I met the girl in NYC at a friend's birthday party dinner. We hit it off pretty well and became facebook friends shortly thereafter.

She lives in Philly and I'm in NY.

This morning, on a whim, I decided to fb message her. I said I might be in Philly for a conference next week, and then while acknowledging that my message was "super forward", asked her if she was free for dinner "any one of those nights."

Naturally, the message was a little vague: I never specified which days I'd be in town for, nor did I mention what the conference was about. I purposely tried to simply pique her interest.

She responded with a phone number and asked which nights I'm in town for. Awesome. Only problem is that the conference doesn't exist. I just wanted to "test the waters" and see if she was interested.

While I was drafting the message, my thoughts were that in the event she'd respond the way she actually did, I could just text her a bit to build rapport (moving the conversation off fb), eventually make up a reason for why I can't attend the conference, and then try to plan to meet up in NYC at some point in the future.

My only problem is that I don't know how to move forward while keeping myself out of the friend zone. Things are good at the immediate moment because it's obvious that she's down to go on a date. But if I keep talking to her, with no definite date for a future rendezvous, I fear I may slip into the friend zone.

What do you guys think I should do?

This is something inevitable. No matter how much time bridging and comfort you built, emotions fade with time. Why do you think most of the long distance bound to fall apart? Future projection and plan are extremely important in this case, it gives two people something to look forwards to.

You should have never made up that lie to begin with. In every attraction, if you don't sexual escalate, you bound to fall into friendzone. Same concept here, no matter how much flirting you do with me, if you don't actually meet and fuck her within an appropriate time frame, her interest will be lost. Best thing to do is just stay on her radar, check in from time to time for a tease or some fluff talk, then if you ACTUAL meet up, you can start gaming her and sexual escalate.

But why waste so much effort gaming a girl who is thousands miles away that you might or might not meet again rather than focus on women within your vicinity?

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Create a dramatic reason why you either can't meet with her or go to the conference. That'll keep her interested while giving you a way out.


Dont bother with her again until you can actually follow through with it

Tell her your girlfriend decided to go with you

LOL. Way too alpha.

Anyway, the texting has begun. We're building rapport. For now, I told her I'm still wishy washy on whether I can attend. I'll probably end up saying that work came up, and I'll have to attend some other time.

Just to confirm though, there is a general consensus that if I continue texting her for too long, it's instant friend zone?