As our life's become busier and busier the need for online gaming becomes more apparent, rules against inner office dating, not liking the bar scene or even just plain to lazy to go out and do it, online is here, and if you have a tool...you should at least know how to use it.
So I started looking around and thinking about how this online interaction works and I've come up with a method that has been tried and true and had worked well for most people me and many others. This is basically an out line of how you should put together your profile, select photo's and most importantly contact, number close and setup a date. From there you can fall back on the social skills you've learned on this site and else where.
First lets take a look at photo selection
Most studies have shown that a girl/guy looks at someones pictures before they ever read their profiles, because of this we should really look at the photo's we use and look at them as an attraction tool.
Picture Tips:
Have at least 3 photo's on your page, only pictures of you (Girls don't care about your action figures your your dog, they're on these sights to find a guy)
You should try having photo's with yourself doing stuff; out with friends, a night on the town, hiking what ever, lets stay away from the photo's of you drunk on the sofa surrounded by Cheetos's.
My favorite tool for this is picture rating sights like hot or not dot com take a bunch of photo's put them up and other people rate them on a 1 to 10, take you best rated photo's and use them on your mach/pof/okcupid (or the like) site. These are the picture that girls are telling you you look good in.
The Profile
I see a lot of mistakes with guy's and girls profile, guys tend to ramble on or say too little. In your profile, every sentence should have a purpose. Never talk about insecurities, bad habits or
poor relationship history's (I can't count how many times I've come across guys/girls saying things like "I'm just out of a really bad relationship") if that is true...please don't advertise it, there is nothing attractive about it and we're looking to the future not talking about the passed.
Change your profile once a week, these sights will re-index profiles that change and it will keep you on the top of the match stack.
Things to be in your profile
-Don't be afraid to challenge in your profile
"is there more to you than just your looks"
-Talk about good features about yourself
(Don't talk about how your a "nice guy")
Short and sweet, "I'm a driven and goal oriented" things like that
Personality traits are always a winner....Confident, Charming, Funny ect...
- Talk about how you like to do many different things "I fit in at a formal dinner or a tailgater" activities, hunting, fishing, camping, sailing, cooking what ever try to list three things that are dissimilar.
- Talk about what you look for in a girl (stay away from the physical...everyone likes a nice ass and a cute smile) "I'm looking for a girl that's laid back likes to let her hair down and have some fun, someone that lets thing happen naturally, no pressure just living" again don't be afraid to be a little bit of a challenge.
- Talking about your friends and family is great "My friends are the best you could ask for", "My family is the most important thing in my life"
The Emails
Okay this is really the bread and butter of online sarging, your now going to open and convey your quality with this here, as a rule of thumb, girls don't send the first emails and guys mess up the first email. If you get this wrong, you will not get a second chance, luckily as long as you stay way from the creepy, needy nature, be a little different and a little fun, you should do just fine.
First Contact Basics
Girls online tend to get a lot of emails and many of those emails are from creepy sad guys and old men, and we're going to use this to our advantage.
Biggest mistakes of emails guys make in emails:
- Long ass emails
- Sorry guys talking about romance
- Old men looking to buy them everything
- Players telling them their sexy
- Guys telling them their in love with them
- Now lets take a look at how to put these emails together and you can have a basic template that will allow you to write personal emails to several girls in very little time.
-Make a relating comment anything you can do yo build instant comfort is great (something you don't like about online dating is normally good)
- Something in their profile, mention something you found interesting about them. we're conveying the message that we didn't just click through pictures and we actually fond them interesting.
- Make a joke about one of the five weird things girls get emails about. "I'm sure by now you've gotten a million and two emails from creepy old men looking to be your sugar daddy" this lets them know your not one of the weirdos, your just a regular guy.
- Qualities about yourself "I'm tall, funny, adventurous" (for gods sake don't tell them you have a big penis...or anything about yer junk for that matter)
- A "lets connect" line of some kind "lets grab a drink/coffee sometime"
- A zero pressure line "at the least, you seem like you'd be a cool friend"
Keep things short and to the point, less detail is better we're trying to keep them interested not give out life story's
- *Last sign off with your email address now there's a trick to this, places like match dot com and the like let girls come on their sight and browse for free, they can get emails for free but in order to reply they have to be a member. these site also scan every email for and email address and if they're structure like
Joe.momma@Email.com, the site deletes the email address before it's sent. So, when you put your email in, structure it like this Joe.momma (a) email. com, that way if you wasting your time with a girl that's not a member she can email you back with out signing paying 14.95 a month.
The Second Email and the Number Close
So far so good, you get an email return from her, she's interested in some form or fashion. Your second email is going to be short and sweet and end with getting a number.
aaaannnnnd here's how ya do it,
- Thank them for the response
- Tease them just a little (very light hearted neg)
- If they asked you questions answer but be very vague
- Mention something about her email to you
- Get the number, best line I've found "I'm not fond of emailing back and forth to get to know someone, I'm really busy and don't have much time for the internet...whats your number?" give her a reason why you want the number before you ask.
From here
From here we fall back on [pick up basics, *Call her, the two to three day window is a good time, unlike regular pickup which you should call the next day (sometimes the same day) setup the date and you are home free.
Best of luck all, let me know if you have any questions.[/u]
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