I am 20 years old. I havent had any friends for 4-5 years and never had a girlfriend. I have spent a shitload of money on prostitutes , cause for me its the easiest and the best way to get laid. Needles to say its very expensive especially if you have no job and live on wellfare.
I dont have a particular problem with talking to women , I have a problem talking to ANY stranger no matter what their sex is. Its weird cause I have had sex with maybe more than 10 prostitutes in my life atleast 10 , and I dont have any problem interacting and talking to them about normal and sexual things. Incredibly easy.

I just discovered this forum and I read about the method of saying hi to every woman you meet in 30 minutes. Needles to say I gave it an halfass try twice actually today. First I was just walking through the neighborhood and almost immediatly when I walked out the door there was a young woman probably my age or younger with a dog and I saw her looking at me. Atleast thats what I thought cause she and I were wearing sunglasses. It came so sudden that I couldnt say hi to her, I was in a small shock and she was the only attractive woman I encountered during my walk. I felt quite bad afterwords.

So few hours later I decided to go for a bike ryde mainly for the sake of exercise. I cycled through this park filled with youth of my age and younger and I felt really really shitty about myself, because I saw all these guys with pretty women and I dont have ANYBODY not even friends. These kind of situations get me really depressed and somewhat suicidal. I even noticed a really good looking girl checking me out but as usual I couldnt even say hi.
Later I even went for a few beers in the centre and as usual I couldnt talk to anyone , but there werent anyone to talk to. For the first time I noticed someone really checking me out! Unfortunally it was a fat and short haired bar tender.

I actually like a some chubby girls , but she was quite nasty! I also like some older women like 35+. Still theres this huge barrier between me and other people. It doenst make it any easier that women in bars are never alone, they are in big groups often involving other men! I just want to get laid FOR FREE! Lack of a girlfriend or friends doesnt really bother me if I can get laid once in a while.
And I am a good looking guy. about 70, kg / 180 cm. I have gained some weight lately but I am trying to get it off and also stop smoking. Now three days with no smoking.
I gotta try saying hi to chicks tomorrow. As I read about it , it seems so easy! I know I can easily do it , but I always start thinking how stupid it looks or sounds when u dont know the person.
I dont know if I should seek some psychiatric SPAM as I have been quite depressed lately and thnking about killing myself or about how meaningless everything is.... Its been like this for years and I have the feeling that I dont have anything to loose so I might as well embarras myself in front of girls.

edit: and I would like to add that I havent even tried approaching girls before. Well there was this one girl in school who I liked for a while. I even asked her if she had a boyfriend....then long silence....
later I was very glad I never asked her out and I still am cause she was kinda weird also she was a couple years younger than me and obviously not interested. And I am more into older women.

Alot of us have many of your problems, lookup what are social proofs on this forum that will help also learn the old adage "fake till you maske" if you have no social life women will not find you attractive.

Hey Fishermans friend, have you joined a gym or health club? If not, this can be a great vehicle for meeting both men and women and make new friends. An easy opener to get started would be to go on a bench press and ask someone (guy or girl) if they can "spot" you. You will get a yes almost every single time and you can get a conversation going right away like;

"im looking to bulk up what routines/ exercises could you recommend?

"im looking to improve my fitness, what are your eating and exercise habits like?

you can create dozens of these conversation openers and everybody there wll virtually have the same interest as you, and thats to "look good and get fit and healthy"

next time you see that person you can say hi, and talk about those routines and exercies that you checked out

Also doing a "group" exercise class can be another great option as well.

soon you will become a familiar face and people will recognise you and you can converse with people with ease in time.

I had the same problem as you. I avoided people and this people avoidance made me more uncomfortable around people which drove me back into isolation. It became a self fullfilling prophecy. It got so bad that I began to have panic attacks when talking to strangers. I was depressed, lonely, and really didn't want to to live anymore. I knew I had to get a handle on this or die.

I saw a couselor and she told me that living in isolation just makes the problem get worse and worse. She put me on Zanax, told me to join a gym and approach just one guy per visit and start a conversation. (She told me to start with guys and then we would start with the girls) which is REALLY what I wanted to fix to begin with ( like you). So I decided to run opinion openers on one guy at a time, stay in the conversation as long as I felt comfortable then eject. It worked. I started with the guy at the front desk. "Hey man, what's the single best excersise for developing upper chest" or "What's better for legs, the leg press or squats?". Pretty soon I was walking up to guys working out and running opinion openers on them. When I got comfortable shooting the shit with guys I moved to girls. I'd observe here over several visits tyring to find a situational opener to approach with. "Hey I noticed you have an Auburn shirt on, Are you an Auburn fan?. Her: Yes. Me: Waaarrrr Eagle then I'd eject (Auburn is a college and I"m an Auburn fan). OR I saw you watching the tv monitor about the Lindsay Lohan going to jail thing. Do you think she should do the WHOLE 90 days or just some? Her: I think she should do the whole 90 days. Me: I agree. If you play you gotta pay. Then I'd eject.

I'm much more comfortable now with talking to strangers and I can even approach women in the gym to shoot the shit. I'm not trying to hit on them or run game yet, but I'm much happier, comfortable, and hopeful than I was.

Yeah Davwil777 100%. You gotta escalate, get comfortable in social situations and THEN game. Approach everyone within 3 seconds for a while and it will make life so much easier when you go in the field.

But the most important thing is to stop caring what others think of you. Just try not to be too much of an asshole and before you know it, you'll be a PUA.

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