First I'd like to say good work. If you are doing better than before than that is SOME progress. Keep approaching. Now I will spill some blood.
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First and worst: Background: Cold approach that went fairly sour but I managed to fb-close her. She did not accept my request for a year. About 2 weeks after her accepting I sent her this:
Wow you took a really long time to add me, whats up with that?
*no reply for 2 weeks up until now (still no reply)
She waited a year to accept your request. Why do you give a fuck about her? Did she not make it quite clear she isn't interested? What is your intent on messaging her or any other girls via facebook? What did you like about her in the first place? Does she know why you liked her?
You said you don't have the game for phone calls or texts so you ask for facebook. YOU ARE SENDING THIS SAME MESSAGE TO EVERY GIRL YOU ASK. Also....don't you want her name anyway so you know who it is you're talking to? That should be something you find out in the first minute of conversation.
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Second: Approached indirectly on campus with something about her jacket. Tried to ramble on/ talk about that for a few more minutes and got her name to add on FB.
FB Convo all via FB messages:
My initiator:
I checked out landsend.com Its pretty pricy... Did you buy from online? I feel like the store might be cheaper
9:24pm
Her
Yeah I got it online but they were having this crazy sale and I got t like 40% off so it was good
January 27
11:03pm
Me
Oh ok thanks. And you were in a beauty pageant? I know people who have been. You didnt look chinese either so that was surprising
January 28
9:05am
Her
Haha yeah I get that a lot. I'm only half.
*sensed it might be a convo ender. Didn't want to push it
March 15 (Weeks later I try again after never talking/seeing her)
9:05pm
Hey! Hows school going? Do you have to fly all the way back to California for spring break?
9:34pm
Her
Hey! School is going well. I'm actually sticking around here for break. How are things for you?
10:45pm
Good, I live close to home so it's not too big a problem. That could be a good thing though to stay over break. Dorms are closed so Im guessing you're partying it up in like an off campus apartment?
11:28pm
Her
Nope I'm at home
*sensed this was a short, terse response on purpose. Did not try to continue
It's clear you have no intent in your actions. From the direction of your approach and entire game you should feel successful
Congrats! You jacket opened a girl, and you jacket closed her. Mission accomplished.
You also asked her personal things about herself that you only knew because of facebook. You stalked her...and then told her that you stalked her...passively. That's creepy. Also you're asking her on facebook. I'm assuming you're asking her while she's also logged on, so again another sign of stalking. People don't like to be stalked.
I do some creepy shit, but I know it's creepy. If I creeped someone's facebook like a stalker, I tell them later on like "oh ya I creeped your facebook like a stalker so I already know." I don't do it when they're on facebook, making them feel like I invaded their personal space.
When you asked about what she was doing over break, you didn't capitalize on anything. How do you expect to get a date without asking for one? How do you expect to get dating experience without going on a date or just hanging out with girls. It seems to me like you have very limited interactions with girls on any level. You could highly benefit from friendships with them. As long as you friendzone them first, it holds attraction.
Long Term: When you roll out to a party with many other women, the guys want to be you and the other women want to be with you. If you haven't ever tried to get with the girls you're with, then they won't talk about you under the pretext of "This is a guy who wasn't good enough to get with me, so I let him be friends and he followed me around like a puppy."
Girls actually want to help shy guys break out of their shells. Find some to help you. I can help you only so much. A girl is also....well...a girl. Her presence will help you become more comfortable.
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Third:
Pretty good looking girl. Approached on campus indirectly with something, kept trying to keep the convo going with stuff I observed about her i.e. she played soccer for the school team so I asked her a bit about that. Didn't last too long. Asked for her name so I could add on FB like Ive done before. (I actually say "to add on FB" i realize how beta that sounds but sheesh I have no use for a phone number unless Im asking her on a date and/or having text conversations and I have not enough game for that) It took her like over half a week to accept. There have been quite a few girls who just ignored the request (rejected the FB request) so that's progress at least :/
The FB convo:
Initiated about half a week after she accepted:
What store did you buy those boots that zip from the back? I can't find it on Google..
Her:
Steve Madden
Me:
Thank you!
They are so badass
*No response
Girl 3 is the hottest and I really felt there was a possible connection initially but may I screwed it up or something. I sensed she cut the convo short on purpose with these short answers so I did not continue the conversation. It might just be the beta in me but I still feel I have some chance. But I somehow know it might be over. Another part of me is already saying 'she wasnt that hot anyways'
It's been about a month-ish since then and all 3 girls still have me added on Facebook
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If there was a connection you would've had something to talk about that wasn't women's footwear. Are you into women's footwear? Do you have a collection? Were you looking to buy a pair for a girlfriend you don't have? Why not ask her in person where she got them? What is your intention in talking to this girl? What social value do you have on campus? You should focus on building a social circle so you have some kind of value to bring to others. Nobody wants to befriend a social leech. Find something you can offer others, like a party. Then find girls to bring to the party.
BAM
CHAT
Not sure whats up with that
