Hey guys just recently trying to get into the whole pick-up lingo scene and I have to say that I am kinda a shy guy with not so good social skills, I grew up with social anxiety and although it is not as bad as it was before (I would be really quite not sayin much people probaly mistaked me for a mute lol) Im still not where I have the potential to be I feel as if im capable of being "mr. charisma" which at certain few times I am but I want to be that guy all the time but in the back of my head for some reason I think that I grew up a shy guy so I should always be a shy guy.

Dude im nearing my 30's and still have AA and shyness sometimes. The best advice I learned from these forums was to work on your shyness using baby steps. example:
week 1: asking people for the time, directions etc
week 2: saying hello to any and everybody, cashiers, co-workers, anyone you come in contact with. make sure they hear you, speak loud enough
week 3: holding a conversation with these people
Depending on how shy you are and how many people you come in contact with, you might have to extend the weeks to months or vice versa. And don't just focus on HB's even though this is a majority of our goals. Do this with guys, girls, the old lady at the bus stop, the security guard... EVERYONE. The goal is to get comfortable talking with ANYBODY. Sooner or later talking with women with no problem.

The best way to overcome shyness is to just interact with as many people as you can, try talking to as many random people as you can everyday, talk to cashiers, ask people the time directions etc.

When it comes to approaching women - let me tell you shit AA thing is rubbish. Firstly the horror scenarios you're imagining in your head will never happen, most of the time when you approach a girl it goes completely different from how you thought it would.

Also when approaching be totally outcome dependant, what that means is that you shouldn't give a crap what the outcome of the approach is - just do it!

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A mentor told gave me advice that killed my AA on the spot and instantly improved my game when I accepted it. When AA does come back I simply remember it and I'm back in control.

1) He told me that EVERY TIME you see a women that attracts you even a little you should at least acknowledge her, because she could be the one in 5 billion that is destined to be your soul mate.

Watch the film the "Notebook" And think what the man would have lost if he had never approached his "wife to be" at the carnival just because he was scared or if she had a rich boyfriend? What if Romeo was walking through the masquerade ball to approach and initiate one of the most compelling romances ever, but instead saw Juliet froze half way across the dance floor because of AA. Then opted to go home to read a book? Now every time you see a beautiful women think of all they could have lost because of AA and the ENDLESS ROMANTIC POSSIBILITIES you stand to lose because of AA. This will motivate you to start a convo

2) Always be your best self because the one moment you look sloppy could be the moment your soul mate happens to cross your path she will not be attracted and you might never have the opportunity to see her again.

When I do get AA before approach I think this girl just might be the one in 2 billion that is meant for me. If I don't approach now my future wife may just walk out of my life. The fear of what I might miss over comes even the worst fear of rejection.

And every morning that I wake up and get dressed I think WHAT IF today is the day I'm supposed to meet my bride to be, then I make sure I look and behave my best.

Hope will drive you forward and keep you happy while you prepare for that faithful moment.

Practice your game as much as possible so when you do meet your future Juliet you will do everything perfect and you'll have everything you wanted.

And every conquest, rejection, mess up, # close, K close, f close ,friendly conversation, and friendship is just practice to make you better before you meet her.

And if anyone thinks my post is too idealistic or romantic and only wants women for sex then just go see a hooker or beat it to porn. Pickup is about becoming a better gentleman, finding and developing relationships not just random lays.

enrique


That was a superb way to put it, even i, who has been anxious for like my whole life, is thinking in a different way right now.

If i could just remember the things in that post, and keep telling it too my self before the first couple of approaches, well then i guess i am already two steps ahead..

Thanks! - even though it wasn't me who had posted the question (:!