hey all

a few months ago, i remember going into town with the intention of doing some approaches, and not being able to do a single one.

Or even look people in the eye

Now, im much more confident when im out and I can approach, but its still quite a push. Ive still got to think in my head "damn now or never lets go" bla bla bla

my question is, how do i go from being able to approach but still finding it uncomfortable and seeing a hot girl and being able to approach completely naturally

im not looking for a magic pill, if its just to keep approaching over and over thats fine, but any other tips so im cutting down learning time ASAP?

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I refuse to let fear be a problem

Id rather die on my feet than live on my knees

i simply realized that approaching isnt natural , weve been raised to see it as such , and that it will always be that way.

instead of looking for it to be natural i simply remind myself that regardless of what hapens the positive results will always always out weigh the bad.

hell the worst reaction ive ever had was a HB7 replying to my opener with " sorry im not drunk enough " and even that makes me smile every time i think about it hahaha

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Seize the day

What I've been doing, is I've just been starting conversations with cute clerks and cashiers at the grocery store, gas station or anywhere retail. They ALWAYS ask "How are you today?" I always reply "Good, how are you?" And to that, they ALWAYS say "Im good". Me: "Really? Even though you're working?" And BAM! Conversation!

Yesterday after work, I stopped at a gas station and saw an HB8 (customer, not a clerk) looking at the candy bars. The price of those candy bars shot right up with the gas prices, and I casually mentioned to her how ridiculous the prices were. "Are these candy bars gold plated or something?" She smiled, but didnt say anything.

i feel the same way man, its just hard for me even though i havent failed. i had success with every single approach. it takes a long time for me to do it and i only approach if i really think i can do it. but still i need to work up the courage to do it.

I am not really that shy and like making friends alot but i get really nervous on approaching HB9 and 10 that i havent talked to for a while.

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Risktrump

The thing I did is I started with doing eye contacts. I start with holding it for half a second. Then, a second. Then, 2 seconds. At a point, I could hold it so long she would giggle, I would smile and that's it! No big deal. If she breaks eye contact, she's probably shy or just not that much into you.

I haven't practiced speaking to people yet, but soon I'll do lol

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No more excuses, make it happen.

I feel that if you can entirely erase any type of AA something is wrong with you

That's like a QB not having butterflies before a super bowl



The best way to deal with AA is to understand why it's there. It's natural and it's easier to deal with it when you accept the fact it will always be there.

Us men have a natural tendency to avoid rejection in a female. In our earlier era rejection would lower our social status. Today if we get rejected, big deal? if anything people may respect us more. We have an innate tendency to want to be accepted by the opposite sex thus we have a natural tendency to hesitate in approaching... nothing we can do about it, it's life




I know it seems counterintuitive but the best way to deal with it is to simply accept the fact it will always be there and let go.

To get over the fear of approach i went around saying hi to complete strangers and then i started asking random people if they wanted to touch my nipple. It realy works i recomend trying it.

lmao

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Risktrump

Try this: You see a hot girl and approach her before any kind of shit starts taking over your mind. You see her, you approach her. The more you wait, the more time anxiety will have to build up. Do not waste a single second. You see one and immediately go for it. If you are too afraid of hot girls, do this with anyone you see on the street. The key is to not hesitate for even a single moment. This will teach your mind not to fear that much... But yeah, it will never go away completely. If it does, you have successfully turned yourself into a sociopath. And never bother what to say. Say the first freaking thing that comes into your mind. Anything.

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What I like in life is nothing more but living it.