One way to overcome social shyness/anxiety



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PostPosted: Fri Dec 03, 2010 1:49 am 
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This is something I've recently tried and started doing. It really only applies at the gym but could easily be used in similar situations.

For those that go to a gym with a spa/sauna room, next time you go to the gym sit in these rooms, if you don't already, and start a conversation with whoever and however many people are in the room with you by simply saying "How's everyone doing today?" Its a simple easy opener and invites everyone to the conversation. Follow it up with "You know I come into this room everyday and notice that people sit in these small rooms with other people and say nothing to each other. We all go to the same gym, why not at least get to know some people while were here." This is very true, and to me its strange to sit in the same room with people and say absolutely nothing.

This helps with being able to start conversations in other situations. Its an easy way to boost conversational skills because you realize its just simple conversation. If there's a girl in the group it gets her attention on you because it shows you aren't afraid to talk to people and that you have some confidence and she will begin to relax allowing you to game her later. You can also carry the conversation by just asking some questions about people, talking about yourself, etc. Just be friendly and talk until you're ready to bounce then leave with saying it was nice to meet you. Be sure to introduce yourself. You can talk about anything and people will respond and you will begin to relax.

This can also be done in small rooms with groups of people that are just hanging around. Just remember that everyone is equal. No one is better than you and you are no better than anyone else. Doing this will make it easier to approach women, and if they don't reciprocate conversation then they have the problem. You don't and after you leave you will leave feeling confident because you were able to start up conversation and control it. Not many people can do that. You will also be more relaxed when talking to anyone in other places. It just becomes fun and games after a while. Its very important to not hesitate because hesitation kills. The longer you hesitate the less likely you are to speak.


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PostPosted: Wed Feb 02, 2011 8:46 pm 
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you know you actuaslly right i was at thev us embassy a while ago applying for a student vissa and everybody was sitting in a room nervous about the interogation a girl next to me was litterally shaking the whole row of chairs, everybody became locked in their anxiety as soon as i asked so what you studying in the US everybody just opened up talking about what they going to do eventually 7-8 people were just talking and this whole group emerged. Thats how you break the iceberg


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