...I met her about a year ago, and I've hung out with her a few times. Last time, which was a couple days ago, was magical. I stayed the night with her, we listened to music, and we cuddled and made out. We didn't go all the way though. We have so much in common, even the same birthmark. So when I left her place, I started already missing her. I still do. Well, last night, I told her on facebook I have feelings for her. Strong feelings. I'm in love, I said. But...she couldn't say it back, she couldn't find the right words to say. It was along the lines of I really really like you and I want to move slow. So ...how do make her fall for me? I can't get her off my mind, and she lives sort of far from me (and hour bus ride) so we only have facebook right now to talk.

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Wow you pushed her away. You did almost every thing wrong.
1. You have Oneitest.
2. You said I LOVE YOU. and did it on face book?
3. Put her in a corner where shes not chasing you but you are smothering her.
4. Making out is good but making her cum is sure way to making her fall for you.
5. And this is a big one. Its been a year? your friend zoned. you need to man the fuck up.

Also there are very few ladies on this board. Its mostly boys and men. Also don't ask women what the want or ask them for dating advice they don't know.

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"Chicks are crazy and guys are dumb." Chinopants.

http://www.youtube.com/watch?feature=en ... a_Nno&NR=1

1. There aren't that many girls on this forum, fyi.

2. How old are you?

3. About how many times have you hung out with her/how much time have you spent with her?

4. You did the "I love you" thing over Facebook? Come on, man. Even if she's some distance away, at least do that shit on the phone.

5. There is no specific or even general way to "make someone fall for you." Love is like a (much) higher level of seduction.... seduction is based on exemplifying positive, attractive traits like confidence, playfulness, intelligence, etc. These are things that generally appeal to most women.


I'm not going to pretend to be an expert on love, but this is my interpretation....

Love is different from seduction/pick-up because you're not attracting the girl (you've already done that), but connecting with her on a number of different levels, i.e. you start to respect each other, trust each other, care about each other's lives, want to make each other happy, etc. There is no one way for this to happen because everyone has different principles, interests, and values.... a girl who is driven might respect you for having goals and ambitions while another might not give a shit and is happy coasting through life (you might even make her uncomfortable because your ambition reminds her that she's not going anywhere in life).

I've been in the position of having unrequited love for someone, and it sucks. But she didn't reject your feelings, she just said she wants to take it slow. Which means she's open to loving you back, and that's all you really need. So if you want her to love you back, don't push the matter. Enjoy your time with her the way you have been, and if it's meant to happen then it will happen naturally.

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1. Nothing wrong with oneitis if that's what a guy truly wants (and he isn't settling just because he doesn't believe in his ability to get other women)

2. Yeah, I wouldn't do that either

3. I agree, he should ease it back a little.

4. Ok, gotta disagree. I've made a lot of girls cum, and they didn't automatically fall in love with me. Sex is a physical act; love is emotional. Sex with a guy might be how some girls fall in love, but they've all got some serious issues.

5. Doesn't sound like he's friend zoned. He just said the last time they hung out they made out and cuddled. And when he told her about his feelings, she didn't say "Let's just be friends" or "I like you as a friend".... she said she really likes him and wants to take it slow. You don't say something like that to a friend.

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Thanks guys for the answers. I meant guys, not ladies. I've posted questions on answers before so I'm used to saying ladies. But yeah, I'm 21. And we've hung out face to face around 3 or 4 times. The last time got romantic though.

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Yeah, he's not in the friendzone, unless his declaration put him there. Dude, you need to take it slow, or you're gonna creep her out. I know infatuation can be a powerful feeling, but it's the chemicals in your brain trying to fuck with your logic.

An hour bus ride isn't that bad honestly, I used to do that to and from school. Just go on dates, keep her interest up and escalate physically. You don't need to bang her in an alley next time you see her, but move up the ladder.

There's nothing wrong with being into someone, in fact I'm certain that's the goal of many people in the pickup game, but pickup exists to help us attain our goals and realize that women have different attraction switches than men. If you build comfort with the girl and manage to show that you're confident, interesting and a good time, she'll be the one saying those words to you next time, so chill, you have a foot in the door.

PS: No more declarations on facebook

I agree with Irish. You're fine. Hanging out 3 or 4 times is way, way too early to drop the L bomb, but honestly, if she's not only still talking to you but says she really likes you after you told her that so soon (and over FB, no less), she must really be into you.

So don't fret. Just don't bring up the "I love you" thing again (at least until several months down the road, or if she says it to you). Absolutely scale back the affection until that level is appropriate and you should be fine.

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By the way guys, she was my first number close. Forgot to mention that. Thanks for the tips. I will keep them in mind.

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Some pretty solid advice towards the end here. One thing I didn't see anyone say is "Do not apologize for saying it" just act like it was never said! If you spend the night with her then you need to be having sex with her, push the limits a little, if she gives some LMR slow down a bit and then move forward again. Actions speak volumes over words!

Good luck...

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