| damn you birdboy, I assume this is facebook, STOP IT, BAD BAD, meet them in person, it is easier, when you say bad things, girls can't just hit the block button, they have to deal with the tension, just like you would, and dealing with the tension makes you better at dealing with tension, avoiding the tension and staying in your comfort zone won't help you improve, it will just help you remain comfortable (and you got lots of time to practise dude, rome wasn't built in a day)
anyways,
still falling into her frame, when you get cornered at the start, just don't follow her script, change the meaning into something postive don't follow her down the dark trail, she doesn't know where the fuck she is going, don't let her lead the way, have an idea of where you are going
that opener steals the frame nice,
why should I remove the picture? (the reason why = answer she wants, stays in her frame)
instead, your answer = hope you can take a joke, thought you were cute, had to say hi (doesn't fall into her frame, new frame = qualifying her, do you have a sense of humour? you're cute)
^ totally ignores what she wants, and addresses what you want (hitting on her and seeing what she is like)
hb: ''HAHA bla blah blah qualify myself I'm a hb give me back the frame! I'm hot you better answer my question!''
you: ''you came up as... sure ill give you the frame back and let you dictate what this means, cmon lead me, you got problems with this approach?, oh wait are you a leader?''
her: ''wtf?''
you: ''why wtf bro? you're weird''
hb: ''NO YOU!'' (doesn't respond)
the force is strong with this girl, she senses incongruence in your frame and it's only over text, be more genuine man, and stop caring about the approval, just move on with expressing what you want, what she wants is... meh, leave consideration for that after you screen her a bit to see if she is worth it
start addressing when she has qualified herself for you, reward that shit, and dissmiss her frame early, show her who runs this show, be strong, and drop the lines and stuff dude, that qualifier you used was just plain weird, find out qualities you actually want in a girl, and qualify them based on those qualities, I doubt you want a bossy party animal who always steals the frame (or maybe you do *shrugs*)
so here is an example of how you could have just held the frame, if she responds after that is up to facebook gods, and the gods of facebook are cruel evil gods,
HB: ''Haha i can take one so no worries, thanks. How did you even come across me though? X''
you: Awesome, I'm so happy you can take a joke.(wipes sweat off forehead) Girls with a sense of humour are the kind I crush on. Some girls take things way too seriously, a sense of humour and confidence in a girl is so hard to find. If you saw a cute guy on your reccomended friends, you would probably message that guy up in a heartbeat too, wouldn't you? I mean.. you seemed confident from your pictures.
anyways...
stop using canned shit, just remember, what you want, not what she wants, and speak from yourself not from a text book, use your own words, stay congruent to who you really are, what you really want, not what some book tells you to want in order to get a vagina to spread open for you, forget the vagina for now, it's about the person first, the vagina comes after the two people like each other and exchange mutual feelings, but you gotta lead that shit out of her, and even doing so with a clear vision of what you want does not mean she will want the same thing or have chemistry with you, or find you attractive, it's up to you to do all the work to figure out if everything lines up well and she is a good catch or not
and hopefully you want happy sunshine times, and talking and flirting, and meeting, and making out, and sex
just keep dis-qualifying things that clash agaisn't your frame, dissmiss them from the frame entirely, set your own frame, make your own threads, cut the ones that are not productive, and keep the ones that fall along the lines of your ends
and seriously dude, GO OUT IN PERSON, SOOOOOOOOO MUCH EASIER, sex doesn't happen on facebook, that is where every young guy goes to creep on girls cause it takes less courage, girls are aware of this, especially hot girls with facebook walls, that have legions of minions giving them compliments daily that they could never give in person, in person you can demonstrate that all powerful confidence and strengthen it, leave girls dumbfounded thinking, wtf is this really happening, wow this guy is so sure of himself even now when most would be afraid (drip, drip)
GOOD LUCK
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