| Hey school boy,
you know what? All of us are shy at a point in our life, and it's okay. And do you know what? The women that we are attracted to are shy too, but because of socialization they don't have to approach so they don't have to face this shyness. The reason why you're still shy even though you're picking up girls and are having success is because you haven't improve and become a better version of yourself before and after picking her up. Learning how to be better with women and learning how to attract them to us and having fun with them is a process where we learn more about our self and strife to improve and become the best man that we can be. The thing is, most guys forget about this aspect and focus too much on what to say or how to say it. It's not about what to say or what to say next. It's not about telling stories and get her interested then get her to sleep with you. It's about improving yourself to ultimately learn to attract women into your life without having to use these pick up lines. My advice for getting over your shyness is simply relax and learn why you're shy. Before talking to women, how do you feel and what kind of thoughts popped in your head? Are these thoughts positive and productive or are they negative and destructive? Well if they're not the ideal thoughts, you gotta mentally and consciously change them right on the spot.
Example: I'm too shy, I don't know what to say, she might sensed that I'm awkward or some shit.
Transformed: I am a fucking man, I am a fucking soldier, I face shit tougher and more dangerous than a woman. What does she have that intimidates me? Good looks? Fuck I shouldn't be intimidated, I should appreciate it. She looks good, I'm a man, there's nothing wrong with appreciating it, there's nothing wrong with letting her know that I appreciate how good she looks. Who gives a fuck about if she thinks I'm trying to pick her up. I'm a man, and it is natural for man and woman to get together. If I show her that I am sincere and not jsut want to fuck her, she will see me as a genuine honest man who has balls, who has the fucking balls to come over and let her know I think she looks nice. I know I'm shy, I know I don't know what to say, I know that I'm not sure what will happen, and it's okay. It's okay to not know what to say and not know what will happen because I know that even if I don't know, something will happen, and whatever happens, happens because I have a mouth, i can talk, that's what it's for, and she can talk, and we're both human, so we're both social animals, and I know that I have the desire to love women and appreciate them, and make them feel loved, and I know that by knowing this, it will just show through my words and actions and she will know this and appreciate me and respect me for this. This is what I want, I want women, and I know I deserve her. I give myself permission to talk to her and see what happens. This is my life and I will live it the way I want.
and that's it. Usually from what I've heard it takes 4 to 5 positive remarks to cover up the negative remarks, but hell just have a freaking paragraph of positive thoughts running through your mind and you will be in good state to do whatever the fuck you want my friend. If you can take a negative thought and transform it into positive affirming thoughts, you'll be solid and you'll get over your shyness. I promise you. Take care, good luck, keep us posted.
- Nelson
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F*ck it, let's do it
"In order to fill your cup, you must first empty your cup" - Bruce Lee
"Becoming great with women is a by product of becoming great yourself" - Cory Skyy
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just flip this out and read it or make your own positive thoughts mentally if you need to. good luck