COMFORT ESCALATION THEORY
You may have heard me talk about this around the forum on various posts and even here on this very thread. This is something that is not new to the pickup community at all. It actually is a concept Mystery developed to coincide with his kino escalation. I have taken the concepts from that and applied them neatly to Online Game.
The Theory - The idea of comfort escalation theory is that you are going to have to make her more comfortable with you before escalating to different forms of contact with her.
What forms of contact do I have with her?
1. Email
2. Instant Messenger
3. Phone
4. In Person (end of online game)
Depending on the level of comfort you seem that you have with your online target you can completely skip these steps. These are in no way linear meaning you have to go 1,2,3,4... I have very frequently gone from 1 to 3. or even 1 to 4 in just a matter of a few messages. Much like calibration in the field you have to feel out based on her statements, and how quickly she is responding to you, if you can escalate.
How do we become calibrated? This is done the same as you would "in field" in an actual venue. You will need to spend time doing more online game and talking to women through various forms of communication and you will be able to almost imagine her in set in front of you. Different women can be pushed faster than others.
As an example, I have had to spend days to get a date with some women. With my present girlfriend we went from Craigslist to her Email to me, Instant Messaging, to date setup and # close inside a half day. The next day we met and been together ever since.
You need to realize that during comfort escalation that forms 1,2,3 of communication are very low risk to her. She can easily block your email, or IM screen name. She can easily screen her calls with caller ID as well. It is a luxury of mdoern technology.
DO NOT EVER APOLOGIZE if you get shot down while asking to escalate. Simply go back to the form you were on and keep talking. Keep building comfort, and attraction!!! After a while you can try to escalate again.
This very theory is a large portion of my online game that I have done in the past and is discuss in my Online Dating Blackbook that I wrote a while back. I write it here because I know many of you read this post looking for advice and ideas. This is one of the core ideas that I have about Online Game. Many others that are also good with Online Game on this forum and others agree with this theory.
It has worked for many of you who have asked questions of me on this thread and for myself as well. I hope this bit of information helps you get the girl!
Jon