hot." I'd probably message her with, "What do you mean by "were hot" I am hot. Do you treat everyone like this?" Each situation will be different but I would go straight into bantering with the girl. "Are you always this up front? Do you treat everyone like this? How do people hang with you?" etc.

2. I would go to a type of "cocky funny" frame with this. "I can seen u been sneaking on me." I would reply something like, "Oh my god, you caught me. I am totally that creepy internet stalker guy, you don't want to get involved with. I will completely corrupt you.

That reminds me of the time that....(Insert some story about you.)"

She opened you so you don't have to do a whole lot. Just play this off and go into a DHV story about yourself to start building attraction.

Have a good weekend,

Jon

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Sure, I'd be happy to help out with that. If you want you can put the link up here or you can PM me with that information.

Jon

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Hey Swinger,

They are interested or they wouldn't have responded back at all. These are not really good or bad in my book; they are more "neutral" in my mind. Which means to me that I have some work to do. You really didn't give her much to talk about other than her basic comment.

To answers whether or not you should go for a date depends. How long have you been talking to her? Do you have a good vibe going on? Have you had deeper communications than little stuff like this back and forth? Does she feel comfortable with you? If you can answer YES to the past 3 questions I asked them ask her out or go for her #.

If you can not then you need to work to build a "connection" with her so she feels she can relate to who you are.

With online I typically don't reply back more than twice a day ever. Because I don't need her thinking all I do is sit on my computer all day long. Still, how fast your reply back isn't as much of a big deal.

Have a good un,

Jon

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hey J.. how u doin man
yo I met this chick last summer. We took summer course together and at night we go clubbing , spend time together and all that for about 2 weeks.. last week of the course, she told me that she is not looking for something serious because of we live far away from each other..
I think she said because of me being too needy and care so much towards her. Anyway on that last week we were just being friend and not doing much more physical stuff. After the course was over, we facebooking for a bit and thats it..
Now, her birthday is in a couple of days
Im thinking of wish her on facebook, i dont want to initiate anything.. just want to be nice and wish her well. Whats ur recommendation on this problem ? thanks man

Ok. I wasn't going to do this but I haven't been thinking straight and needs quick advice on what to do next or say. Last night, I went clubbing with a big group of people. There was this one chick, HB9 in my group giving me eye contact a few times we were at the club. We don't really know each other but have seen each other a few times and have always given each other eye contact and last night was the first time I introduce myself to her before we went clubbing. [In the past, I haven't done anything with the eye contact/IOI because I didn't know the PUA stuff back then.] I didn't do anything or game her with the eye contacts again last night because one of my closest friend in the beginning was like she's mine and told me not to do anything. [He doesn't know much about PUA stuff but I respected his wishes and plus I got ride from him to the club.] Thirty minutes before the club was closing she ended up where I was in the club and asked me, where were I was the whole time? I told her, "Looking for you." Waited for a few seconds and I added, "But you were hiding."-- I think it was very AFC thing to say I'm not sure. I told my brother the situation and told me that the guy who I respected his wishes [his bestfriend] basically wants every girl. I didn't know. So now basically I want to game this chick and see if there is attraction there. My brother also told me, she gives those look to all guys. But I was saying to myself, I'm different because she has been giving me eye contact from far away and from the past. I still want to game this chick though.

I was going to play the "Perfect Internet Game" on her but she doesn't have much info on her FB. How should I game her online or how should I start gaming her? Thanks in Advance!

Blaizon,

I'm doing good today man, thanks for asking.

You basically are telling me last week she put you in the "friend zone" because of have far you live away from each other. You feel that it was because you were acting too needy. Then you went forward hanging out as friends which is cool.

To make sure I understand you are wanting to just be polite and wish her happy birthday without initiating any type of game? Then the simplest message would be the best.

Please correct me if I misunderstood your intentions.

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See, that's what I was thinking. I'll game her online and set up a date or a meet up with her. But you're suggesting just wait until we both meet again? The only thing we that is the last time I saw her before we went clubbing on saturday night was Thanksgiving, several months ago. I don't want to wait another 5 months before I get to see her again so I was wondering what's the a good way of gaming her online but don't respond if you just think I should just wait until I see her again. Thanks again!

FuturePUA,

Thanks for the clarification man. The way you wrote it I thought it was a month ago that you saw her. Anyways, in this case I'm going to have to assume that you don't have her number or instant messenger which would be a better way to contact her.

To start out I would send her a fun playful message, get her to respond, and then start working to simulatenously build comfort with attraction spikes thrown in. I'd probably send her something like, "FUNGASM! Hi Five! Everyone needs to have a little fun in their lives. " Then maybe something like, "When I saw you at the club last you didn't seem like you were having a good time. Hope that has changed."

We just need to get her talking to us. We need to come across as upbeat, positive, and fun to talk to. This should get you a great headstart on this.

Jon

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