If you are like me, you spend aages reading their profile & writing a message that conveys interest and proves that you have taken the time to read their profile. Surely they would reply... right? No.

So you get frustrated and send her a message with a subject 'Giant Polar Bear' and a message 'You absolute tw@!!' Surely they wouldnt reply... right? Yes.

The point of this post is really to ask the question, what must a guy do on a first message to get a reply? It seems to me that the least effort you put into a message the more likely that you get replies.

Another thing i dont get is when girls dont even bother to open the message or view your profile. I then ask myself, why are they on here? as girls will never send messages first anyway and wont read. That seems just dumb.

I appreciate that if your message gets read and they view your profile and then dont reply then thats fine - They are just not interested. But to know whether they are interested or not, surely they should take some time to view your profile/pictures first.

Thankyou
Technophobe

what must a guy do on a first message to get a reply?

Build an interesting profile, one that demonstrates a fun, exciting, mysterious guy. You need to give them a reason to WANT to respond. Women receive countless emails a day from men trying to win them over. Unless you have something on your profile that catches her attention, you are going to get very frustrated. For example, 'Giant Polar Bear' is something you don't see every day. So of course she is going to get curious and see what the email is about.

Please keep in mind that some girls are not interested in meeting anybody. So don't take it personally if they don't respond.

Another thing i dont get is when girls dont even bother to open the message or view your profile.

Why, who gives a sh*t. If you send a message and she doesn't respond, move on. Maybe they are on vacation or don't have a way to access their email. Maybe they just had a death in the family or their dog died and don't want to be bothered. There are a million reasons why women won't view a profile. Don't get frustrated over some random chick that doesn't respond. This tells me you are putting way to much emphasis on it.

Setup a profile that gets attention and you will get women sending you emails.

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Keep people off-balance and in the dark by never revealing the purpose behind your actions. - Robert Greene

Remember as well that your message will be buried under a pile of AFC drivel and she may take a while simply to get to it.

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"Don't get frustrated over some random chick that doesn't respond. This tells me you are putting way to much emphasis on it"

of course i am, i am afterall an AFC