Sent out the same PM on Facebook to 3 HB 9+'s I "knew" and
haven't seen or spoken a word to in at least a year.

Message was:

Hey stranger... just felt like I should let you know that for some crazy reason, you were in my dream last night...and I really can't believe you would say something like that

-WorkEthic

I wanna test out responses and "dream-stories" so that they C/f and DHV...where would you take the story of the dream when they get back?

Graci!

dont

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LOL, too late.

In my experiences, re-initiating contact with someone by telling them they were in a dream you recently had works really well.

Why do you say what you do?

He means don't tell them what they said in the dream.

Avoid the topic, it'll always keep coming back to "what happened in that dream then?"

You'll always have higher control so long as she keeps wondering what it was.

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Lol...killer.

Update and question:

HB9 never responded to the PM (from a couple days ago). In my full-on AFC days when I knew her, she had no problem NEVER responding to texts or phone calls, so I should say I'm not really surprised.

Two days ago it was my birthday. She didn't say anything (wall post, etc.) last year. She writes on my wall this time: "happy birthday!! how ya been?"

I imagine my response here should be something C/F that also triggers some serious curiosity (baiting the response).

What's your take (and yeah, I feel like asking this is such a DLV, but I am completely lost online. In person, I'm all body language and usually know exactly what and where to go based on that...here, I feel like Stevie Wonder, lol)?

Browsing out of curiosity I came across this thread yesterday and decided to give it a craic on a bird I have met briefly at a couple of parties, the latest being a few nights ago. The only thing I said to her all night was that she looks like Lara Croft , and she really liked it, but I left it at that.

So I sent her a message this morning about the dream...

"Hey Lara... just felt like I should let you know that for some crazy reason, you were in my dream last night...and I really can't believe you would say something like that... "

and I got a reply...

"Hahahaha!
I assure you it was only a dream, lol
im not sure whether to ask exactly what I said...although if it wasnt very nice I apologise! :S and if I actually was Lara Croft then thats quite cool! maybe its my destiny =) ahaaa
you have a good time on saturday also?X "

I am after opinions on what stage this is in the attraction process and how I should play it from here? I know that she has a BF but I will tackle that if the issue arises.

Hijacker

It's hard to build attraction online or in text messaging...body language, kino, etc. are all big parts of it and you can't do it online/texting.

I think your whole goal here is to figure out a way to see her in person...I'd probably bait her again with another C/F + nonchalant question, hopefully get a response, then figure out a way to get the Day 2.

Now answer my question

Sorry mate, really should learn the rules of forums

thanks for your take, I have always liked the C/F approach...will give it a go.

As for your question, I think you need to hit her with something like "so know you want to talk to me..." kind of thing, what you think?

Hmm...I haven't spoken to her in 20+ months.

We exchanged numbers then..nothing ever materialized...she was flaky.

I think I need to keep he waiting a couple more days (been 3 so far), then reply in a short message combining "C/F+Value+Curiosity".

Now what that reply is I have no idea.

If anyone wants to make it for me, I'm 21, a well-known, very successful internet marketer and people think I look like Josh Hartnett (did I mention I'm also a cocky little asshole too? LOL).

-WorkEthic

i used this today after seeing it this morning, so i sent her the message on facebook with the subject: Blue bananas and hand in faces. (hand in face is a reference to her puttin her hand in my face everytime i negged her)

Her reply
what did i say?! blue bananas?
you know your dreams are your subconscious so its all your repressed throughts during the day..
so whyyy are you thinking about blue bananas?!
also are you coming to her mates name birthday?

signed her name with an x

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Good to hear dude...the dream thing works on a lot of levels.

**UPDATE**

Since she wrote on my wall for the birthday, I waited like 4 days, then wrote back on her wall "Umm, do I know you? I had a class with you once, right? "

She responded in 45 minutes (yeah...LOL) with "Oh shush! How've you been??"

So she's playing along and asked another question...cool.

I waited a day, then hit her with a text:

Me: "Seriously, tell me to shush one more time and you have a MAJOR ass-kicking coming your way "

Her: Haha whateverrr

Me: (answering the question she asked me twice on Facebook now) I've been great, thanks for asking Some major life changes the last couple years. What's been up with your wild self?

Her: That's good! Where you going to school now? I've been fairly tame..just concentrating on school and work

Me: (ignoring her boring question) Girl please...fairly tame...I know exactly what that means...TROUBLE

<then I was boarding a plane and they had everyone turn their shit off so I just ended it myself>

Me: I'm boarding a plane right now...this discussions not over ...ciao. -WorkEthic

<when I got off the plane and turned the phone back on to see her new message>

Her: Haha...have a safe flight!

So, that was 3 days ago. I haven't contacted her at all since and am planning on giving her a call tomorrow.

I'm going to go immediately into a story about something that happened to me that day ("You're never gonna guess what happened to me today). I have a good one about re-seeing my first girlfriend ever from elementary school in like 10 years.

Then, I'll relent and talk about catching-up stuff for a few minutes, but still DHV everything that's changed with me (lots of talk about my ambitions, hobbies, friends, etc...all of this layered with C/F).

Then, from there I'm going to want to bridge this into a meeting up....this is where I get flakes...this is my sticking point. What have you done that's field-tested and proven, that I can use here to guarantee a meet-up?

Also, after we finalize a plan, I was planning on going into a quick *AWESOME* DHV I I have about "deja vu", but I can open loop it totally and be like "You have to see me in person for me to show you exactly how it works...you're going to love it."

But, anyways, how do I transition and guarantee that Day 2?

Thanks!!