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I'm about to transition to phone and was wondering if anyone could offer some good topics for the first phone call.
You can use anything that was said in the messages that was exchanged between the two of you. The popular topic I run into the most so far is asking each other if they have done online dating before, if so how long or successful has it been and what they thought about it. I know "interview" questions are bad, but I have found them a bit useful with online dating. The key is to make sure your asking them in an non-interview way and that you space out the questions so that they are not back to back. If you do this ask light hearted questions, like do you have any brothers or sisters. And from her answer use that as the next thing to talk about and let it go from there until that topic runs out and ask another "interview" question. This method so far as been the best way I have found for talking to girls I met online. As it allows you to get to know the girl better for one. And secondly you don't need to really worry about having pre-planed topics to talk about. Plus it allows you to talk about different things with each girl you meet online.
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Also, should I just go straight ahead and ask for a first date?
If you mean to call up and ask for a date, that is a huge no no. If you mean ask for a date near the end of the conversation, that you have to literally hear/listen for.