Hi.
I have some big issues but I'd like to talk about motivation.

I've noticed that I'd really like to talk to people, go out, have fun etc but that's only in my head. It's just a logical decision but I'll do nothing. I was describing it before like I make a logical decision to do something but I lack the emotin to do it. I see emotions as a force and logic as a direction where to point this force. I was talking today with few friends about this, not directly, and I came to conclusion that all this is just a lack of motivation. I know, it sounds scary but that's just it. I know that for average men the thought of approaching some hot woman talking to her and eventually have sex is really empowering image.

It is for me too but It's not enough to actually do it. As I said, I thought of it from a different angle but since I've identified it what it really is I learned that some other guys that I know whithin and outside PU community have this same problem.

So my question is, how do you motivate yourself enough to do things? For example I sometimes start to cry when I imagine myself at age 30(I'm 24) and I'm at the very same place in life as I'm right now. I get really strong negative emotion from this that I'm wasting my life but it's still not enough. I just can't get angry enough.

You may say that I just need to go out more and it will eventually dissapear but no, that's not the answer(for me anyways). Maybe I'm looking for some magic pill that I'll never find, I dont' know. I can have conversation with anybody, yes I can't approach on street and I hate clubs, tha't because I'm kind of used to tranquility(?) and lonelyness. I know I don't have to completly change my life and personality, I'd just like to be able to talk and have fun with whoever I want.

You may and may not understand what I'm talking about. I 'dont know. Anyway have a nice day.

I'll try and help you, I have been in the same situation before - absolutely no motivation whatsoever.

Mine stemmed from having no goals. Actually I say no goals, I did have goals but didn't do anything about. After quitting my job I kept saying I would get a job, get friends, get a girlfriend but I done none of it. I thought I had to get a job before I done anything else, then get friends and a girlfriend because I didn't want to to appear to them like a bum. Yet still I wouldn't apply for jobs. I would get up, watch tv or go on the internet, eat and sleep. That was my life.

This lonely, pathetic existence couldn't even motivate me to do the things I wanted to do and like you I DID want to do them. The problem was i'd got into a routine, a horrendous routine of doing next to nothing and I can't stress how hard it was to break the cycle. I don't know too much about your situation, but I basically had to motivate myself to do the simplest of tasks, I don't know if you're quite that bad.

I started off by planning my day the night before. Yep that is how pathetic I was. I mean doing simple tasks like going to the shops was an eventful day for me, but I had to start becoming more sociable. I started applying for jobs everyday before I eventually got a small shitty job but hey, I was making money. From there I made a few "acquaintances" but nobody I'd call a pal. To try and get friends I went to the gym - and it worked. Just going somewhere where everyone had a common interest felt good. The gym also helped a lot more with motivation which is where I am at now. I admit i've always been a little fearful with women but I have started just saying hi to random women in the street and asking for the time. It's a start I suppose and I am still learning even how to act "normal" around people.

You have to find why you have no motivation - is it through fear perhaps? You may just have to take the plunge at some stage and go for it. Just ask a random woman for her number and see if it gives you a feeling of motivation, you might just need a little incentive to start you off.