So this cute good looking girl from school added me. I don´t think I´ve ever spoken to her and we have only one class togheter, but I have noticed her checking me out. Can you guys think of any openers for this type of situation? Nothing to flirtatious please, as it is a small school and I already have kind of a reputation for being with many women...

Reply soon please as I´ve already accepted the request

Maybe something like: "Hmmm, I know I´ve seen you at school, but don´t think we´ve been introduced? Hi:) do you always add people like this?

No one responded to this poor guy! Sorry I didn't help but you don't want my advice.. trust me lol.

How did it go? What did you end up going with?

You: Hey, you look so familiar..but I am having trouble putting a place/event to your face..
Her: We went to school together! We had *class* with eachother!!
You: hmmm OH YEAH! *Teacher's name* class!!
Her: Yeah! Thats the one! So how have you been?
You: That really takes me back! I remember catching you checking me out all the time, tell me what you're doing with yourself now days..





Something like that???



Scratch that...I mis-read your post...and thought that she was a girl in a class you had in the past, not currently...

Well, if SHE added you....thats a good sign. It means she seeked you out and added you...so she is at least mildly interested in you.


What you should have done, was not accept her request right away....and bring it up IN PERSON....Anyway, you already accepted the request...so you can be like:

You:"So, I saw you sent me a request on face book...
Her: Yeah...blah blah blah
You: I don't usually accept people that I don't know...
Her: Well my name is blah blah blah
You: Well while we're on the subject, I usually don't accept people that check me out all class but don't have the balls to initiate conversation in person...but since you're cute, I made an exception with hopes that you will join me Saturday night for a drink.


Something like that....it shows her that you noticed her, even though it took her sending you a friend request on FB to get your attention...

Then you let it be known you don't ever add people you don't already have a friendship/relationship with....especially a female who checks you out, but doesn't confront you about it.............It shows that you like a woman in charge, not afraid, one who knows what she wants and will go and get it...Since she did not show these qualities, you didn't approach her when you noticed her checking you out. Also, SHE added YOU.....you're the type of man that prefers FACE TO FACE interactions....You let it be known, that so far, she doesn't fit the bill.....but since she's cute, you will give her a chance to prove to you that there is more than meets the eye....and you give her a chance to prove that to you, but letting it be known you will be HERE, Saturday night...and she can JOIN you, if she'd like.....don't ask her out. Tell her she is welcome to join you...if not, who cares, you'll be out enjoying yourself, meeting other women.


Good luck

Ah guees I should report back what I did!

Well the next day we had judo in our gymnastic group (which is the only class we have togheter), so I sat next to her. She opened me a little and I started to talk to her, got her to laugh alot. By the way, in that gymnastic group there are 5 guys and 32 women(thank you school system).

Then nothing really happened untill the end of the class, where did exercises next to each other and I made her smile and laugh a bit. Then the teacher said that everyone was had to pair up for some pair exercises, I did a hand sign for her to come and join me and I´m pretty sure she actually ditched her friend then in a split second.

The exercise involved a lot of body contact(thank you teacher), and she seemed to enjoy it.

After that we sat next to eachother as the teacher gave us info on the next weeks class, but two of my other lady friends sat themselves on either side of me. Felt like a boss at that point. Unfortunately, I realize now, I have not written this girl anything, because I´ve been busy. But I got time for slow game, smiling and nodding her in the hallways. unless someone got a better idéa?

you;'re guna have to start talking to her and escalating things man..otherwise she's guna think you're gay and/or not interested.....next class you have, talk to her..escalate things...get her phone number...tell her you're going somewhere fun/entertaining in a day or 2...pick any place you want...and tell her she is welcome to join you, and that you'll call her in a day or 2

Well good stuff, problem is that I can´t be that direct with her since I just found out that two of the girls I´ve made out with at the school, are her friends (and there are only like 450 people in the school), so I think I´m gonna play it slow. But you have a point, because I´m "playing it slow" with around 5 girls at the school and I´m not really getting anywhere beyond flirting (expect with this one girl who´s very on, but shes my friends x -,-).

so...you "played it slow" with 2 other girls, and didnt get past kissing them.....now you're "playing it slow" with this new interest, so what makes you think you're going to get anywhere with her? It clearly hasn't worked for you yet, you just admitted it.

Girls talk, my dude....would you rather be the guy that plays it slow and doesn't get anywhere... or would you rather be the guy they talk about having big balls, and knows how to treat himself to a quality woman? You make the call...

All I can tell you is my opinions based on what you have told me. And my opinion is make some moves fast....what you're doing now hasn't worked for you. So either keep doing the same thing, and get the same results...or change it up, be confident, go in for the kill, and be the man other guys are afraid to be..and succeed!

haha I agree with you completely, just have to kill all AFC in me untill our next meet. But if I´m gonna man upp, I want to do it with the right girl in school. I have no problems doing it outside of school.

Hmm I gues by thinking about it, I´m failing

There is nothing wrong with saving yourself for the right girl.....

But look at it this way.......if you don't start practicing on every other girl you come into contact with, that is attractive.....will you be able to handle the "right" girl when you meet her???


Get it in with the girls you have your eyes set on in school....Just let your intentions be known...if you're not looking for a serious relationship with them, let it be known...but it shouldn't stop you from talking to them and going on dates..If a girl doesn't like it that you're trying to get with her with no interest in a long term relationship...that's fine...You have other options, so make that girl your friend. Nothing wrong with that either

Thanks, you are a very good advisor. I did actually go in to this site to be able to catch the "right ones" whenever I meet them(which is like never). Will take some of your advice and definately not be going slow anymore