Hey all.
So I've ran into a consistent trend in which I am able to get girls to reply to me 1/3-2/3 of the time, but I've had to change it up a bit.

The copy paste message routine didn't seem to be working nearly as well as it used to - I'd get responses CONSTANTLY. Now I have to actually read their profiles (go figure) and make a catered message typically... but it's really fucking boring conversation 1/2 the time and I can't seem to make it interesting enough to keep me wanting to talk/escalate let alone her.

My success has always been when I'm able to get them to be competitive or something along those lines. I have a tough time doing this with a majority of the girls, and am wondering what things you look for or how you may trigger one of these conversations? Or make it fun/interesting in another fashion that doesn't seemed so canned/typical.

Thanks!

Are you saying 1/3 - 2/3 of all the girls you're messaging are responding to you? That's insanely good, I can only get like 1/10. Why don't you post one of these messages you're sending? It's hard to judge without seeing it.

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31 and still figuring it out.

It's up and down. Here's an example, but this one fizzled out and I haven't followed up:

Me:
Madame Ruby!?

You seem like you're really cool and also very confident (which is awesome); but, I'm a pretty dominant person. Seems like a bad thing?

And I have to tell you, from grammar-nazi to grammar-nazi... you have a spelling mistake in your profile. :X

HB9:

lol. thank you dominance isn't a bad thing in the right light...however when it hits controlling then we have a problem!

alter/altar ? haha yea, it's been pointed out before, I chose not to fix it but thank you.


Me:
ugh, yes. good to know that we're on the same page, then.

hah! so wait... you aren't a dominant stubborn rebel, are you? that sounds like a recipe for disaster. :p

HB9:
lmfao! I'm a sweetheart...really, not controlling, somewhat dominant, stubborn sometimes haha, rebel...used to be worse before I had my son..he softened my heart quite a bit ;P

Me:
Hmm... well, I'm not the type to be judgmental, so I'll give you the benefit of the doubt on that one for now. You do seem sweet, but something tells me a feisty side will eventually show itself. I can deal with stubborn, though... but only because I can't be a hypocrite by expecting the other person to. Hah


It just really varies. The less personal the message, the less response I've been receiving lately.

Profile:
http://dyi.li/2sn

Well, at the end of the day, this all comes down to style and our styles are very different (which is why we're only a 55% match I'm sorry to say). Your profile is a good reflection of a lot of the girls' profiles I read, I bet a lot of them can relate to you right away. I think it's way long, though. Also, do you really paintball in short sleeves?

I think that message chain was decent, but she's not asking you any questions which I think shows lack of interest/social skills. Like any other game, you should be doing at least 2 things at once. You're building rapport, but it's pretty surface level. You should also be injecting in some serious questions designed to get to know her. What questions do you want her to ask you, women tend to be in an hurry online and will often just reflect one of your serious questions back to you. Try to hook them with a good question.

You should also be talking a little about yourself SERIOUSLY to build comfort, just a tidbit here and there. While you're doing this, you need to be working toward a number close or date. Your messages look like you're perfectly happy just making online small talk and banter. Then again, these are style suggestions and a lot of logic...

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31 and still figuring it out.

Thanks man.
Yeah, I tend to overheat in anything more. You get used to it. Sorta...

I cut down on the profile a bit. I kept adding to it and didn't realize that it had gotten out of hand. Typically I try to lead them into asking about my acting career or something along that as it gives me a good opportunity to DHV and most of them usually dig that.

I guess I have a tough time linking all of the questions towards an end goal, although I did well in a recent one (posted).

Thanks for the advice.

So you have the first step right which is write something related to their profile. I have studied this extensively, it works. So congrats. Anyways, the reason you are failing from there is because you are trying to do something messaging is not intended for, escalation or building attraction. If she responds on online dating, she is already interested in potentially meeting you, so just go an suggest meeting up sometime. Seriously, it really is that easy.

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