Im going to join plentyoffish.com or maybe match.com, how should I open females they have something called winks, should I send them to females on their or open them up in some other way. Im thinking of just winking every attractive female in my area I know its a numbers game so Im looking to plant many seeds so to speak.

Any advice I'd greatly apprechiate.

Winking, sending roses, poking, etc, etc, these things are perfect if you want to put no effort in and get nothing in return. Best case scenario, she winks, pokes, or sends a rose back. AND THEN GUESS WHAT! You still have to send her a message anyway. Those things are just for lazy ass girls to try to get a guy to send them a message. I repeat. They are for girls. Poll over.

So what should I do, message them?, something like "Don't I know you from somewhere?" or a false memory mistaken identity routine.

Well, if you have the luxury, go with a pay site. Women are there for business and are more likely to meet up. Free sites, there's a lot of girls who lie about being married, having kids, how old they are, how much they weigh and they just want an ego boost and have NO intention of EVER meeting.

For messaging, what works best is putting something from their profile in the subject line, something that will get attention. Like, "So you think you're good at crocheting". Then just make a paragraph. You should be humorous, but don't try to be really funny because it usually just makes you look weird or a little off in writing. Make sure you ask at least one serious question about something you're interested in that you saw on her profile. Pick something you don't think most guys would even notice, but she seems really into. Make sure you say a little about yourself, reasons you might hit it off, the reason you picked her to message, make her feel like it's the only message you sent that day, be fresh. Don't use form letters. Girls over 20 really can sniff that shit out. And don't think too hard about what you're writing, if it takes more than 5 minutes, you're thinking too hard. When you get a response, respond fast, while the girl is still online, this will get her attention and save a shit ton of time if you can get a back and forth going. This method is a lot of fucking work, low risk, low reward.

Thanks for the advice.

opener------Bon Jour, Caio, Hola...anything but 'Hi" or "Hello".

She gets thousands of emails if she is hot. Make yours different. Very important.


make her laugh and be Cocky about it.

Tell her:

Nothing about where you work, No last name until on the date when you greet her with your whole name. Avoid any negative stuff.

Do not ask for her number. Simply say, I know that you must be wondering and yes we can meet up.

Set the tone early with her that you are the man.

Tell her that you are poor, live down by the river in a van and bark at people for money.

I don't know why but that one gets a laugh as well.

Make no wussy talk. Do not say, I interested in blah blah blah or I haven't dated much or any crap like that. Wussyness is apparent even in emails believe it or not.

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" I invented the question mark"

INCORRECT. Those openers are just as thoughtless and boring as saying "Hi". "Hola" is about as common as "Hey". If she asks where you work, don't avoid answering and giving out your last name will make the girl more comfortable and shows you have nothing to hide and she can look you up on the sex offender registry or whatever.

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