so yeah background: this girl has flaked on me twice already, and i decided lets not make the same mistake 3 times. I found out from her friends later that she was indeed having family problems as she had stated. So i felt a little bad in that i thought she was lying to me. So heres whats up after like 1 month she starts talkin to me randomly again. (after i dated her best friend) She stirs up conversation and offers to talk me through my hard times (my grandfather died as well) we both enjoyed the convo and she said that we should talk more. Here is the result of the next conversation.

Me: (11:55:49 PM): hey
Her: (11:56:20 PM): hey dan whats up
Me: (11:56:45 PM): just got home from grandamas house
Her: (11:56:59 PM): how was that
Me: (11:57:00 PM): had to get her and my aunt over here for the night
Me: (11:57:10 PM): cuse we dont have a caretaker for her at the momment
Me: (11:57:23 PM): so i had to get her out of bed and bring her hom
Me: (11:57:25 PM): *home
Her: (11:57:29 PM): is she sick?
Me: (11:57:31 PM): no
Me: (11:57:40 PM): she just doesnt have anyone to watch her
Me: (11:57:50 PM): and its unfair to be staying by urself at such an old age
Her: (11:58:03 PM): i agree my grandmas in the situation too
Me: (11:58:04 PM): when uv had someone u love around you for 67 years
Me: (11:58:24 PM): yeah gotta have a duty to the family
Me: (11:58:27 PM): first and foremost
Me: (11:58:35 PM): but hey thats serious and depressing stuff
Me: (11:58:48 PM): how about something positive?
Me: (11:59:15 PM): restart this conversation cuse i didnt like how i started it in negative light..
Me: (11:59:19 PM): how was your day?
Her: (11:59:22 PM): well i did everything for sdsu like housing
Me: (11:59:27 PM): good good
Me: (11:59:31 PM): you went down there yes?
Her: (11:59:43 PM): yes on monday
Me: (11:59:48 PM): and tell me about it?
Me: (12:00:47 AM): perhaps another time..
Her: (12:00:53 AM): i liked it. wayy better than what i expected but its weird liek the girls were there for orientation when i went to visit and im so friendly adn everything i smiled and a lot of the girls seems kind of stuck up blonde and just i cant explain it but it was only some
Me: (12:01:28 AM): well u know what they say about stuck up people
Me: (12:01:33 AM): they are just hiding something
Me: (12:01:42 AM): most are sweet people underneath
Me: (12:01:59 AM): i know my best friend right now was a jerk to me in 6th grade
Her: (12:02:01 AM): thats true and i dont knwo them so i cant just judge but im pretty sure ill have a godo time and make plenty of friends
Me: (12:02:12 AM): see there ya go
Me: (12:02:16 AM): i like to hear that
Her: (12:02:22 AM): haha yea
Her: (12:02:24 AM): where ar eu going again
Me: (12:02:32 AM): ur definatly entering with the right attitude
Me: (12:02:37 AM): im at long beach
Me: (12:02:54 AM): got a condo too which is sweet with 2 other guys
Her: (12:02:59 AM): with zay
Her: (12:03:01 AM): d
Me: (12:03:03 AM): haha yeah
Her: (12:03:04 AM): that should be soo fun
Me: (12:03:20 AM): yeah i didnt wanna stay in a dorm there
Me: (12:03:30 AM): wanted to have my own place my own kitchen and my own room
Her: (12:03:55 AM): thats smart
Me: (12:03:59 AM): im the only child
Her: (12:04:01 AM): ill visit you there
Me: (12:04:06 AM): haha for sure
Me: (12:04:12 AM): its pretty good size
Me: (12:04:19 AM): first thing im gonna do is get a queensize bed
Me: (12:04:30 AM): and a kick ass mattress with lots of pillows
Her: (12:04:41 AM): haha just for u
Me: (12:04:50 AM): maybe
Her: (12:04:55 AM): hahaha
Me: (12:05:06 AM): im lookin forward to it
Me: (12:05:12 AM): but at the same time
Me: (12:05:15 AM): i dont want summer to end
Me: (12:05:34 AM): today i was kinda bombarded with memories
Me: (12:05:45 AM): since it has been 2 months since graduation
Her: (12:05:46 AM): memories from high school?
Me: (12:05:51 AM): yeah i was just thinkin ya know?
Me: (12:06:04 AM): i mean im not gonna be walkin down those blue carpeted halls this fall
Me: (12:06:10 AM): smelling the rug clearner
Her: (12:06:22 AM): yea i know what u mean i just thought about it too like im goign to miss sacred heart a lot
Me: (12:06:24 AM): sayin high to carlos the janitor or helping the new freshmen
Me: (12:06:41 AM): i guess that after 4 years
Me: (12:06:55 AM): u develop a bond with some people that is almost closer than family
Me: (12:07:01 AM): like brotherhood or sisterhood in a way
Her: (12:07:04 AM): i totally knwo what u mean
Me: (12:07:06 AM): you know what i mean?
Her: (12:07:13 AM): like my friends are the family i choose
Me: (12:07:15 AM): i mean realistically u spend more hours with them than u do at home
Me: (12:07:22 AM): yeah exactly
Me: (12:07:25 AM): family that you can chose
Me: (12:07:29 AM): *choose
Me: (12:07:59 AM): i was tempted to break open the year book
Her: (12:08:03 AM): yup like honestly ive been through my fair share of friends and i really know the ones who have my back and are like my family
Me: (12:08:22 AM): exactly
Her: (12:08:31 AM): so whats new>
Me: (12:08:36 AM): well let me get your opinion on something
Her: (12:08:42 AM): ok
Me: (12:08:53 AM): having a female opinion always helps shed light on situations that us males seem to constantly overlook
Me: (12:09:09 AM): so my best friend Evan
Me: (12:09:20 AM): ive known him since... before freshmen year
Me: (12:09:22 AM): in summer school
Me: (12:09:36 AM): he lately starting becoming flaky
Me: (12:09:40 AM): like hardcore
Me: (12:09:47 AM): i mean he woldnt show to things he said hed be at
Me: (12:09:56 AM): he would let us all down at the last minute
Her: (12:09:56 AM): did he giv eu a reason
Me: (12:10:02 AM): always some bs reason
Me: (12:10:09 AM): or hed tell me something
Me: (12:10:15 AM): and then tell my friend ashley something else
Me: (12:10:28 AM): so we figured
Me: (12:10:32 AM): what ever hes into a girl probably
Me: (12:10:37 AM): let him have his space
Me: (12:10:47 AM): but lately hes been trying to exclude me from things etc..
Me: (12:11:03 AM): so i kinda go pissed and told people that if he doesnt start shaping up
Me: (12:11:10 AM): we just gonna have to move on and stop relying on him
Me: (12:11:34 AM): he heard
Me: (12:11:40 AM): and said i was talkin shit about him bla bla bal
Me: (12:11:54 AM): i told him if he didnt know why i was mad at him then he was just plain stuipd...
Me: (12:12:05 AM): i didnt use that word but same idea
Me: (12:12:13 AM): so i havnt spoken to him in 3 weeks
Me: (12:12:21 AM): funny thing is
Me: (12:12:33 AM): all this is probably over a girl too
Me: (12:12:40 AM): that i helped set him up with
Me: (12:12:54 AM): and i dunno whether it should be me to apologize to him or vis versa
Me: (12:12:57 AM): what do u think?
Her: (12:12:59 AM): wow that sucks. do you still want his friendship?
Me: (12:13:07 AM): thats the million dollar question
Me: (12:13:15 AM): dont get me wrong i love people
Me: (12:13:23 AM): but i dont have a problem moving on
Her: (12:13:24 AM): its really funny because i was in a similar situation
Me: (12:13:29 AM): and tell me what did you do?
Her: (12:14:41 AM): girls are different from guys lol but i really think teh best thing for u to do it straight up call him or meet with him adn be like whats up obviously thigns have been weird but jsut so u know iw asnt talking shit its jsut things are different adn we all still want to kick it with you but not if your goign to keep flaking and i understand u have other thigns going on but be straight up about it and be like im nto saying this to cause drama or problems i jsut wanted to be straight up
Her: (12:14:51 AM): if he takes it the wrong way then his loss but at least u were being a man about it
Me: (12:15:27 AM): lol
Me: (12:15:34 AM): ive never heard a girl talk that way before
Me: (12:15:41 AM): straight up
Her: (12:16:10 AM): is it a bad thing?
Me: (12:16:18 AM): well its not a common thing
Her: (12:16:28 AM): im tryign to make it seem as if a guy woudl say it
Me: (12:16:38 AM): doing a good job there lol
Me: (12:16:56 AM): nah i just messin with yeah
Me: (12:16:59 AM): *ya
Her: (12:17:06 AM): haha well did i do a good job
Me: (12:17:24 AM): if i were in person with you right now id hug you
Her: (12:18:00 AM): haha why
Me: (12:18:16 AM): i act on impulse alot
Me: (12:18:20 AM): and thats just what id do
Her: (12:18:29 AM): haha kk
Me: (12:18:41 AM): so that answers ur question a little bit
Me: (12:18:54 AM): probably not in the normal way of course
Her: (12:19:32 AM): haha no worries
Me: (12:19:39 AM): i know
Me: (12:19:40 AM): =)
Her: (12:19:41 AM): but yea u really should be honest and nice about it
Her: (12:19:48 AM): but then again everyone tells me im wayyy to nice so idk
Me: (12:19:59 AM): oh yeah?
Me: (12:20:04 AM): your a jerk
Her: (12:20:15 AM): haha no im not
Me: (12:20:25 AM): prove it
Her: (12:20:56 AM): i apologized for u getting the wrong impression
Her: (12:21:01 AM): im not goign to li eu were kind of mean abou tit
Me: (12:21:07 AM): =)
Me: (12:21:13 AM): good enough for me
Me: (12:21:30 AM): dont trip
Me: (12:21:37 AM): i was just puttin you on the spot a little bit
Me: (12:22:08 AM): but as you said often straight up as u just demonstrated
Me: (12:22:10 AM): is the best way
Me: (12:22:31 AM): forget about that
Me: (12:22:46 AM): thats all kinda depressing stuff
Me: (12:22:47 AM): again..
Me: (12:23:08 AM): what are you plans for the rest of summmer?
Me: (12:23:23 AM): anything special in mind?
Her: (12:24:06 AM): haha ok dan..mmm im not sure usually family trips and stuff are always last minute and spontanious like the sd trip. but i think we shoudl get a bunch of ppl adbn go to santa barbara or soemthing
Me: (12:24:23 AM): did i offend you at all in my last statement?
Me: (12:24:26 AM): and be honest
Her: (12:24:39 AM): what statement?
Me: (12:24:47 AM): nah just me puttin ya on the spot
Her: (12:25:06 AM): i dont get how that was putting me on the spot lol like u honestly thought i was a flake and stuff and im not
Me: (12:25:26 AM): well i got the wrong impression
Me: (12:25:30 AM): and i read you wrong
Me: (12:25:44 AM): so i think it is my turn to apologize to you
Me: (12:26:05 AM): so i sincerely apologize for making an inaccurate assumption about you
Me: (12:26:34 AM): because if my original thought of you were true we wouldnt be having this conversation right now
Me: (12:26:55 AM): and i probably wouldnt have asked u to hang out again
Her: (12:27:20 AM): haha jsut like when u talked about my split ends lol
Me: (12:27:59 AM): mm yeah something like that
Me: (12:28:00 AM): =)
Me: (12:28:20 AM): did i ever mention that ur nose jiggles a little bit when u laugh?
Me: (12:28:26 AM): ops shouldnt have said that
Me: (12:28:27 AM):
Her: (12:28:48 AM): hwo would u know
Her: (12:29:01 AM): i dont think so lol
Me: (12:29:57 AM): mm
Me: (12:30:09 AM): did it really take u that long to think of a comeback
Her: (12:30:22 AM): are u being serious though
Me: (12:30:32 AM): look into my eyes
Me: (12:30:36 AM): O.O
Her: (12:30:45 AM): i cant tell lol
Me: (12:30:46 AM): haha
Me: (12:31:02 AM): well then well have to "remeet" each other in person now wont we?
Her: (12:31:14 AM): haha i guess bu tim going to be embarassed to laugh
Her: (12:31:19 AM): is that jsut a line u use lol
Me: (12:31:28 AM): a line?
Her: (12:31:35 AM): liek to get girls
Me: (12:31:38 AM): um no
Me: (12:31:46 AM): what you think im trying to seduce you?
Her: (12:32:13 AM): not at all
Me: (12:32:24 AM): of course not
Me: (12:32:27 AM):
Me: (12:32:54 AM): so you said your summer plans were to go to SB?
Me: (12:33:56 AM): mm ur probably watching urself laugh in the mirror right now..
Me: (12:34:01 AM): ima go get a cookie
Her: (12:34:19 AM): haha ok
Me: (12:40:10 AM): k back
Me: (12:41:13 AM): i was kidnaped by my aunt on the way back from the kitchen to inflate her mattress
Her: (12:42:13 AM): goo dboy
Me: (12:42:32 AM): lol?
Me: (12:42:36 AM): im a doggy now?
Me: (12:42:38 AM): wuff!
Her: (12:42:45 AM): haha no
Me: (12:43:01 AM): lol
Me: (12:43:09 AM): so what were we talking about?
Me: (12:43:21 AM): i got major distracted by my aunt
Me: (12:43:27 AM): shes crazy
Her: (12:44:37 AM): haha i forgot
Me: (12:44:44 AM): short attention span too?
Me: (12:44:45 AM): nice!
Me: (12:44:49 AM): air high 5
Me: (12:45:05 AM): thats why it records messages
Me: (12:45:33 AM): ah ok
Me: (12:45:54 AM): so wait what is going to be/ has been the highlight of summer so far?
Me: (12:46:10 AM): was it mexico?
Me: (12:46:18 AM): or still something ahead that might put that in second place?
Her: (12:46:33 AM): mmm probably mexico because it was relaxing or finally making a college decision or the parties and stuff where i got to see all my friends
Me: (12:46:50 AM): popular girl
Me: (12:47:14 AM): so when u go to parties
Me: (12:47:20 AM): and u first see someone
Me: (12:47:25 AM): what is the first thing you notice about them?
Me: (12:47:37 AM): it could be anything
Her: (12:48:25 AM): do u mean like a random person iv never met
Me: (12:48:28 AM): yeah
Me: (12:48:31 AM): just someone
Me: (12:48:41 AM): maybe its diff for guys and girls im not sure
Me: (12:48:45 AM): whats ur feedback?
Her: (12:48:47 AM): mm probably how the interact with me like if they give me a hug and stuff
Me: (12:49:03 AM): and what does that hug convey to you?
Me: (12:50:10 AM): i mean does it make you feel more comfortable around them the next time you see them?
Me: (12:50:19 AM): or does it portray confidence
Her: (12:50:20 AM): i dont get waht ur asking lol
Me: (12:50:36 AM): forget it
Me: (12:50:42 AM): for another time
Me: (12:51:20 AM): no need to be askin big questions here on aim
Me: (12:51:33 AM): aim is for small talk
Me: (12:51:37 AM): phone is for fluff talk
Me: (12:51:51 AM): and in person is for...semi real talk
Her: (12:52:38 AM): i agree
Me: (12:52:55 AM): mhmm
Me: (12:53:12 AM): so tell me something
Her: (12:53:23 AM): pick a topic and i will
Me: (12:53:23 AM): have you looked into the mirror in the past 15 minutes?
Her: (12:53:30 AM): hahaahaha no
Her: (12:53:35 AM): ive sat int eh same spot ont eh computer
Me: (12:53:38 AM): ok good
Me: (12:53:43 AM): really?
Her: (12:53:59 AM): haha yup how would u knwo my nose juggles
Her: (12:54:02 AM): *jiggles
Me: (12:54:10 AM): oh just things i pick up
Me: (12:54:47 AM): its good to hear that you put thought into what your going to say though
Me: (12:55:28 AM): like now for example..
Her: (12:55:40 AM): what do u mean lol
Me: (12:55:49 AM): just the time u take between sentences
Me: (12:55:58 AM): ur not as sporadic as some people
Her: (12:56:29 AM): haha because im watching videos i recorded this year
Me: (12:56:31 AM): ur spontaneous but you like to think things through before you say them
Her: (12:56:32 AM): bu tit ake time too lol
Me: (12:56:50 AM): videos from school?
Me: (12:57:00 AM): you like an amatuer speilberg or something?
Me: (12:57:45 AM): meh dont trip
Me: (12:57:51 AM): watch da vids
Me: (12:57:57 AM): well talk later
Her: (12:58:42 AM): o
Her: (12:58:43 AM): no
Her: (12:58:48 AM): i wanna talk too i can multitask lol
Me: (12:58:48 AM): ?
Me: (12:59:04 AM): lol
Me: (12:59:17 AM): ok
Me: (12:59:21 AM): ask me something outrageous
Me: (12:59:22 AM): anything
Her: (12:59:30 AM): are you a virgin
Me: (12:59:37 AM): i didnt say i would answer though
Me: (12:59:38 AM): =)
Her: (12:59:44 AM): hahahahaha
Her: (12:59:47 AM): good one you got me there
Me: (1:00:16 AM): so quick to come up with a question
Me: (1:00:20 AM): impressive
Me: (1:00:46 AM): takes most people a long time to think up a good one
Her: (1:00:51 AM): haha idk thats teh most outrageous thing i can think iof
Me: (1:00:56 AM): really??
Me: (1:01:05 AM): common i know ur head isnt that clean
Her: (1:02:01 AM): im clean
Me: (1:02:05 AM): something i found over the years is that is equally embarassing for the person asking the question as it is for the person being asked
Me: (1:02:12 AM): often more
Me: (1:02:14 AM):
Me: (1:02:17 AM): ur clean?
Me: (1:02:29 AM): have you showerd today?
Her: (1:03:26 AM): yup
Her: (1:03:30 AM): mentally clean too lol
Me: (1:03:44 AM): mm
Me: (1:03:46 AM): im sure of that
Me: (1:04:00 AM): did you know that 90% of women masturbate in the shower?
Me: (1:04:13 AM): and the other 10% hum a certain tune
Me: (1:04:23 AM): you know what that tune is?
Her: (1:05:00 AM): no
Me: (1:05:12 AM): hmm
Me: (1:05:16 AM): then you must be part of that 90%
Her: (1:05:24 AM): ive heard that before
Me: (1:05:28 AM): of course you have
Me: (1:05:31 AM): its a joke
Her: (1:05:35 AM): and each time i soemhoe forget the answer lol
Me: (1:05:39 AM): haha
Me: (1:05:44 AM): yet you answer no every time?
Me: (1:06:06 AM): sammy and charlie P have the best ones
Me: (1:06:11 AM): haha
Her: (1:06:45 AM): omg i know i went to school with them
Her: (1:06:48 AM): sammys hilarious
Me: (1:06:59 AM): his laugh is enough to get anyone laughing..
Her: (1:07:08 AM): hahaha seriously
Me: (1:07:11 AM): just hearing him laugh makes me laugh
Me: (1:07:12 AM): lol
Me: (1:07:53 AM): so alright you ask me something
Me: (1:08:02 AM): seems ive been the one askin you all night
Her: (1:08:09 AM): mmmm whats ur favorite memory
Me: (1:08:10 AM): whats on your mind?
Me: (1:08:14 AM): mm
Me: (1:08:17 AM): from school?
Me: (1:08:21 AM): or what?
Me: (1:08:37 AM): or anything?
Her: (1:08:44 AM): anything
Me: (1:08:47 AM): April 25th, 2008
Her: (1:08:57 AM): what happened
Me: (1:09:10 AM): La Salle prom at the aquarium
Her: (1:09:29 AM): what made it so great
Me: (1:09:33 AM): everything
Me: (1:09:38 AM): the setting was perfect
Me: (1:09:41 AM): the music was perfect
Me: (1:09:47 AM): the people were perfect
Me: (1:10:03 AM): its one of those momments when you can look into the eyes of your friends
Me: (1:10:09 AM): and see how much fun they are really having
Me: (1:10:20 AM): you want to say something but you dont have to
Me: (1:10:23 AM): its implied
Me: (1:10:33 AM): you are both grateful that the other is there
Me: (1:10:41 AM): right next to em side by side
Me: (1:11:12 AM): seeing everyone else having so much fun only enhances my expererience
Me: (1:11:27 AM): so im an extravert
Her: (1:11:28 AM): thats so deep
Me: (1:11:32 AM): hey you asked
Me: (1:11:33 AM): lol
Her: (1:11:36 AM): u shoudl write a book or soemthing
Me: (1:11:44 AM): nah i just know what i like
Her: (1:12:20 AM): but still ur good with words
Me: (1:12:33 AM): heh
Me: (1:12:38 AM): ive done alright
Me: (1:12:59 AM): i guess 4 years of english class eventually does something doesnt it?
Me: (1:13:06 AM): it better...
Me: (1:13:14 AM): or ima have to have a word with mr. williams..
Me: (1:13:19 AM): =)
Her: (1:13:29 AM): haha yea
Her: (1:13:31 AM): but still
Me: (1:13:41 AM): but still...?
Her: (1:14:52 AM): like i dont think its jsut english class i think that your jsut a sensitive adn deep person you know
Me: (1:15:17 AM): is that a compliment or an indicator of interest?
Her: (1:16:42 AM): make of it waht u will lol
Her: (1:16:47 AM): its just facts
Me: (1:17:05 AM): not bad with words urself either
Me: (1:17:14 AM): evaded the question entirely
Me: (1:17:22 AM): but thank you
Me: (1:17:23 AM): =)
Her: (1:17:53 AM): haha np
Me: (1:18:48 AM): so im gettin a bit tired
Me: (1:18:52 AM): think i might call it a night
Her: (1:19:00 AM): ok it was nice talking to you
Me: (1:19:09 AM): so when am i gonna see ya next?
Her: (1:19:26 AM): mmm maybe tomorrow are u goign to ian’s things
Me: (1:19:44 AM): mm no i cant tom i have prior engagments with friends
Her: (1:19:52 AM): good ur noit a flake lol
Her: (1:19:56 AM): ok well plan soemthign then
Me: (1:20:05 AM): i work this weekend
Me: (1:20:18 AM): but i should be off all next week
Me: (1:20:24 AM): if u dont mind me asking
Me: (1:20:31 AM): how adventurous are you?
Me: (1:20:35 AM): on a scale of 1-10
Her: (1:20:51 AM): mmm depends like if its illegal ill be scared to do it
Me: (1:21:00 AM): i dont break the law
Her: (1:21:02 AM): but id say around a 7 or 8 depending
Me: (1:21:03 AM): i only break the rules
Me: (1:21:09 AM): alright good
Me: (1:21:28 AM): anything above 6 is exactly what i was looking for
Me: (1:21:40 AM): so ur phone number?
Her: (1:21:40 AM): hahaha good
Her: (1:21:46 AM): dont u ahve it
Me: (1:22:00 AM): hmmm numbers have an uncanny way of being removed from my list
Her: (1:22:14 AM): did you honestly delete it?
Me: (1:22:18 AM): i dont know
Me: (1:22:29 AM): id have to check
Me: (1:22:32 AM): but im too lazy right now
Her: (1:22:37 AM): o wow lol ok then its ************
Me: (1:22:54 AM): i usually like to keep my contacts list small
Me: (1:23:01 AM): but my doors and bridges open
Me: (1:23:06 AM): if that makes any sense to ya
Her: (1:23:10 AM): once again good with words
Me: (1:23:18 AM): =)
Me: (1:23:25 AM): ill call you later
Her: (1:23:32 AM): kk night
Me: (1:23:39 AM): good night

This is really good aim game from what I have read so far. I will critique it tomorrow when i have more time.

thanks so much man... im when u read the rest u will be up to date. She has contacted me again and i wanna call her and set up a date. I was thinking of something like this:

*phone rings

Her: hello?
Me: so i had this crazy idea... that involves me picking you up at ur house at *undecided time* on *undecided date* at an undisclosed location for an incredible night out. Think you can handle that?

hey i didnt read the entire thing....but a big indicator from just scrolling down was from your Me to HER ratio. You seemed to do a lot more of the talking than she did, (invested more of yourself then she did). You gotta find a subject which she's passionate about so she can really open up. Trust me i still find it difficult...but when u hit something good u'll know by her response time/thoughts/how more open she seems.

that was unbelievable that you ran so many routines on her on aim and for the most part they worked. She almost caught you twice which was pretty funny. my aim and phone game is pretty brutal so I'm definitely going to use some of your material. The only thing I noticed is that you didn't let her talk alot and sometimes you got impatient when she didn't respond right away. I don't really know if this is a bad thing because I'm a pua noob and you handled it pretty well with some negs but it seemed a little bit excessive. props to you though, alot of this stuff is golden. if you can send me some more of your aim conversations or post them - I'd love to have a look

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