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Hey guys,
going to cut out all the bs.
I'm usually pretty good in real life, not perfect but have a decent foundation.
Though, when i mack online it's a different story.
I sit infront of a blank chat box thinking of what to reply.
go through about 5-10 possibly replies and rubbish them all, then i start to freeze up.
remind myself its only online and feel worse.
its the fact that being online, you get time to craft your responses.
the fact that this is the case, i put so much more pressure on myself.
is there any tips on maybe relaxing?
This may belong in online game.
cheers
It might belong in Online Game but it's still Anxiety. Just like in field the key is don't over think your responses. You really should be saying Online what you say in the field. The only exception to that are things that depend largely on proper body language to convey like Negs. You say a neg online she could take offense to it and it backfire cause of the way email and IM is. She can't read your body language to know you are just teasing.
With exceptions that involve the body language point it really should be the same. Try to just start typing and see what comes out instead of thinking too much about your response. Going in your head too much whether in field or online can really hamper your game.
Remember to just go with your gut reaction, it's often the best one. Remember as with any game there are more girls out there, if you mess up IT IS NOT A BIG DEAL.
CHAT