Part of the key to building comfort online is through teasing and the DHV story. Don't use online e-mail exchanges to ask a million questions about her. This does nothing to build comfort or attraction, and you are losing conversation topics for the eventual date. Instead, use DHV stories and teasing in order to build comfort. Treat her like an old friend or a bratty sister, continue this mentality during the phone conversation, THEN treat her like a date once you actually see her. Examples of this in action:

Once I learn the HB's name, I'll begin the second e-mail with this line (say her name is Allison):

Alli,

I'm just letting you know that I'll be calling you Ali from now as that last "son" is just too much for me to type. I'm a busy man with things to do...

This works for any girls name, just about, and it already makes you cock-funny, gives her a nickname (comfort), and DHVs.

Another great thing to do is role-play. This is an ESPECIALLY powerful comfort building tool that Durden likes to employ and he's definitely right. Chicks eat it up.

Remember, when you talk on the phone, there are a few things to remember to keep her from flaking:

1) Keep it short (15 minutes max).
2) Make sure your voice has higher energy than hers during the conversation (sound fun and exciting)
3) Know exactly where you want to go on the first date before you call. Girls like to be told all of this, dating is not a democracy. Even the most independent of girls LOVE men who take control of the date so she can sit back and relax. Also, take her to a place you can easily bounce from.
4) Keep an air of mystery about you. Never give her a straight answer. Maybe tell her you have a surprise for her or something like that (you can figure out the surprise later). All of this is meant to be enticing and to keep her from flaking.

Any more questions, just ask. I used to depend solely on online dating and did very well with it. I've been on atleast 50 dates over a 2 year span . Most didn't go well (I didn't like the girl)...and thats the final lesson. Never put too much stock into anything online until you meet face to face. Everything is meaningless until you meet. By now, even if I'm going out with an HB 10 on a first date from online I'm not nervous AT ALL since I expect nothing.

-Esperanto

Great Tips Esperanto! I have found these things to be true during my online sarging as well. The more you fluff talk to do online through email and IM the less you have to talk about on your date. Then by date#2 you seem to have a lot of awkward silence because you've already discussed so much.

Good Post

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