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Thanks for your reply, and I didn't mean to get at Jack. I see where you and Jack and Dragula are getting at - that I need to get out more, use more sites etc. It's Summer now and I can't be so closed minded, I need to be more assertive in real life and push harder and on other sites. OK that's something to start thinking about and put into action.
If I make you all a deal and start to put more heart, soul and belief into doing that, can we stay a bit more on track with this singular problem I am in this thread about, and see how we can solve my Tinder problems? The issue of my life outside it is a whole other problem and story which I will tell people about here later on, as I plan to.
But it would be a real relief and ease a major trouble I'm having with Tinder itself if anyone can advise on what are the technical ways I can dig myself out of this black hole I am in with Tinder. It would benefit a tremendous amount.
Right now I'm not sure what I can do to my profile as it is now to move it to the top of the pile or other ways it can get matched up more. I'm not sure if my profile is being seen and not swiped on, or it is being seen or something about it is putting women off.
Maybe the pool is empty. But I'm not running out of people in my area and age range, they are still there. I just don't know how it all works. When I'm swiping through, am I looking at new profiles or older profiles, or in any order of the 2? Like newer profiles I see first?
And is it the same for women? That they see newer male profiles first then older male profiles after, in that order? Maybe my profile is now considered too old to be seen?
How does this 'top of the pile' work?
Does the top of the pile mean that new profiles are top of the pile? Older profiles at the bottom? Is this what has happened to me? Or, again, have I been pushed to the bottom for something wrong that I did?
Sorry for the long posts, I'm just trying to figure out what has happened here, and maybe I need to figure out how Tinder works for me to know this. Not sure if there is anything I can do about it still after all this.
Lol. Come on man, you know you're gonna stay on Tinder. No one needs a story about what issue is stopping you from real life interactions because its just BS. If you have time to be on Tinder, you have time to go out. Whatever issue is keeping you from going out, if its real, well that would keep you from going on dates. There is no excuse or reason.
Dating sites change, so you should not put this much energy into one form of dating app. From the second you thought of creating a new fb and all that, you should stop. If Tinder gone = you're in a "dating death", then you werent doing anything well on there. Maybe a few dates, but if it was THAT good, you'd at least have chicks now to keep fucking. So Tinder hasnt been so good to you that you need it.
I dont know how Tinder works, but this sounds like a drug addiction as your bargain for ways to keep it going. The time you will spend on this app to figure out what the algorithm is, you can spend meeting women. As I said, maybe its just the season, but you are WAY WAY too dependent on an app that got you a few dates or lays, but nothing stuck. So you can spend time fixing tinder, to get some dates. Or you can delete your acct and go improve yourself to be able to meet women anywhere.