I am a much better person at pick-up when it's in person, and the interaction is completely made up on the spot. So I figured I'd challenge myself a little, and do some online pick-up. And I don't believe it went all too good. I thought about what I was writing too much and it caused me to do some dumb things. This is one of the messages I sent to a girl on myspace.

I just saw your profile on my "You May Know These People" section on my page. I thought "I should know her", so I'm messaging you to see if you'd be into meeting someone new. You seem like a fun person, so I shouldn't even ask. And by the way, your amazing looking, so I'd feel like an idiot if I didn't introduce myself to you. And if you've got a boyfriend, then I won't hold that against you. Unless you're one of those chicks that talks about her boyfriend all the time, then something will have to be done. If you're a fun person, you'll reply.

My lord....I just read though it again, and I just want to punch myself. Lol.

Give me some tips on opening up to a new person on Myspace.

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Dont worry dude we've all done or said things that wants to make us punch ourselves. If you unsure or even not 100% confident youd be happy with what you wrote, write it down then just save it to drafts for half an hour. If in that time you havnt thought of anything better to write or improve on it then send.

The best way to do the myspace pickup is just post a hey do you have msn? That way you can have a conversation with them with instant resuts. I love myspace and facebook because theyre not expecting to be picked up..

good luck mate,

And you know what then say, once on the internet it can never be lost lol.

after you send it, delete the message out of your "sent" box so you wont face the frustrations of knowing if they read it or not and taking offense to it. lol

Practise your material/canned intro on a mass ammount of people whom you really don't care for and more importantly, don't care if they respond. Sure, don't use it on the hb1-3's because they will reply to most things. Every remotely attractive girl you see, just copy and paste the same message. Tally the results after! Make sure you send it to people they actually log on to the website though or your statistics will be messed up. If it receives fun, lively responses from more than 2/3rds then you MAY have a winner(there's always room for improvement). I typically don't like to introduce with telling the person they are attractive though since I've seen many girl's inbox's with the random "you're smoking babe" or "hot damn"...it probably gets tiresome no matter how much you candycoat the compliment. You should savor the compliment...give it as a reward for responding to you a certain amount of times, etc.

Tom- you just sent a normal guy "typical opener". yes, it's not great. personally, i never ask about boyfriends. if they have a boyfriend and think they are faithful, they will tell you. also, i wouldn't seem so stunned by anyone's beauty. it makes you seem like you've never seen or talked to a pretty girl before. but you did use a bit of humor and your message wasn't super short which is good. humor and having things to say are both positives. As i was saying about telling a girl she is attractive, i do think at some early point you have to admit an attraction. To me, if you put it out there early on that you are attracted, it keeps you out of the friend zone. I'd just "let it slip" in following messages that i think she's attractive. If it's an accident or she had to pull info out of you, it goes much better than if you are just eagerly giving compliments.

They openers do matter yes. You don't want to be cast aside before having a bit of a conversation. Any replies are a success because now you have room to work. Just find out what you want to say, word it so it's not desperate and always look for ways to tweek things. But if you do tweek it keep a copy of the orginal so you don't have to start from scratch. I've had success in the past just putting a smiley as the subject and only saying "hiya pretty lady" as my message. You don't have to be perfect all the time. But you may have to be perfect with some girls.

See I always (in person), tell the girl she looks good. It's completely counter intuitive to what all you may believe, but it's never let me down. I'm direct as hell with them. Of course....this is during day game. In night game and in clubs I'm completely different. I follow every text book mannerism I've ever learned in night game. Except for negging. I flirt with women in a completely sarcastic way, but I never out right neg a woman. That theory, to me, is something that should be rearranged somewhat.

Like I said before. My in person game is solid, but my internet game is just now getting started, and it's off to a rocky start. I'm thinking I should keep it short and sweet. No talking about boyfriends on the first message (Lol...wow, what was I thinking?), and I'm considering not complimenting on their looks so much, because this is completely different. There is no tone of voice in text, so I might have to change it up a bit.

Any more tips?

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You all take 'er easy. And if she's easy, take her twice.

A corny message on the net, is like a horny massage in a bed.
Yes, I just made that up but it seemed appropriate. I typically like to send nerdy messages unique to every girl; observational humor I guess they call it; think Jerry Seinfeld. His jokes just arent funny BUT, they are so not funny and cheesy that you can't help but laugh and talk about them.
Basically, the first message is short and sweet... corny observation, question related to observation and wait. Next message I build anticipation, making them want to hear from me. After that, DHV created by you so it suits your written persona and question why she hasnt added you yet. Once added, you slip in a compliment with whatever conversation you have going on, ask for an online date(uber cheesy, uber Seinfeld) and just flirt and throw in a "I wonder what you sound like. You're cute, but I bet you have a really manly voice" (i wouldn't say piecing or squeaky voice because you may make a girl genuinly self concious). This is a good way to lead to phone conversation, and typically on my first phone call I mention hanging out/meeting (don't mention the word date). In person, conversation is genuine, you have lots to talk about and it's just a matter of kino, thus building an attraction so she doesn't just see you as Jerry Seinfeld.
Tell me if that was at all helpful, guy!