Hi,

My name is Lode, I'm 38 years old. I've started with online dating for a month now and it's going not that well. I've done online dating a while ago and it went better. Maybe it is because of the website that's declining. I have very few replies and very poor replies.

In all the time I've been on online dating, the girls I went out with and were serious were mostly not really high quality, low esteem girls (looks were good).


If I could improve my cold approach skills, I think I would do easily better than online dating.

I've renewed my profile. I've used just a few pickup text messages, but answers were not that spectacular. Now I have a better asskicking first message from "Style", girls do respond more quickly . When I use a normal first message, I'll get response very rarely, if not any. Now I've stopped messaging because it's a waste of time and fish. I'm also looking for better pictures from a professional photographer.

This is my profile from "Rendez-vous" so you have a (tiny) little idea:

http://nl.rendez-vous.be/scripts/fri...rigine=profdet

Is it possible to give advice on my online dating profile? All the comments are welcome! I'll make a combination of two profiles I have.

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Name: enkelleukevrsvp (onlynicewomenplease)

Gold on!!!

Don't read any further.. enless you are REALLY looking for a lover, a lover who wants to be your buddy.

Who I am?

I am someone who's got in the first place healthy ambitions and really likes to realise things. Besides I take a lot of importance to health and tries now and then to do some sport. I am multifunctional and like to do all kinds of different stuff, I'm social, spontanuous en like to know new people. I have a soft character, I'm as huggable as a puppy, provocative, naughty and! romantic. I'm curious, unprejudiced, open-minded and I like sophistication and depth.

And what makes a women attractive to me?

Partly appearance and partly what she thinks - how she knows how to express herself in both her appearance and as what she says. You have beautiful eyes, a lovely smile, you're sweet, spontanous, not calculated, deep and open of heart. Someone I feel good with. Someone who still beliefs in love.

It's not because I have healthy ambitions and I want to realize my dreams that I'm walking life as a selfish materialist. I'm someone who is very empathetic and philanthropical and wish to make the world a better place so everyone can have a little bit of a better live.

What am I looking for? For the moment I'm in a phase where I want to meet people to date with. I find it very pleasant to learn to know new people that way and meanwhile doing enjoyable things. In fact, online dating is still an adventurous thing, to meet with people you do not know and you have never seen before and where there is the potential of experiencing a whole new adventure..

At the end I hope to find someone I have a good connection with so it can lead to something more. I'm also open for good friendships with interesting people.

Congratulations!!! for reading my profile because honestly most women don't get this far. Most women send me immediately a message of interest by seeing my sexy pictures without reading my profile to learn to know the real me.

So, before we go any further, I first want to know if you have a certain fun factor, so first answer some questions for me:

1. Cats or dogs
2. Kissing or pillowfight (kussen of kussengevecht)
3. Chocolate or strawberries

If you have a perfect score, than you get from me a homecooked oldfashion apple pie - with or without cream.

See you!

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Additional info:

What I don't want: I like to meet people that attach importance to values and standards, people who are conscious about themselves and the world around them. As for all profiles without picture: I like to see who I'm talking to. As attraction is for a man mostly physical. Someone who is too calculated and doesn't want to be led by a man. Yes, we live in an emancipated society, but women still feel themselves at their best, at the side of a man - a man who is manly. In preference someone who attaches a lot importance to health, a little bit on sport and has a bit the same interests as I have. Someone who is very sweet has an advantage..

My most romantic experience: My first-answered love. (Yes, unfortunately you are too late for that, but don't worry I'm still looking for a new most romantic experience.)

The perfect date: One which goes unstrained, enjoying eachother, ending with a tender kiss and makes longing for more.., something which is just the beginning of something which only gets better.

Favorite food: Pie, chocolates and biscuits! (I'm still looking for a partner in crime who chairs this passion.)

Favorite holliday: I quite like France and the french "savoir vivre". Just going somewhere and discover everything there - sun, spontaneity, tranquility, tasting local specialities and habits. A weekend off, doing the things you fancy!

What I like most: Most of all I love lovely people. And.. don't forget my father and! my super sweat dog Sloeberke that does it utmoust best to be not as stubbern as I am. (Mostly he doesn't succeed - goddamn!)

What I hate most: People who treat other people without any respect. It would make life a lot easier if people respected eachother.

What I would like to be: I would like to be in the shoes of Brad Pitt for one week and you could be my wife Angelina.

Favorite actor: I leave that to you

Favorite actrice: Handsome, charming, elegant, punchy, intelligent and a lot of character.

Favorite movies: The human contract (love it), La grande belezza (bellisima!), and a lot more of surprising and beautiful movies.

Favorite musicartist: Myself under the shower. To this a call for a singer with a good voice.

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Please comment and thanks for the advice.

Bye!!!

L77

Not sure where you live, but if I've never heard of that dating website then chances are that a LOT of single women haven't either.

Step 1) Find a better source, Match.com would be much better for someone your age. The girls are more serious since it's a paid website, see this as a good thing because you get less time wasters and spam. Try POF and then Tinder, you might get lucky.

Step 2) Work more on your pics, looks are EVERYTHING with online game, you don't strike me as a lady killer. Give yourself a makeover, Shave your head since you're balding, take better quality pics, get contact lenses and invest into your wardrobe (bench pic style is cool). It's not good enough. The girl in the pic, I am sure she is lovely but there is no need to create competition for yourself, things have updated since the Style days. The preselection pic is transparent to girls and too try hard.

No idea what messages you're sending them but make sure they are engaging and not kissing ass.

Good luck

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Then step up to your own challenge and get out there in to the field. Tell the good ol' ego to take a backseat as you take your lumps, get rejected and humiliated but ultimately come out of it a better man, more confident with a fabulous outlook on life.