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So I have been online gaming for a few years now.. At times I feel I have a formula.. other times I get ADD and fuck it up..
I am pretty sick of arranging to meet.. having to go 3 dates sometimes on the pretence that I am going to date them.. and then eventually get some. I want same day sex, but I don't always create/do the right thing to get that. A lot of the time, the girl is thinking relationship so it makes it very difficult.
I want to start experimenting now in just asking girls for casual hook ups. Maybe telling them that I broke up with a girl recently and really want to meet someone and settle down (on same wavelength as them) but now is the time just to have some fun and not get into anything heavy.. at least not for a couple of months. Suggesting to them that we meet for a drink if they are interested, and come back to me if we get on. and if not.. no problem.
I think a number of girls would turn it down, but Im thinking a number would agree to meet on the basis that
1) I have been honest about my intentions
2) I am looking to do hook up not because I don't value them, but because I am not in the right place at the mo.
3) Having known I have just been in a break up, they will feel that I am a relationship guy and they may have a proper chance to date me at somepoint in the future.
Now I could go and experiment this for myself.. but before I do, I wanted to see if anyone has any experience or ideas as to how this could work well.. what to say exactly etc.. or if I am wasting my time and wasting opportunities.
No, this is not a good strategy because you eliminate way too many girls who would put out on a first date anyways. It maybe works on casual sex profiles on okCupid but in general it's too restrictive. Most girls will put out on the first date if you have strong game and escalate and make things logistically easy. I assume I'm getting laid first date regardless of if the girl wants a relationship, doesn't, or whatever. It doesn't matter. First and/or 2nd date is commonplace. The key is to attract them enough. IF a girl is attracted enough to you, all the rules go out the window. Focus on the girls you think you can easily attract if you want easy lays.
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