| In the last 10 months, I have had sex with around 45 girls from online (OkC, Skout, Positive Singles), probably 40 of the 45 were on the first date. It isn't hard.
1) Send a quick original message to them that shows common interests and that you are witty, actually read their whole profile, and can use capitalization/proper grammar. The quality girls have seen all of the 'fail proof opening messages before.' Just be yourself, only a more confident and witty version of you.
2) Reply to their reply, writing a full message, and starting new conversation threads, but at the end of the message say that you are doing something and it would be fun for her to join and get her number. "There is a new bar (ice cream shop, rock climbing gym, whatever) that opened up that sounds like a lot of fun that I have been meaning to check out and you should come with me. What is the best number to reach you at?"
3) Be upbeat but mostly logistical in your texting. You can strike out and ruin everything by being too sexual via text, and you can't hit a home run and guarantee sex. Play it safe and get a date. I like to not spend $100 on a first date where I don't even know if I will like the girl, so I always say 'after we have dinner, let's meet up for some drinks and _____ (shuffleboard, improv, standup, darts, pool, ice cream, whatever). Dinner dates are awful and expensive.
4) Find out where she lives and pick a place that is on the other side of her house and yours, meaning it makes logistical sense for her to meet at your house and head out from there. You will need to know a lot of places to to go for a first date to make your place always on your date's way to the destination, but this is crucial.
5) Have her meet at your house and head out in one car. If she gives light resistance, overcome it, (Her: I would prefer to meet at the bar, you could be a crazy person, lol. You: Haha, it is actually me who is concerned about your sanity You are a Chicago Bears fan. I am trying to give you the benefit of the doubt, but if you insist on destroying the environment and dealing with parking two cars downtown, meeting at the bar works for me.) but if she is firm on meeting at your date location, just go with it. Some girls are very protective and you don't want to trigger her defensive shield.
6.) Meet her, be normal and not creepy. After a drink or two you can start kino, but make it very natural and brief. You don't need to overdue it. If you have been interesting and fun to talk to, once you start escalation for real, things will take off.
7.) Kiss her during the date, not at the end. Make a shuffleboard bet. Ask her what she wants if she wins. She will hopefully say something like another date, but you will say, 'ok, if I win, I want another one of these...' and grad her and kiss her. Almost a peck at first, but leave the door open to let it turn passionate. I have had a lot of first kisses this way and the girl loves it.
8.) Have something interesting at your house you have to show her. Talk about an internet video she has to see, a collection you have she would find interesting, some music she has to hear, an amazing type of ice cream you have, whatever. There just needs to be a compelling reason for her to come into your house (where her car already is and you have to return to after you have been drinking).
9.) When she enters your house, play very cool and impartial. Don't escalate with her until you are ready for sex. Get her a drink and show her what she came to your house to see. Hopefully this will be in your bedroom, but you can always move there after you are are both naked and beyond ready to go. The easiest way to quickly escalate is to kiss her while standing, and after she starts getting really into it, to throw/shove her onto the nearest couch/bed/whatever you can have sex on. Make it very aggressive and dominant. She will be putty in your hands.
10.) Get used to having to sex with multiple people everyday.
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