I was with a girl at Uni for 3 years and after that we parted company and didn't stay in contact at all. We were really close and went through some quite dramtic times together which is why I think it was way too pianful for us to stay friends.

We last spoke in 2002 I think. About 3 or 4 years ago I sent a letter to her, actually to her parents place because I didn't have her address. It was quite light hearted, just reminiscing about old times, asking what shes doing with herself and telling her about what I'm up to.

I know she received the letter because I sent it by recorded delivery and it was diverted to another address. Also, about a month after I sent the letter she called me and said hello but then hung up the phone. It was 100% her.

I tried calling back but no answer and I texted her but again no reply.

So, I write another letter and here is where I think i screwed up. I put loads of emotional stuff in it and looking back it must have been quite heavy to read. I never got a response and I didn't try calling her again and actually deleted her number.

So, then I see that shes on FB and I try to add her but she doesn't accept.

What I want to make clear is that I'm not pursuing her as a GF, I am just really curious as to what shes doing with herself and would like to form a friendship if possible.

I'm wandering what I can message her on FB that might make her take interest and respond.

Any suggestions?

Sorry, but she is not interested. Nothing you can say to her will make her interested, only if she, by herself, sees you doing it big/being the life of the party/getting it on with hot chicks will get her interested.

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hmm, yeah was hoping for something more positive but deep down i know you're propbably right.

Yeah, dude, don't chase her. You need to go after her in a more indirect way.

There was this one girl I always wanted in High School, we had the same mutual friends all thru High School, but I never talked to her because I always got AFC around her. I moved out of state and just a few weeks ago started getting in contact with all my old high-school friends.

I finally got her to send me a request! What I did was made my profile somewhat interesting. I put a bunch of videos of me snowboarding at different places around the country, and put my best pics up. Along with pics of my house, my jeep, me at work, etc... I then sent requests to all my old friends that had her as a mutual friend. It worked! Even though we barley talked in H.S she sent me a request! I knew she'd look at my profile if my name kept popping up in her friend's status...

This also got me in contact with a really attractive girl I dated in Jr. High! We're going out for coffee on Monday, too..

problem is shes not friends with any of my friends and she lives in another country