i met this girl at a party on friday and things were going really well. the only problem is i was playing beer pong with a few other girls and got a little drunk. apparently this girls ride came and she said bye to me but i totally didnt hear her. anyway... she found me on facebook and added me as a friend. i made a comment crucifying her for not even saying goodbye. i think i even called her ms. rudie pants or something haha. anyway... she replied back trying to justify that she did say goodbye so heres my response that i need help with:

"well it totally doesnt count if i dont hear. conversations arent with just one person ya know... (unless youre one of those people who talks to themselves). but thats cool too i guess. anyway... i found this fun ice cream parlor the other day and i was going to go again friday afternoon. you are invited and you better not flake out like you did at the party "

i am more of an in person sort of guy and usually i can get a phone number to set up dates but in this case i missed out (lesson learned). i feel i have a second chance with the internet but i am not used to online pickup so if some of you guys can help me out with my above post (i havent sent it yet... thinking about sending it late tomorrow to build up anticipation). also i dont want to ask her if she wants to go because that seems a little afc. how would i "tell" her to come sort of thing? should i just flat out say "see you there" or something haha. hopefully some of you with some experience can help me out because i'm still learning

Try telling her that she OWES you an ice cream for flaking out on you at the party but as you're a fair guy, you'll let her buy you one on friday afternoon.

oh crap. i responded but then i looked up and saw that she was in a relationship. i dont know though because when i was talking to her at the party she gave me the puppy eyes and i knew it was on. shoot. never been in this situation before. should i take her or should i leave her.

anyway... here is what i ended up writting:

"well it totally doesnt count if i dont hear. conversations arent with just one person ya know... (unless youre one of those people who talks to themselves). but thats cool too i guess. anyway... i found this fun ice cream parlor the other day and i was going to go again friday afternoon. you are invited and seeing how you ditched me i think you owe me ice cream "

she responds:

"lol sorry to tell you this but I am one of those people who talks to herself! JK! That sounds like fun but my boyfriend might be coming up that day-- i have to see"

how should i handle this if i still am interested in her? should i invite the two of them out? or should i say i see... then ask her out again some other time? i'm still pretty new so these things seem a bit harder than i thought they would be. anyone that has had this experience before, your help is much appreciated.

i did a search and some reading and decided to use a boyfriend destroyer:

"poor guy. well give me a call or text if you decide to go

<my number>

ps. dont sell my number to other girls no matter how much they will beg you. i have had some bad experiences in the past. i trust that you will not send me 40 text messages a day "

sorry i'm posting so much on this thread. it is mostly just for personal reference that i can come back to and please feel free too comment so i can improve next time.

she then says:

"uh why u say poor guy? Ya I am actually heading home this weekend- so sorry."

i say:

"because he has to hang out with a girl who talks to herself haha. ok no problem. i think i got my friend to come along so i dont have to talk to myself too . have fun at home. and btw... dont think your off the hook. you still owe me icecream somewhere down the road"