Ok, where do I begin. Haven't had that much success on OKC, or POF until I started being a little more brazen in my chat interactions.

So I get this message on POF last week(Tuesday) from a woman who says that she likes my profile...blah, blah, blah. So I ask her to switch to IM because the email thing is so effin' slow. She complies...yada, yada, yada. She start giving me shit tests, and asking interview questions...then she flakes.

So the next day I see her online, and send her a chat invitation. She accepts. We talk for awhile, and i give her a fake time constraint - and stick to it.

Later on that evening she finds me online and starts in on the interview questions again....I ignore her at one point for a good 20 minutes. Then come back with this:

*Imagine my lips on your neck, while my hand finds its way between your legs.....*

No response for another solid 10 minutes, or so...(I wish I'd saved the IM)

She comes back with a response about how that would feel sooo good. And we go back and forth for an hour - trading sexual IMs - getting very graphic.

The next day she Emails me apologizing for the sordid exchange, and how she is not like that....blah, blah, blah. And she hopes I am not offended because she really thinks I'm a good guy, and someone who she could start to get to know better....I said that it was just something that 'came out', and I'm not usually like that. And have no idea why I said what I said.

EDIT: found the message! *i'm a product of the catholic school sysem. Listen, I kind of feel guilty( see catholic girl) for getting a little graphic with you the other night. You seem like a real nice person worth getting to know and that was not the way to do it.*

Then this:

*Well, I really didnt want you to think bad of me is all. I know you dont know me but nonetheless that's how I feel. I knew you were freaked out about the name and obviously the phone number since you never gave it. Thats too bad cause you're gonna have to give it to someone unless just sexual late night messages are all you're looking for. Which was pretty hot and kind of fun...you got me all hot and bothered with the "kiss on the neck and hand"...well you know...
Hope you had a good day!!*


She was at work, and had to go do something....in the interim, I sent her a lone email stating, *We should meet for drinks this weekend*

Doesn't come back during work hours, but later that night we plan on meeting for drinks at Chili's during the AFC Championship game.

So Sunday comes, and I get to Chili's at 1:50p (we planned on meeting at 2p). She calls at exactly 2p, and asks me if we are still on - because she hasn't heard from me. I explain that I am already there...and she says she's right around the corner.

She walks in, we make eye contact - she says are you XXXX? I say yes. I stand up, and she sticks out her hand! Inside I'm like WTF!

So we sit down....more interview questions. Waitress comes over at least 6 times - we send her away. This woman's eyes are like lasers aimed right in my eye sockets. Like the Doggie Dogbowl shit. She's kicking me under the table, and then has her legs wrapped around my feet. We start going back and forth with questions - and on like her 15th question says, 'Do you want to kiss me?' I was surprised, and froze. Collecting myself, I replied with 'Yes, but not right now'....

We order drinks, food, and finish eating by halftime. At one point She clears the space between us that held her margarita mug, and I just reached over, grabbed her arm - and slid my hand up her sweater sleeve....and started caressing her arm. She immediately closed her eyes, with eyes rolling back from underneath. She said she liked that, then grabbed my arm and did the same - saying I had soft skin, and a gentle touch.

To make a long story short...NE won the game, I paid the bill, went to the men's room, walked her to the car - and she just grabbed me and started softly making out with me. I pulled her closer by her hips - then slid my hands down and held her ass. We pulled apart, her eyes like DDBs again....she turned to go to her door, and i grabbed the front of her girlie P-coat and pulled her in for another round. She acquiecsed. And then we left...



So my question is: Did that brazen sexual IM the previous tuesday plant some sort of unconscious seed that made her act like that in person? Cause this shit NEVER happens to me.

Nice!

Yeah, I think it's totally possible it planted a seed. I'm not up on the psychology, but all that IMing def made her think of you in a sexual way.

I've had similar happen to me as well...I can't say how I did it, I wish I knew, but sometimes it just happens.

I think it's like this: knowing men are more visual, and women respond more to words and thoughts, you talking sexually to her like that was the same as if you had gotten a really good look at her (hopefully ample) cleavage....that sexualizes it, and you go from being interested in them as a person to just wanting to get them in bed as soon as possible.