At small parties I do it by talking to everyone and being the life of the party. It's not too hard, you'll find there's a lot of guys there that are scared of cutting loose because they might offend someone and even moreso with girls. I'm the guy that's not afraid to crack jokes and make fun of everyone and myself. I like to think of myself as the "color". If people can't take a joke, fuck 'em. But anyway, there's a lot of threads devoted to exactly that.

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Yeah that's harder for naturally introverted and quiet types like me. I have no problem creating conversation or mingling but going that extra step to be the life of the party can be difficult.

That's stated very up front in my personal to begin with. Hope they read it!

Yeah, that's a good line to put in your profile, it creates the expectation that you're going to push for a meet up. I put in mine that I have no interest in talking to anyone that's not there to date.
And then you'll get older and you'll realize you wasted a lot of time hiding in your comfort zone when you could have been building strong alliances with other people. I didn't realize I could be the life of the party until really a year ago, when I figured out a lot of the things I'd been doing and saying were negative and pointless and I'd had enough practice to hone my social skills to the point where I can talk to anyone without being judgmental, even the most dense stoner.

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Many thanks Minsok for sharing your online game methods. In addition to sending a link to your own current online dating profile if possible, please continue sharing more of your successful online game methods you currently utilise.

I agree it's a total waste of time to engage in instant messaging, but rather than say I don't have the time for it, it's best to say so in one's profile, that you're a busy guy and you're on to meet in person, not to have penpals or engage in marathon EMail exchanges (although to create comfort and rapport, it doesn't hurt to engage in 5 or 6 messages).

With your message below, please explain what the hell 'greedy' eyes means ?
- 'Thanks for the pictures. The ones on your profile. There's such a good amount of range and they're all pretty pleasing. As sort of an artist, I have really greedy eyes, you see.

It means I like to stare at shit because I appreciate the surface of things. I love using that line to just stare at a girl, I guess it's good for escalation I dunno; makes me sound cool. I'll have to put it in my already densely packed profile.

IM is not a waste of time at all! It's like this Email/Messages/Text Messaging < IM < Phone Call < Talking in Person. You can get more done in IM than in days of text messaging. If a girl you're messaging is online, you should try to get her on the site IM, you can get a date that way without even having to get a phone number. Unlike text messaging, she won't leave you hanging for hours.

My okcupid and plentyoffissh profiles are the same screenname I use here. My profile's a little long and all over the place and doesn't have a lot of humor, I haven't felt inspired to clean it up. Steal my best lines if you want, I doubt we're competing for the same women.

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Okay, so I sent 9-10 legitimate messages. It's been 2 days and I got one response that was pure fluff, no escalation. So maybe don't listen to me. I'm thinking my messages are too long, too aggressive, too try hard, maybe not consistent with my profile anymore? God, who knows. I'll have to experiment some more later. I'm seeing a girl that totally satisfies me so I'm losing my drive to plug away online (maybe that's the problem: burn out). Anyway, wanted to let you guys know, but I know I'm right about showing your intent right in the first message, everything else... depends on the girl.

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hey minsok; just wanna say that I think you're on teh right track. Don't get too discouraged after just 2 days; a lot of chicks only come on once a week. Also, make sure you check the "last online" date before you even message a chick; lots of profiles haven't been touched in several weeks, so I don't even bother messaging those ones as you'l never get get a response.

Yeah, I only message girls that have been online in the last month. 5 of the girls checked out my profile, so they definitely read my messages the first day. On the plus side, the one girl that did respond with fluff, I just plowed through and pushed for a date outright. She says she's free to go out Tuesday or Thursday. That's pretty good for 2 messages on my side. My kind of girl, assuming she doesn't flake.

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It's funny how simple it is really. Open a lot of sets. This gives the impression that you know everyone and will lead to you actually knowing everyone. Fake it til you make it is dead on. Know what is going on socially in your area and share the info with people you want to associate with. Figure out what the ladies are getting into and hang out with them. A well dressed man who knows a lot of people at an event and is surrounded by beautiful women is a man with high social value. Right now I am playing with making my facebook page a social media hub for my town. I want to know everyone.

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You can't forget about me, stupid. Everywhere I go ima have my own theme music.