Hey so theres this girl from my high school who I added on fb and proceeded to chat w/. Things seemed good, but I can’t get her to hang. Don’t understand why, so I’m putting it up here in its entirety. I know you guys don’t like reading a lot of text so skim or skip or whatever.


tuna_casserole: Hey long time no see. How 'ya been? 11:47am
Her: Do we know each other? 11:48am
tuna_casserole: well shit, you added me.

I’m half kidding. 11:48am
Her: Well shit, you requested me! Lol 11:48am
tuna_casserole: touche. 11:48am
Her: Hahahahhahahs 11:49am
tuna_casserole: no, I think I vaguely remember you from high school.
11:49am
Her: Touché? Oh yaaaap

*names high school*:49am
tuna_casserole: yup yup

that was you right? lol

anyway, tell me something interesting about yourself.
11:52am
Her: Yes

Interesting? None. Unique yes. 11:54am
tuna_casserole: ok. what's unique about you?



8 DAYS LATER
tuna_casserole: So I saw the prettiest bird the other day. 7:16pm
Her: Lucky you 9:06pm




1 DAY LATER

4:01am
tuna_casserole: I thought you'd appreciate it for some reason. I notice you have an eye for aesthetics.
Her: You saw me? 4:54am

If that was the case then thank you for the compliment?!


10 HOURS LATER

tuna_casserole: Yea, I guess it's the way you put yourself together. Colors that accentuate certain things about you.. (I think this might have been a bit much) 3:07pm

Anyway, what do you like to do for fun? (maybe I should have gotten her number or time bridged her here instead of asking her question. I felt like I should have connected


3 DAYS LATER

Her: Aw thank you love 1:20pm

tuna_casserole: No prob. So tell me about yourself mai. lol. what was your favorite movie when you were a kid? (is this trying hard to make a connection with this persistence? Perhaps I should have gone for the number?) 1:38pm
Her: I'm not too sure. I guess Alice in wonderland 2:06pm
tuna_casserole: Nice. You cant laught at me if I tell you mine. 2:31pm
Her: Why would I laugh 3:07pm

Ill laugh with u but not at u


3 DAYS LATER
tuna_casserole: Oh cool you have a beautiful heart. 10:55pm




1 DAY LATER

tuna_casserole: So its Beauty and the Beast. Lol 12:06pm

Her: LOLOLOL!!! How cute 12:37pm
tuna_casserole: Yea, awesome movie. 2:10pm
Her: Do u like music
tuna_casserole: So I was thinking of heading out to a couple parties on st. patties day if you wanted to join me for the fun. Should be an incredible time. 2:11pm

Oh i didnt see that. yea I love music.

been playing since I was young.

here, listen to these songs I wrote a while ago. *reverbnation*
2:18pm
tuna_casserole: anyway, what kind of music are you into?



1 DAY LATER
11:26am
Her: Any kind of music is cool with me

Wale all for nothing
tuna_casserole: So yea do you want to hang out sunday or is it too soon to ask you that. Lol 4:09pm


1 DAY LATER

Her: What's ur cell 12:39pm
tuna_casserole: (I never give my number unless I’m getting hers, but for some reason I gave her mine first)
*give my number*. Whats yours so I know you aint a telemarketer. 12:53pm



Probably should have realized she’s not down to hang here after no compliance on the number.






3 DAYS LATER

tuna_casserole: Yea tonights gonna be hella fun. If you cant make it we can always do something another time. 1:32pm


2 DAYS LATER

tuna_casserole: Dude st. pattys day was so fun for me. I had a blast. 7:10pm

Her: Sweet 7:14pm
tuna_casserole: So I was thinking of getting tacos sometime soon. You should come with cause Im awesome. When are you free? 8:47pm



2 DAYS LATER

tuna_casserole: Hey goober. 1:29pm
Her: Sup 1:29pm
tuna_casserole: enjoying this awesome weather. life is sweet right now. 1:31pm
Her: Good good that's awesome to hear 1:32pm
tuna_casserole: yup yup. how you doin? (lame--should have injected banter, then asked the next question without the first sentence) 1:35pm
tuna_casserole: anyway, i feel like i kno you, but theres more that we probably dont kno about eachother. do you wanna get margaritas at chevys with me sometime? 1:47pm


5 DAYS LATER

tuna_casserole: hey brat. just realized how much cooler i am than you. 7:41pm
tuna_casserole: That was me being a jokester. you probably think im an asshole now. 7:51pm
Her: Not even 7:56pm
tuna_casserole: Great. this is an incredible quality that you must nurture. haha. 8:22pm
tuna_casserole: So what did you do over the weekend? 8:32pm


7 DAYS LATER

FB tells me its her birthday. I send her this.

tuna_casserole: Damn, didnt kno you were an aries. I cant talk to u anymore. 3:19pm

(maybe I should have added an lol here and dropped the “damn “ part which makes it seem more serious thru text then real life, but it probably don’t matter since she dosent want to hang out anyway)

well 1st things 1st u were to easy a catch. u started out great but then u kinda made it easy. 2nd comfort build before requesting a meet. and u probably should have got her number before giving yours. its kinda like when a job says we will call you meaning u didnt get the job. and yes at the end u were fight needed an lol and u probably could have played the damn depending on her rules on cussing. and stop asking questions. style in the game said to say open ended statements and see if she bites, if u get a "so.." thats an ioi and u should continue the convo

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Don't take as consideration what you will read because those are just my thoughts but Facebook or Myspace chatting is something you wanna avoid, this is crap. We should all agree on getting out and talking to girls face to face.

I think the way you started was great but than again easy to catch but don't forget this, never be sorry for anything you feel confident with and be honest all the time, tell her right away that you feel her and your into it. Lead the way.

Also I felt she was being a little sarcastic and was using the "cat theory" on you. Remember, you are the prize and she runs after you. Communication is the responsibility of the communicator. And you are the communicator. And if you're having a lot of boring conversations with lot of boring girls, that means you are not communicating well.

The best thing you can do from now on is ask her number. If she don't give it, get to know her friends and maybe get her number. You might know where she works or something useful where she goes shopping, etc. And if you are still a creeper to her, than turn around and fuck off ! There is so many beautiful woman on this earth and one life to live, we can't afford wasting time on such little problems. I hope this help my friend, I wish you luck !

There is some horrible advice on these posts.

The ultimate litmus test of how she feels about you is generally based on how she reacts to your invites/questions. If you ask to hang out and she says, "Sorry, I'm busy that day", instead of, "Hey sorry I'm really busy studying that weekend but I can hang out on Wednesday night if you're free?", then you can make the educated assumption that she ain't into you.

Also, whens the last time you met this girl? Did you have any history with her or are you coming across a stalkerish creep? Because in order to use negs or push/pull or any of those tactics, you need rapport and at least a little attraction. Is this the case or did you find her on FB and realized she's still hot?

Here are some awkward moments:
- You seeing the prettiest bird and her replying "lucky you." I would have stopped all communication right here. And that was an ultra weak line to try to get her to engage with you.
- When you're way too complimentary about her to a point where you've gone past "oh he sees other sides to me and not just my beauty" and are venturing towards, "this dude spends way too much time thinking about me."
- There are days in between texts. Not "ok I'll talk to you soon" texts, but awkward lulls in convo.

I know it was a bit harsh, but this is a great example of a learning experience. Most of us have done FAR worse than this so no need to get down about it.

Remember there's a balance to everything in life, and to me, none more so than dealing with women. You can't get greedy when you get her engaged a little bit, you have to temper your own excitement and try to get something to stick with her. Pet names and inside jokes are the fast track to rapport so anything along those lines you can SHARE with her gives you more value as a person. Treating it like an interview is exactly when women start to smell bullshit or just get bored.

Good luck!

i disagree with la canette and agree more with riri. u can use fb as a way to get women. i have done it. its a great way to get women if you are broke and have no money for bars or clubs. but yes you do have to use what she says in response as a way to judge if shes interested.

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