Now that I have read the game and a lot of other material, I have opened my eyes for some very huge sticking points that I have.
My biggest problem is that I am so conscious of my own actions that I act "weird" around people - even my close friends.
It is the kind of self consciousness I don't know how to "cure".. I am not afraid if they think I am stupid, boring, ugly, uncool etc. because (i believe) my self esteem is very good! I am afraid that I will make THEM feel awkward.
My awareness arises when I am the center of attention of somebody - be it a group or just 1-on-1, but it is definately worst 1-on-1.
It is hard to explain so let me try with an example:

Today I was engaged in some casual conversation with a group of 3 friends from work. While we were joking around telling stories about funny/nostalgic video games I thought of a funny story .. However, after about 10 seconds into the story I became the center of conversation and started thinking about my posture, eye contact, facial expressions etc. etc. etc. I could see the others began feeling awkward (they had fidgety movements, stone face expressions, stiff body language and they all looked me straight in the eye) so needless to say, the story was completely ruined. I packed a good punchline though and got a sympatetic laugh from them...... Afterwards the SPAM was awkward like I had just said something wrong but the conversation between us then continued and after a little while I joined again and we laughed/joked like we used to - without the awkwardness..

So my "problem" is that I make OTHERS feel uncomfortable.. I don't care if they think I am stupid, but I am afraid that I, by being awkward, will make THEM feel bad...
Nothing is worse than making others feel awkward!

Like I mentioned, I get the problem when I am center of attention in a group for a (long) time but the problem is actually even worse when I am 1-on-1 with people. I tend to smile a lot, laugh at their stories/jokes and I can clearly see when they are enthusiastic about something - so I show interest in their subject by asking good questions and tell good stories , yet somehow I manage to make them feel awkward - which makes me feel awkward...

After that story you might find it hard to believe I am actually a very social person. I think it's inside me since a) I was very popular when i was younger and b) after just 1-2 beers I have no problem being the center of attention, entertaining 4+sets with good stories and genuine DHV humor. I also have no problem talking 1-on-1 with girls I just met... But when I know the girls well, or they are a part of my life, I have problems talking to them...

I hope I find a sollution to my problem somehow and I welcome all advice !!!!

I used to have the same problem. I knew I was a good looking guy and everything, but I felt so awkward all the time. As much as you may not think it's true, this is a self-esteem issue.

Try visualizing yourself as the ideal you. If you truly believe that you are the best looking, most charming guy in the room at all time, you will lose all of that awkwardness (doesn't matter what people used to think of you, just tell yourself that you are the man). You will exhude confidence that you've never experienced before. Be an optimist, not a pessimist. Remember, this is YOUR life. All these people around you are just characters in your very own movie. It's your reality; sculpt it however you wish. Don't waste life worrying about how other people think about you.

This REALLY helped me, I hope it does the same for you

Just want to say thank you for the responses. I have become aware that it is indeed a self-esteem issue and I have begun working on it treating it as such and have already - believe it or not - experienced great progress.

What I have done with succes is what s3aSon3d wrote.
I try to visualize myself as the amazing person I want to be/am and I realise that I shouldn't worry about what other people think about me.
I feel there is still a long way to go but I have also realised that it is not my persona that's a problem - it's just confidence and bad habits.

i have the same problem. i act so different at home than at school. and at school i feel so awkward sometimes its weird

You may, like me, be so much up in your head that you act unnatural. When these "awkward" moments happen I noticed that I am always thinking of the "right" response.

I am still battling this but I have found a couple of methods that I have started using.

First of all, I visualise myself being awesome.. Often. Many times/day I give myself affirmations that I am indeed a very awesome person (Look up affirmations and NLP if you don't know what I'm talking about).

I do little comfort missions every day now - such as walking up to a stranger and asking a random question, then try and see how long I can keep the conversation going before it gets REALLY awkward lol.. Or I look every single stranger passing me directly into the eyes until they break eye contact (something I have never actually done before.. And I haven't been approached by any of them yet so it's really not that dangerous )

I have started to realise that it's not always me that's the problem - sometimes others act awkward as well.. Sometimes much more awkward than me; and if I don't react to the awkwardness of the situation at all or just pretend that the situation is perfectly normal and a bit funny, then the mood of the conversation immediately gets better.

Lastly, and most importantly, I try to implement the "25 thing NOT to do" from Tyler D's archives. They DID get me a little more into my head, but also made me conscious of some very easy things to change.. To make me seem more comfortable - thus making other feel at ease as well..

A little update on my situation

Like I wrote in the post above I had decided on some techniques I would use to get better socially and immediately saw an effect.

So this was MY medicin:

Affirmations : I still do affirmations, but I do it subconsciously now because I have realised that I am ok as I am.. No fuck that, I am fucking awesome In the beginning I litterally said to myself that I was awesome and I focused on all the positive things about myself. It has resultet in a state change of my personality - I am a lot happier now and I always focus on positive things about myself. When I occsasionally fall back and focus on the negative - and I catch myself doing it - I shake my head and say fuck that, laugh and focus on positive things again.
It worked on me so if you have a similar problem it might work on you too.

Comfort missions: I don't do weird comfort missions anymore. I don't know if they did anything (they probably did but it's hard to put a finger on it) but I know that SOMETHING worked because I feel so much more at ease around people now.

Don't give a fuck: what I have realised now which some of you mentioned is that my socially awkwardness came from being shy/having low self esteem. I still am shy and I still have problems wiht my self esteem sometimes but I am able to control it so much more now than I was when I wrote about the problem. The key for me NOW is the "Don't give a fuck" attitude. I don't mean it like "I don't care about your problems".. Not at all, what I mean is I don't give a fuck about what people think of me when I KNOW that I am not acting weird, stupid or jerky.
I can lean back in all interactions and let them flow - sometimes I have to throw in new topics to talk about because THE OTHER person kills the thread... tsk tsk.. What can you do.

Getting Out there: Going out a lot DEFINATELY helped me. I've been in bars or clubs with friends and/or wingmen at least twice every week since I started this topic and it is what helped me the most. Talk to people. Interact. I felt shy at first. Felt stupid for approaching girls but I eventually got over it. I did it to improve other areas of my game and the result was that it improved THIS.

Get a life: Back when I started the topic my life was the same as it had been the past 6 years. I would play computer, study, go to school and go to bed. I would LIE if I said changing this didn't have an impact. In fact that's probably what made the greatest change. I now started on a lot of personal projects. Fitness (I never excersied before.. at all), game (the female hunting-kind. Yes, I do it a lot so it counts as a hobby now), archery (pretty nerdy but I found that I love it and I wanna hunt deer with a bow some day), Dancing (Salsa. I never danced before - it felt weird at first but the people there were really friendly and the girls pretty and fit... Victory). So my weekly schedule is now full of personal activities that challenges myself and allows me to feel good about myself and have fun!

I can have longer conversations with anyone 1-on-1 now without feeling awkward. The conversation might be awkward, but I don't get that blushing feeling anymore. I know it's just because the two of us don't vibe very well that day or on that topic.

I am not 'cured' yet. But if you saw the changes I've seen, you'd say I'm on the right path.

I hope all of you get over this problem that you have and if my post helped you, great

Wif Wuv,
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