Everybody knows that practice makes perfect, so when I started with the whole online dating thing, I knew I needed to write a LOT of friggin´ messages if I wanted to know what type of messages worked and which ones didn´t.
At first, it seemed kinda cool: if this beautiful girl doesn´t reply, I´ll just write another one until someone DOES reply and I can meet and date her. But after a while, I messaged all the women aged 20-24 in my city that were on the site I was on (yep, I was THAT fanatical about it) and still didn´t have much success, maybe some phone numbers but NO dates yet. Then I started messaging women in my age group that lived in another city, got a couple of dates, wanted more, and continued messaging women.
And when I finally knew what I was doing online, I had a MAJOR dilemma: how do I message women if I already messaged ALL the cute ones that won´t take me longer then an hour to travel to?
I´m talking about the that little step BEFORE you start messaging here:
what do you do with those "a thousand-and-one..and then some" search results?
SAVE your search criteria every time you search for women to send a message to, and I´ll tell you why.
1. Because Of How A Woman´s Profile Inbox Works
An attractive woman, on average, receives dozens of messages a day, around 50 to be exact. Meanwhile, ANY given inbox page can contain 25 up to 30 messages. Do you understand what this means? It means that EVERY day, around 20 messages end up on Page 2, but do women want to read page 2? No.
Why? Because 99% of the messages women receive are predictable, lame, boring, needy and desperate or cheezy. Here are some examples:
- - You´re gorgeous, add me on blabla@hotmail... (needy, why would she add a total stranger that drools all over her looks?)
- Is heaven missing an angel? Because you sure look like one! (cheezy, why would a woman who actually has a brain fall for THE most used pick up line ever?)
Imagine you would receive 50 messages just like the above ones, EVERY day. Would you even bother reading the 20th message? No you won´t. You´ll be bored, annoyed or disgusted long before that, meaning that all the messages AFTER about the 20th one might as well never be sent because no one´s reading.
Say you are message number 26 on page 2, then no matter HOW good your message is, your message will probably NEVER be read simply because of the numbers game I explained above. Seems like a MAJOR bummer doesn´t it?
But it ISN´T – it means that when you know how to communicate with women online, that the vast majority of women who NEVER reply to your message ACCIDENTLY didn´t reply. And when you SAVE your search criteria and repeat the exact same search 2 to 3 weeks later, and message the women who didn´t reply, guess what happens?
New day, new chances buddy: I guarantee you that there will be women who didn´t reply before, who WILL reply NOW because of the numbers game. All of a sudden, your enormous source of search results, e.g. the internet, will NEVER run dry!
2. Because Of The Mister Me Too Effect
There are around a hundred dating sites and probably even more social networks online in the US alone, and us humans follow the herd more than we think: if a MILLION people have a MySpace profile than hey, MySpace MUST be good so if I´ll ever join a social network, I should join THAT one. The mister me too effect.
This gives you a HUGE advantage when you´re meeting and dating women online, especially in the long run. Think about it: around 100 new people sign up for a fairly mediocre site every single day, and when we don´t discriminate and say half of those are women, then there are 350 new women on an average site every week! Imagine how much new ones there are on the Big Boys such as MySpace, Facebook and Match.com.
There´s a big impact for your search results: when you save your search criteria and get back to them 2 to 3 weeks later, there will be AT LEAST 700 to 1050 new women on the site you´re on. Consider this: most have age groups you search for (<18, 18-24 etc.) and there are about 7 of these age groups, guess what this means? A 100 to 150 new women for you to meet and date, that are about the SAME age you are!
But WAIT – there´s more: because new women haven´t been on there that long, they have been bothered by LESS men and their lame, boring and cheezy messages before (and are thus more OPEN to meeting men). Next to this, they´re harder to find (because everyone SKIPS search criteria after searching for them once, remember?) AND harder to message (because a new woman´s profile is mostly EMPTY or almost empty – which gives a guy less to work with). There you go: 3 reasons for why it´s MUCH easier to meet and date new women than the ladies who´ve been on the site for some time now.
Don´t you feel stupid for not having saved your search criteria before? I know I did when I realized these things. But if you didn´t know before I guess you know now, and be sure to save those criteria my friend.
CHAT
