Just last night, I was expecting to kiss a girl at midnight and I wasn't sure if it was going to happen or not (of course it didn't). We made out a few nights before but she wasn't being too responsive last night or showing much interest. It was minutes before midnight and I got all anxious and went to the bathroom and threw up. I threw up this morning after trying to eat some breakfast as well. I get worried wondering if things will go as planned when they are really important to me or even after things don't go as planned as I want.

Usually when I worry excessively about something and I try to eat a lot of times I have to go and throw up. What the f*ck is wrong with me? Should I go see a Psychologist? Are they expensive?

No you don't need to go see a psychiatrist. You'll just throw money out the window.

You are throwing up because of high anxiety. Anxiety is not a disease, it's a condition that alot of people have to some extent.

What happens to your body when you are anxious, you get a fight or flight mechanism, that means your body gets ready to face a threatening situation. Your heart starts to race, you get sweaty, you breathe heavily. This is nothing dangerous, your body is actually protecting you.

You probably throw up because of the tight stomach, I think somewhere down the line your body doesn't want you to put food in it, because it probably thinks it's not a priority right now. It happens, it happened to me. I eat alot and someday I got really anxious over a girl situation, I felt sick, I ate one fucking banana and threw up.

i actually felt sick from my anxiety a long time ago it was bad every time i worried i felt sick then i tried CBT and it went away.

1 you write down all bad experieces in your life from earliest to latest

2 when you write what happend make it as clear as possible, put all those shit feelings into your writing, the more shit feelings you put in the better.

3 write down along with your feelings what you were thinking when the situation happend

4 then skip a line after you finished and write down your beliefs about the situation until you feel satisfied and settled

5 you can thank me because you dont have see a a therapist and waste money

im new in this forumn and i know what im talking about

It's a normal reaction you get, when you're scared of something, everytime this happens your body is pumpin massive amounts of hormones (mostly adrenalin) into your blood stream, but that is totally normal, you don't have to see a doctor about that, it's the same thing, before you go bungee jumping, you look down and say to yourself "WTF am I doing up here what if a rope snaps, shit", even though there is more likley, that you'll win a lottery, before the rope snaps. I can say that everybody in this communitiy has gone thru this point where you are going thru and also I'm going thru, I still feel anxiety when approaching, very often so badly, that I can't even approach, because my head fucks me up and I just start to breath heavily, sweating, it kindda feels like I'm super high on drugs, because of adrenalin. And I was looking for something to solve this, but I discoverd (just a few days ago), that there is no shortcut to this, there is no way around approaching and anxiety, you just have to barrel thru and I belive, that everybody in this community, that is a good PUA will tell the same. I just hope, that I will barrel thru, because it's scary at the beginning, but I am optimistic.

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I've had the throwing up thing with women before. For me it was multiple factors all working together. (1) something I ate or drank. Cheap wine typically. (2) horrible life stress. Was living with my parents, dead broke, uncertain career prospects. (3) Wasn't sure of the morality of trying to bang 2 different women on 2 successive nights. Was gonna go for it, but it probably made me uneasy. (4) I was probably sick with a touch of the flu, and not listening to my body because I wanted that date. So... I met this gal... then ended up throwing up in her apartment all night. Oh well, live and learn! I think "bit off more than I could chew" would describe that one.

Well, your body can be a pretty strong motivator too. At another point in my life, I had a serious panic attack caused by a strong cappuccino + lots of dark chocolate + big unemployment pressure + a possible game gig in South Africa, pretty much the opposite side of the world from Seattle. It seriously freaked me out. I didn't really want to pick up and move to deal with it, but I was going through the motions because I was desperate for money. I decided, if my body ever rebels that strongly against having to do something, then I don't have to do it. My body gave me permission to say "No." Never had a panic attack like that since then.

Dont waste your money on counselling or a shrink its a waste of money for the LONGTERM SPAM of anxiety because the cause of anxiety is a subconscious habit and a responce triggered by an almond sized organ in the brain called the amygdala which can only be reset back to a normal responce level by diverting and distracting your mind giving your sunconscious a rest.its that simple.
A shrink will probably just prescribe medication with a high chance you wont come off.
What anxiety will do is have you try to be everything to everyone and try to micromanage how someone precieves you and usually when your most anxious it has the effect of seeming a little awkward or arrogant the complete opposite or what was intended by all this calculated thinking and sensations.If youve got high anxiety id say your more your real self when youve stayed up all night and your now on a tired buzz laughing having fun and your mind is relaxed and drifting so remember be him more often.
peace.