Ok, so here's the deal. I'm realizing something now. I'm pretty good at concepts now. I've internalized the concepts (in fact, I somehow caught a little bit of sex and the city and picked out all of the concepts the "cool mysterious guy" did. And I paid attention to his game--the character had a pretty good game. In fact, I noticed is was relatively down pat for Mystery Method day game.

See what I mean? I know the shit.

But do I make any approaches? No. Of course not. In fact, I'm somehow managing to panic my way into reading as much material as I can before I start to do it in the field.

I know what to do because of what I'm reading, but all of my information isn't doing anything--I'm too afraid to finish the StyleLife challenge because I know that my next task is to actually talk to people I don't know.

I'm trying to figure out why I'm still like this and what I can do to fix it.

Any ideas? Some guidance would be lovely.[/b]

No amount of motivating quotes will help you here. You simply do what you have to do. No excuses. Don't give yourself the option not to talk to people. Go to a public place and tell yourself you can't leave until you have opened 5 people and stay all day if you have to.

Here's a suggestion. Think of something you want to know more about. However, to find out more, you can't read, watch tv, or use the internet. What's left?

I suffer(ed) similarily for the longest time. I'd blame my upbringing, my personality type, everything and anything just so I wouldn't have to talk to a stranger. One day I woke up and decided enough is enough, I'm not getting any younger and I stopped caring. It's the only real solution. All my friends are AFCs so they'll be no help to me. I am on my own.

I won't meet anyone new if I don't open my mouth. I won't start a relationship with anyone if I can't say anything. I will be wasting the rest of my youth (I'm 26) if I don't just TRY. F*ck failure. The only failure I'll have is not trying. If I go through my whole life like this, I'll regret being a huge pussy until I die. Who wants to be a middle aged man with 2 decades worth of regrets? Not me.

The butterflies still exist, the AA is still present but at the end of the day it's not that big of a deal. You can 'fail' with someone you open too but I wouldn't call it failure. I call it experience. Each opening makes the next feel less scary. Then I use that momentum and try to fly with it.

I still remember the first chick I opened after learning of this community. I read and read material for months (prior to signing up here). She was unreal hot. A HB10 for sure. I felt as if I had this huge blanket of darkness come over me as I spoke to her, almost like a paralyzing fear. I likely didn't make sense and sounded like an absolute idiot. That was months ago and guess what? Her and I are friends now.

The hardest opening is the first. Then you realize you've been such an idiot for not doing it sooner.

hey mate ya AA sucks, but if you deal with it i think you will feel a LOT better.
Like who the fk cares if she rejects you, whats the worst that can happen man.
I use to be so scared of AA in bars and clubs i felt so shit at the end of the night, cause i diddnt approach anyone.

But what i realised is just man the fuck up, and approach. trust me, you will feel a LOT better..

If you see a girl and dont approach the percentage chance your getting her number/kiss close etc is ZERO..0. However if u just go and talk to her that odds will increase.

Hope that helps man

Hey;

I want you to sit down, have a glass red wine, open your lap top and write this:

Why Do I Need to Approach?

Then underneath that write:
1 - Sick and tired of masturbating
2 - I need a wonderful person in my life
3 - Many guys are getting laid while I am watching porn
4 - "SHE" is out there waiting for me to find her
5 - No one cares if you take 2 models home and fuck them, or if you wank for the rest of your life, YOU are responsible.
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.
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I think you get the idea. When you finish the list, watch this http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=b0ohkan_wpU

Then remember these phrases
1 - " You cannot learn surfing by reading about it.
2 - If I open 10 sets in one day(with ioi), I WILL get laid.
3 - Think about boob licking for 5 min, vividly picture it.

Follow the pattern above.

Everytime you dont approach for any reaso, you are cutting a wonderful person from your life.

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Nathan Griffin

So, I did my first approach and successfully number-closed in the process. This is pretty sweet.

My opener basically fell out of my mouth, and I know it wasn't the best opener I could manage, but it was day game and I guess that was on my side. Here is my first official field report:

Gotta tell you all about this, man. Coolest thing. So I just did my first approach and it actually... worked. I was surprised. I did a number-close. And it was the coolest. I was calm, it was cool. I was in charge of the frame. I made her a guest of my reality rather than a background member.

I've always been a fan of David Deangelo in that he's someone who gets that the world you live in is your own.

Anyway, back to this approach.

I walk up to an HB7; she was the lotto girl at the grocery store where I have just recently been unemployed by. It was my last day and I figure, hey, I'm never gonna see her again if this doesn't work. And if it does well then I'll be fucking her at some point if I feel like it. So I decided to open.

Breaking the three-second rule by about two hours and twenty-three minutes due to the fact that I still have a job to do, I walked over and opened with "hey, can I get your opinion on something?"

Lotto Girl: Sure, okay.

Me: (this simply falling out of my mouth. I wanted to do the jealous girlfriend opener, but somehow this just happened) My friend Chris and I were just talking on the phone and he asked me where I should get a tattoo. I gave him some artists (my tattoo was showing, btw) and where they were located and he started calling me an idiot saying he wanted to know where on his body he should put it. And well, I don't know a lot about tattoo placement; so where do you think looks good on a guy?

[I basically attacked her with words. But it was okay cause I was laid back. I wasn't simply talking at her. She LISTENED. That was cool.]

Lotto Girl: Oh I know some places maybe blah blah

Me: Ok thanks. Hey, I gotta get back to work in a second. What would you say if I told you I could tell you everything about yourself?

Lotto Girl: You just met me.

Me: All you gotta do is answer some totally unrelated questions. It's a visualization exercise.

Lotto Girl: I don't know.

Me: Well I thought you seemed adventurous, I figured I'd ask. (neg)

Lotto Girl (qualifying herself): Go ahead.

Me: You're driving in a desert and on your right you see a cube...

--CUBE ROUTINE--

Me: ...so that was the Cube. Would you say that's fairly accurate.

Lotto Girl: Dead on. Everything you said was perfectly right.

Me: Alright now, think of a number between one and ten and don't tell me what it is.

(lotto girl nods)

Me (quick,but deliberate. I made sure she could still understand me): Now our minds are linked and I will pick the number that first came to your mind when I told you to think of a number. All I want you to do is look directly into the middle of my forehead. Try to send that number to my mind using your thought. 7.

Lotto Girl: Holy shit!! How?

Me: All in the magic. Hey, I didn't get your name.

Lotto Girl: I'm Caroline.

Me: JJ. Pleasure's mutu--

Lotto Girl (cutting me off): Do you have any more magic tricks?

Me: Well, I think I have a card trick.

Lotto Girl: Do it!!

Me: Alright.

--673 King St. by James Galea--

Me: Well I've got to get going now. blah blah blah number closer.

Lotto Girl: Sure, it's (number)

Close'd

I like this game, but I am not going to a lot of field reports. I don't want to do it after a while.

Suggestions welcome and encouraged.

Way yo go man, good job.

Approach as many as you can, thats where the power is. You can settle down when you have 5 casuals

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Nathan Griffin

This is an amazing good post !