I prefer a semi-formal style of writing when talking to women. I don't want something to be misinterpreted. I will still use stuff like "LOL" or other common online terms, but otherwise I stay formal. The biggest thing I tell people is to write like you think and speak. If you are like Mystery.....and prefer to speak,...with a pause. Then please do so! Just keep it congruent with who you are so when you meet in person it's consistent.

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What do you think of this reply to her last msg (dhv style):


Adrianne-

I had a great day yesterday...thanks. Speaking of "high maintenance" I love getting things out of the blue =): thoughtful presents, back massages "just because", breakfast in bed.... I've been spoiled by a lot of my ex-girlfriends. But I don't think I was spoiled by accident. I treated each and every one of them like princesses. I think it's a 2 way street.

I'm very much the same way with my closest friends and my family where if they ever needed anything, I would hop in my car and drive 10 hours for them, and the company that I was with would understand because they know we are "tight" and support each other like that.


Asian Cowboy

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I am so new at this DHV thing....what do you think of my newly-crafted DHV response to this hot mamasita, J-dizzle Smoooooth?

GOOD JOB, remember to his the other attraction switches as well with other stories.

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I decided to try and do craigslist and Ive been exploring with different openers on myspace, so far im like 1/7 or something, the ratio isnt good, because if your interesting a girl will respond right, so far ive got 1 to be my friend but when I asked for the aim or IM handle she didnt respond how do I react to that.

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www.myspace.com/zheruto

Thanks, J-Smooth....I feel good that you've given the green light and I sent that message off.

I was wondering what you would do if you've been corresponding with a girl (different one..HB7) over email for 1.5 week and she gave me her digits and I called her 2 nights ago....we talked for an hour and it was pretty fun and she asked about me and my family and volunteered some info on her as well...nothing serious. I suggested we hang this weds or thurs but she said she would be busy this week and weekend because she was getting ready to leave back to her hometown (about 1 hour away) for the weekend to visit family and suggested early next week.(maybe she's got other dates lined up..who knows) I told her I'd give her a ring later this week with a plan to hang out next week. Should I wait until Sunday to call or call before Friday...I don't want to come off as needy but I also know she might be entertaining other offers from other guys on match DOT com since i've noticed her being online from time to time. We seem to have great chemistry via email and phone and I would definitely like to get the ball rolling on this one.

I'm all ears on my next strategy...wait it out, call her, email, text, whatever you think brotha! haha Regardless...I will be out in the clubs and corresponding with other prospects online.

There isn't much you can do but just act like it didn't happen. Then later on after you've built some more comfort with her through continious messages back and forth through myspace then try again later.

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Okay you are definately going to call her. Since you have her # and are talking on the phone we're not going to regress back to messenger or something. Okay today is Wednesday, and she is going to be busy through the weekend and then free early next week which basically means Monday or Tuesday. So I would suggest calling her on Saturday afternoon, that way if you don't get in touch, you still have Sunday for her to call you back.

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Dear J smooth,

I have been looking forward to someone to help us out with some online sarging and i can't tell you enough for being here for us and how great this is. I tried asking this to zip but she has egnored it a couple of times and when i came across to this thread i had to turn in for you help.


Here is the breack down! I know you said not to write alot but i wanted to explain you in full detail.

***I have been following the thread since it began and it has helped me and many others like myself! Now if we happen to reach the 50th page mark and you do happen to trow a party, then i wish the best for everyone! May god be with you all party animals As you know i wont be able to make it since it will probebly be held in NYC, but i hope you got your leader pants on because its gonna be crazy with all those packs running around hungry looking for some answers So i wish you good luck!

Anyways back to topic here darling!

There is this HB that gave me her number a month or so ago and we talked a couple times here and there but after that she doesnt seem to answer me back! Now i did wait 2 days to contact her! First time around i text her making so conversation! Then i waited a couple days and since the weekend was coming by and i was helping my freind promoe this one club, I called her and she picked up but for some reason she couldnt hear me! So make a long story short, we talked and i told her to come along but she alread had plans as a matter a fact she was already going out we i called!!

Like i said, she hasnt hanswered me for a few weeks now! I havent called her! Just texted or left a message online for her to read! The funny thing is she was like lets hang out and stuff so i went for it and i got her number!

Now i havent called or text her for a good 2 weeks! Could it be that she might be talking to another guy and its going good so she doesnt want to add another option? i have noticed this! When girls talk to other guys that the know well, they seem to not talk to other guys the way they used to( like flirting and such)....

So I am thinking of being straight out with her! Like how she gave me her number and said lets hang out but now she doesnt even anwer!
what do you think? Should i call her and test the waters? Or you have a better idea?

UPDATE! I havent talked to this girl for more then a month now and i 2 days a go she added a couple of pics of her with this one guy. One they are just at a feseval and the other in room laying on the floor! Now i know its still not too late so please advise on how to carry on? your the best!

Okay the post is off topic, but since you know how to flatter a guy I'll answer it. I'm glad to help out on the forum on a more regular basis.

Well it has been a little while since you too talked. I agree with your assessment that the best thing you can do is to call her and test the waters. When you do text, IM, or email you can't always pick up the subtle clues like you can on the phone. You can hear her voice inflexion, tonality, pace, etc.

I say call her up out of the blue and be like I saw the funniest thing today that reminded me of you...Just have something interesting to say, and see how she reacts to your call and what you say. Maybe even try and ask her out. The worst she can say is, "No" and after two months we need to rule her in or out.

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why doesnt this thread have a sticky?

Good point! I guess because I'm not a moderator like Rye, XFman, Zip, and Tripp are.

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That's a really bad reason lol

Well J, thanks for the props man, but remember . . . I don't have that "moderator" word up above my avatar anymore, which means I'm not a mod anymore. But, thanks for keeping me in such "esteem" even after the fact.

Now, Chief999, to answer your question, since I know the answer . . . there have been a few guys (and anyone that's been around a while knows this) that have had "ask me" threads that weren't mods. The mods had talked about this long ago and had agreed that non-mod threads such as this wouldn't be stickied because every forum member could end up wanting one, and things would get WAY out of hand. However, if the thread is popular, as this one is (and rightly so) it will stay at or near the top of the forum anyway, so it really doesn't matter. Because it's still there and in immediate view.

Thanks for answering that Tripp. Who's next?

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lol smooth thanks a bunch on this. i'll keep this in mind. But this one was on topic though it was related to online sargine/myspace.

That reminds me, i am going to a club this friday night and i got 4 girls to come with me plus and additional 3 that might come. So i'll just give her a ring and say something interesting that i havent thought of yet lol which would be great to get a little example on, and then ill just invite her along! Now i have the ability to put her in the guest list so thats a dhv, but i dont know wheter or not i should do it or not? i mean she hasnt answered me a few times so why should i reward her by putting her on the list you know