Well Traid, may I?
In your own mind, these openers may be absolutely brilliant...but to a woman? They're predictable, boring, lame and cheezy and I'll tell you why.
Attractive women, on average, receive 30 to 50 messages from men PER DAY (and you can count on seriously hot ones to receive over a hundred a day)...and guess what? 99% of those messages aren't even about HER specifically. Examples:
- "You're hot", "your gorgeous" and other sucking up lines that you could copy paste for any given woman
- "Heaven must be missing an angle because..." and other really cheezy canned lines
These, and the messages in YOUR category have several things in common: they comment on her looks and/or talk to her like she's supposed to be all excited when a stranger talks to her like he's her friend or will totally marry her (while she doesn't even KNOW you).
Let me ask you...when you're walking down the street, unprepared, and a total stranger approaches you and says: you are getting the chance to be my friend for the week! What will you think? Don't lie now...you'll think: who the f*ck are you?
And that's the problem with the messages of the vast majority of men online: being shallow and commenting on her looks, or thinking she'll get excited when a total stranger thinks she's a goddess or doesn't even talk about HER personally.
KEY insight here: talk about a woman's identity, about who she is, what she does, who she knows, what she likes...instead of treating her like a queen (like one half of the messages every day) or talking to her like a piece of meat (like the other half).
And the funny thing is: most men think talking to her personally is so friggin' hard, but it isn't if you know where to look. And I always look at her hobbies, likes and dislikes (so everything that she mentions she loves doing, seeing, hearing, etc.) or something that doesn't seem right..and I playfully tease her really, REALLY hard for it. It's actually a mix of being picky and hardcore teasing.
Say a girl has really light blue eyes, almost angelic eyes...but dark brown hair..now thats uncommon right there. So I'll message her:
"I was looking at your profile and saw that you have BLUE eyes…but DARK hair, which is an ABSOLUTE freak of nature, it never happens!
So that makes me wonder…tell me…you’re a DUMB BLONDE by nature aren’t you?"
Say she's a skater chick who loves skateboarding and blabla:
"You have some kind of a skater look going on there girl but uhm...I'm willing to bet 10 bucks...on the fact that YOU just learned it by playing Tony Hawk on a Playstation alllll day long
No, really...it's okay. Just DON'T show me those sore thumbs from playing on the PS 24/7 okay?
"
By doing this, NOW you're one of the few (if not only) guy who talks to her, about her, who creates sexual tension and attraction by by teasing her and being picky...
And here's a juicy secret: most people think "being unique" is very timeconsuming, but Im not being unique...Im just using a format. Because I always look for the likes and the odd ones out, find them in seconds and either create something right there on the spot...or better: use a message I've already sent.
How? I'll maybe send 4 Chinese women a message but by the fourth time, you can bet your ass that I've perfected my way of approaching a Chinese girl...so I save it in my file and use it again whenever another Chinese pops up. I've got a list for about 60 different types of women/odd ones out. Same goes for the replies...I look for similarities, practice till I get the best response to a woman's reply and save that. For example: I'll beat the "do I know you?" reply with my eyes closed.
Does that help?
CHAT