Hey guys here it is.. I messaged a couple girls on POF but didnt get a reply back. should I message them again with a neg or something or just let it go.? Any suggestions on what to say?

Also I did the "wig opener" and it faded quickly too. I'd like to try one last time with these girls that didn't reply, just not sure what to say.. Here's how the wig convo went..


ME: Question, is that a wig or your real hair?

HB: Uh it's my real hair... thanks....

ME: That's what they allll say, until you invite them to go swimming with you when you're at the beach and they develop an instant fear of water lol.

Dont worry your hair looks nice

Hey.. While I have your attention, I need a females prespective on something......Say, this guy is dating this girl, and she goes out with her friends, has a few drinks and ends up
making out with a random guy at the bar.....Would you consider this cheating?

Then it went cold.. any ideas?

Try coming up with some of your own openers and routines instead of using common ones like the wig opener and jealous girlfriend. Outside of that if they don't respond then don't message them. There are more girls out there. When you use your own material it won't go as cold.

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maybe the whole while i have your attention thing is a little too suspect for a pure dating site. That's an in person line, which probably works cos they dont have the thinking time to question why you'd be asking it.

well thanks,

I usually use my own stuff but I thought id try the wig one because it seemed to work well for some peeps on here.. I personally dont really like this opener because your basically insulting the girl right off the bat and I think its hard to come back from such a strong neg. I would say this opener goes beyond a regular neg.

I hardly ever use the jeaulous gf.. I think it's played out and rather obvious...

So you dont think you should ever respond if the girl doesnt message you back? What if she sends one message then goes cold, should you try then?

That neg opener is tricky to use online, since you can't lower her guard with playful body signals, but at least it got a reply. Where I think you went wrong is moving to the opinion opener. That's a more indirect approach, and those don't seem to work well online, particularly on dating-specific websites. You're messaging her. You've already expressed interest. It's too late to feign disinterest. Though that's not to say it is too late to make her continue qualifying herself, in order to keep your interest.

The wig opener is better used on Myspace than POF. As POF is aimed to those that want to date people compare to just socializing with people. But even so that opener seem to get played out very quickly and in my opinion the opener sucks. As JSmooth said come up with your own openers as they will work much better. Especially on POF.

You have some good advice on here. As Shades_ mentioned you don't really need to use indirect openers. You messaged her for a reason. You wouldn't have done that if you weren't interested. Better to be fairly direct in most cases on dating sites.

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Negs are a dangerous minefield online. It's best to avoid them altogether.

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But not knowing when you are getting blown up is fun!!!!!!

that first neg was a lil mean since it was online, i dont think she got it. start off with something that cannot be mistaken for an insult

I'll give you an idea of some of the subject lines that have worked for me.

I had one woman who had very little in her profile but had nice photos.
Subject: Not much of a profile.
Body: Well I would say you sound like an interesting woman but you profile doesn't say much about you. Aren't you worried men are going to message you for your looks alone?

She responded and I'm seeing her this Friday on my way to Philly. Woot me.

Another woman had in her profile she was tired of fake people so I message her like this.
Subject:Nonfake appling.
Body:Sorry about the subject but I loved that line in your profile. I can relate.

She responded and I am meeting her for drinks on Sunday on my way back from Philly. Woot woot me.

Basically what I am saying is what everyone else is saying. Use your surrounding. If she has a goofie photos ask her about it. If she has something odd in her profile comment on it.

And if you start a chat and don't know what to say I always fall back on "Tell me something interesting about yourself!".