Shedding off the few extra pounds now. I'll be reaching my ideal weight in about 3 months.

However, I have an EXTREMELY LOW self esteem. Politely rejected for about 5 or 6 times (all of which I because I expressed desperation without knowing it at the time). Still a virgin.

I can trace my low self esteem to one brutal rejection back when I was 15; back then I was 5'1. I was or at least I think I was rejected because of my height (and weight at the time) a day before prom night.

I can communicate very well with women who aren't my type now. Manage to make them laugh a lot. Only problem is, most of them are taken (Not a problem for me though. It's just that I never attempted to steal a woman before; much less ones who aren't my type.). Whenever I'm faced with a woman of my type, I'm always speechless or when I speak, I always manage to make a fool out of myself.

I really dislike being with my friends when we're in a group because most of them are natural Alpha Male types. I'm fine when I'm alone with my female friends but when any one of my Alpha Male friends come along, they always manage to dominate the group.

I still have this inferiority complex from the height thing; regardless of what situation I'm in, I always manage to link all my failures (physical, social, academic, psychological) with my height. Any advice?

I feel you mate!

I was heavy and short when I was young. It caused low confidence, and in stead of gaming with girls, I act as the clown. The paradox is that girls will keep seeing you as a clown, and not as a potential bf. [Step 1: stop acting as a clown!].

Hooking up with girls is 20% looks (tall, athletic, clothes, etc.) and 80% approach (DHV, confidence, not neediness, interesting personality, etc.). So looks aren't that important, keep that in mind [step 2]. But it gives more self confidence. Go to a gym, ask for a work-out schedule, and be persistent. Or go out for running. Sport creates a happy feeling in the mind. So exercise [step 3]You are not tall? No problem, get yourself some heigh-increase soles, it will give you 3 inch extra. [step 4]

As Oprah said: 'you have to love yourself, before someone else will love you'. If you are not confident about yourself, girls will notice that. Keep this in mind [step 5]: A rejection is something EVERYONE will get. Even the top-PUA's here get rejected.

Height is given by nature, but selfconfidence is something we can TRAIN!
Set small targets everyday, write this down [step 6]. Everytime you reach the small target, it will give you a good feeling. And so on....

it means you have to work harder to get closer to women, that's all. attractive people have an easier time with the initial stage and they have more experience, but they have trouble with low self esteem and other things just like us. lots of attractive guys with ugly girls, attractive girls with ugly guys, and any combo of the two. i recommend you do CBT and Positive Psychology (get a therapist?) and also sign up for group dance classes and learn to lead. you will need to dress up and take a shower brush your teeth get a hair cut use cologne etc. before you go to the dance class and bring extra shirts cuz girls hate sweaty shirts. but after a year or two, once you learn to lead women in dancing, the dancing will be a great DHV and anyone you tell you are taking up dancing as a hobby will be more interested in you, and you will pick up a skill and meet lots of women. only thing is take cheap group dance lessons and go social dancing, do not take private lessons ever cause thats how the isntructors make big bucks and it's kind of a scam.

Useful tips for over weight guys as well http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=b0ohkan_wpU

Hope it helps

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I too am short, only 5 ft 4 in and saw a great response to the "How tall are you?" question... He said he responds with...

"I'm 5 foot AWESOME... and I work every bit of that awesome!"

Women don't care if you're short, or fat, or ugly even... They just care about how you make them feel... If you can make them feel good about themselves then they will feel good being around you... and that's what you're aiming for...

I also recomment reading some self development books (Especially Neil Struss's Stylelife Challenge) and really sitting down and working out an Identity Statement on paper... What do you do well..?

I felt horrible about myself after a tumultuous relationship and didn't date for years because of it... Eventually though I rediscovered all the great things about me... my writing, my education, my musical talent, my sense of humor and dormant social skills... u have to like u just the way you are first, then others will like you too... =)

Lovecraft...

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How can a woman be expected to be happy with a man who insists on treating her as if she were a perfectly normal human being. - Oscar Wilde

Thanks Wazzer!! There is nothing like being pround of yourself. Please don't let nobody put you down. You really don't know what you will be missing out by just trying to be someone else.

Please always be proud of yourself. It does not matter how you look. Tall or short, slim or fat.

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I have a friend who's 5'3 and is better at picking up women then most people.
Probably better than me too, and im a pua.

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I'm walking on sunshine! ;D