I'm hoping this is at least somewhat common, but I have this issue where in conversation, my mind will just go blank, and I won't have anything to say. Then later on, I'll replay the interaction and then be able to think of something easily, and I can't understand why it wouldn't just pop into my head to begin with. I'll get the same thing in class. I'm an English major, so for instance in an upper level lit class, which is discussion based, I won't be able to think of anything to say. Even when I've read the shit and taken the time to think about it critically, I can't think of anything in the moment. But before and after class, it's not a problem. Is this just a general anxiety issue, maybe something that needs medication to fix? Something I can do on my own? Maybe a bit of both?

You can do it on your own. It sounds like nerves.

Perhaps just try to can a few distractions while you think of something to say. Stuff like introducing your friends, 5 random questions or other games that you know the rules to. You're leading the conversation so if you want to change it, then do.

This is one reason that indirect methods with routines and techniques are so popular. I kind of think of them as a crutch now but walking with a crutch is better than standing still.

_________________

I'm a winner - I am going to win.