Background, i met this chick with a couple of mates. i was bagging her for being a woman and needing to be in the kitchen (playfully of course). i then asked her to make me a cup of tea and she refused. all in all it was a bit of fun. I sent her a friend request on FB she added me and sent me a message. it goes as follows:

HB:
i don't know how i feel about being friends with you. you were quite a boogerface to me last time i saw you.

Me:
who said we were friends?? I just added you so anytime i was in Chicago i would know a woman who will cook for me (;

HB:
wow. oh my gosh, ahem. you are quite the charmer. i think you might have to find yourself another girl. sorry buddy.

Me:
thats what im best at but I think your underestimating quiet how much you like me... im sure when the time comes you'll make me dinner

HB:
YOU ARE THE MOST annoying and almost irritating boy i have met in forever! sheesh. the nerve you have. hahhhahahhhaha and dinner? get me to make you tea first. hahhahaha

How do you think it is going so far? any advice critique would be helpful.

Doing good so far.

She's hooked.

Now, change topics and pace the conversation. Also, don't put the negging in overkill. Give her a little compliment every once a while.

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continuation of things so far... I didn't reply to her last post so two days later she sent me another message:

HB:
oh. dont be mad at me. i just dont know what to do with you. anyways, when are you heading over to the states?

ME:
I'll only be mad at you when i come over and you haven't made me dinner
im heading over in about three weeks, when you going back?

HB:
hahaha. well. i cant really make you dinner, sorry. i am in the dorms. i am leaving on saturday (this coming one) and then i am working this first week, then school starts again. where is the place you are going to again???

Me:
ohhh so you'll take me out for dinner how nice, as long as your paying Did you have a good time in aussie? You scout out any hot chicks for me i can befriend? I'm going to xxxxxxx (:

HB:
oh my gosh!!! you are horrible. no, sorry, i was not aware that i was supposed to be scouting out hot chicks for you. and i am not ever taking you out to dinner. boogerface.

maybe i will come visit you. hahahaha. and you can pay for dinner, thanks.

get off this dinner shit, transition and qualify allready,then set up meet

im relatively inexperienced, what do you mean by qualify?

ok you are obviously trying to use indirect M3,

attraction in m3 goes as follows, A1 open social hook (she starts asking you questions) A2 female to male interest (you neg target dhv yourself) A3 male to female interest (after 3 ioi's you qualify your target and show interest, via bait hook reel release)

qualification:
you:can you cook?(i chose this one for you cause your convo is getting ridiculous)
her:yes im an expert cook
you:OH wow thats so awesome, girls that can cook are so sexy, I CANT EVEN TALK TO YOU

can you cook (bait) yes im an expert cook (hook) oh wow thats so awesome, girls that can cook are so sexy (reel-aka you qualify her to be with you because of trait) I CANT EVEN TALK TO YOU (release-aka you dis-qualify her so you don't seem to be chasing report with her)

you can lead into qualification and make it more subtle so it is more effective, establish commonalities at the same time, and there are different levels of qualification, but i wont get into that in this post the above is a very simple small hoop example

Stop droning on and on about cooking and dinner and all that.

You're a man, she's a woman. Cooking isn't the end game in this equation.

Talk about other things and she IS interested in you. Hint at that. Tell her you're not a prick and you have interest in her too.

And stop with the negging man. It's painful to read it beyond a point.

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" You're born alone and you die alone and this world just drops a bunch of rules on top of you to make you forget those facts. But I never forget. I'm living like there's no tomorrow, because there isn't one. "

oh please. you know EXACTLY what to do with me. as a matter of fact, you're probably thinking about it right now...



also, i agree with the others. drop the stupid "cook me dinner" thread and get onto something else. it was amusing at first, but the moment's gone. MOVE ON ALREADY. she's teasing you, she's clearly interested.