I've apparently got a serious consistent problem with my text game, but I'm not sure what it is....

I get a girl's number, chat her up through text, and establish plenty of attraction and comfort. i.e. this MILF and I were talking about sex and it quickly escalated to talking about sex with the two of us.... same deal with another girl, her saying shit like she can't wait for me to come over and fuck her. One morning I even wake up to a text with a pic of her and another girl fondling each other naked, asking if I'm down for a 3some. Another cute girl I even met up with, made out with, and the whole time we talked about sex and how much she likes it. She even invited me over to her place to "smoke and chill" sometime which we both knew meant sex. Several days later I make plans to hang with her, and in the middle of planning she stops responding and I never hear from her again. There's another girl I met up and had a great date with (there's a thread about it somewhere here) and she expressed desire to hang out again.

All of these girls eventually went cold or became dead air, and for no reason that I can see.

This is bugging the shit out of me because as far as I can see, I'm having purely positive conversations/interactions with them. 1 or 2 girls, I understand it might just be that something happened in their lives. But this has been happening consistently. I feel like I'm being presented with all these great opportunities and just throwing them away, without even knowing what I'm doing wrong.

I'm not a master, but I'm no newbie. I'm calibrated enough to know when a conversation/interaction with a girl is mutually being enjoyed, and when it's not. If I meet up with these girls, I always kiss close them on the first date with the exception of the one I have another thread about (I usually f-close on the first date, but lately that hasn't been happening either). And I've received plenty of compliments that I'm "cute"/"have a great body." So I have no clue what's going on here; there was never anything negative between me and any of these girls

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Well, assuming that this is a trend, and not a string of misfortunes very poorly timed, I can see 3 possible explanations right now:

1- You are misreading them: This would imply that you consistently make the same mistake at some point, and you misread their reaction, thus perpetuating the mistake.

2- You are gaming flaky girls: It's very possible that the subgroup of girls you subconsciously are attracted to and game online have a higher incidence of flaking, party girls aren't exactly the most reliable type IRL, so imagine in online game...

3- Your inner game is failing: You lose confidence at some point in the sarge and this translates to the general feel of your messages. Alternatively you overdo it and become too cocky for your frame.

Probably a mix of 2 and 3, mostly 3... my lifestyle isn't exactly that great at the moment. I'm hyperaware about not letting it affect my game, but you can only do so much about that kind of thing. I've literally had a MILF text me a short video of her drinking topless and shaking her bigass titties as an unrequested consolation for flaking on me.... and I still managed to fuck that one up.

Right now the only stable girl I have is the one from the "I'm a Makeout Whore" thread. She's turned out to be pretty great and is the only one who offers a different night if she has to flake (which she almost never does). But I met her a year ago and have kept up loosely consistent contact with her since then. 99% of the girls I've been meeting/texting since mid-December have turned cold on me, no matter how hot they were before.

My inner game is definitely taking a hit b/c of how my life is right now, no question. Still, I was in this same situation a year ago and my success rate was much fucking higher. My only guess is that I've gotten more impatient, and maybe it's led to me texting them more/ pushing harder for the date earlier on.

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Well I was exactly where you are now 2-3 years ago, I had great game but my lifestyle was all party and no career. My advice to you would be working on your lifestyle, things flow much more smoothly when you have both social proof and achievements. It improves your inner game as well as well...your life.

I might have a lower level of purely theoretical game than 3 years ago, but I find that I mostly don't need it and have a much healthier perspective on relationships. In the end, the best game is pure and natural confidence, and no amount of horny guys on a forum can give that to you

Gotta agree 100%. I'm dealing with some personal shit that's making it hard to get my life on track, but I remember that feeling of natural, genuine confidence, and it felt pretty great. A lot better than the fake-it-til-you-make-it stuff, which is what I'm going off of right now. I'm moving to Korea in a few months, so I'm hoping that'll give me the kick in the ass I need.

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