DON'T SHOOT YOURSELF IN THE DICK LIKE I DID!!!

If you are sending messages back and forth with a girl online (especially if messaging is stable but not frequent: 1 message a day type thing) it is super important to re-read your conversation up to that point before sending a message back!!

The reason why this is so important is because you need to stay consistent and stick to your guns, stay confident and in control. If you're showing confidence for the entire conversation and then you suddenly show a lack of it...the target will likely not reply. It doesn't matter how great things were before, you have to remember that this is online dating so you NEED to always be captivating your audience. If she's hot, she will likely have other offers on the table.

With me, I was talking with this sexy-ass HB 8.5 and I was being confident and assertive and she was of course responding well to this. I then sent her a message asking when we should meet up, to which she told me she was free this week. Staying consistent I told her I was free on Saturday after 6pm and that we should meet up then. She replied: "I don't know."

This is where my penis inverted itself.

I suddenly became MR. NiceGuyHugePussy and said: "Don mean to rush things. Wanna chat on SPAM first and go from there?"

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This was obviously just LMR (last-minute resistance) so that she wouldn't come across as being too easy or anything and was a test to see how I would respond. I failed miserably! But, this could have been avoided if I had re-read the conversation up to that point because I read the message out of context and saw her as something she wasn't at all. And that was being uncomfortable/scared about meeting up with me. If she wasn't interested/comfortable in meeting up with me, she jus wouldn't have responded. Plain and simple.

In this situation a good answer would have been: "How about this, we get together on Saturday at 6pm and I'll promise not to outdress you/out-perform you/pay for dinner/reject you when you try to kiss me" etc.....

The options were many yet I panicked and now I'm sitting at home on Saturday doing homework in my PJs when I could have been out getting some action!

It's possible to bounce back from such a failure but it can be extremely difficult.

I'm pretty new to all of this and now that you've mentioned I haven't been too consistent myself. :S maybe that's why i've been messaging for 90+ messages and not be able to get a date out of it.

I'll have to thread really carefully to see if I can salvage something anything with this HB8.5
Any suggestions how to approach this?
Check my thread to see what the heck i'm talking about.